TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

@PurpleFushia opk wise I have Internet cheapies and the basic clear blue digital (just has an empty circle and then when positive a static smilie)

I tend to use the IC's from cd9 usually after work so late afternoon, then start the CB cd12 with fmu and a ic in ther afternoon. This cycle I had a negative cb with fmu on cd13, but the ic that afternoon was very close to positive so I did another before bed and it was positive, CB the following morning was positive too, but by that afternoon the ic was starting to fade so I think my surge prob started around 8.30pm and lasted until maybe early afternoon the following day-so I assumed ovulation happened cd15. Hope that helps X

@MrsLCW Amazing, we needed some good news. So pleased for you!

@Jessabean I'm starting to feel more normal in terms of no more pain and the bleeding seems to be coming to an end. After my SMM I bled for 3 weeks so I'm grateful that this looks like it'll be just over 10 days. Still feel so anxious and my chest is tight but I know in time I'll start feeling stronger.
The dog is fully grown now, she's already been with another person for her first year. She's now moving to our area for her advanced training. I'll post a picture when she arrives on Monday but won't post her name as anyone who works there can trace back to me!

@MisBit1 I've literally only finished counselling for the first loss. My work encouraged me to do that as it was paid for by them. Can't believe my last session was me saying I was pregnant again and so happy... it really didn't last long! I'm not sure I want any more as I didn't feel it helped. My work have already reminded me I can have more sessions!
I think I've worked out why my brother and sister in law ignored me at the weekend... I told my brother about the miscarriage but told him I wasn't telling my mum or sister until my sister was home from hospital. So they were probably unsure who in the room knew. I'm hoping that's all it was but my SIL hasn't text me this time. She did the first time.
Glad things are going well for you 😊

@robin78 oh don't worry about the name. I've only been tagged wrong once lol! I'm really struggling to believe that two is just bad luck but we have agreed we will try again after one period. So hopefully end of August. I'm not mentally ready for this but I don't think I will be for a long time and I don't want to delay it.
My concern is my job though. I can't keep having two weeks off every few months because I've had another miscarriage. I'm not sure where I stand but my manager is also good at getting rid of people she doesn't like, so she can easily get rid of me. I'm pretty sure she wants to move my job to Germany so that's an easy way out for her!

I'm glad you felt like you've had lots of support from this group when you've need it. It's a tough time but I'm glad it wasn't as difficult as you anticipated.

Thank you all for being so supportive over the last two weeks. I don't know what I'd do without MN ladies! Sorry for putting such a downer on everything when you're all trying to be positive and TTC!

@doddlebobs for SMEP AND CB advanced, you still dtd every second day until you get the static smiley. Flashing smiley just means your levels are increasing but still not your surge yet but it's good to know. For me I got a flashing smiley one day and the static the next. However some women get flashy smileys for a few days.

Flo was out for me by 1 day on predicted ovulation so you just log your tests and she'll readjust based on the data you give her.

@PurpleFushia sorry also forgot to add that when I have cheapies in (no delivery this month... and couldn't hold back from using the cb digital sticks!...expensive!!) i was testing once a day until the line gets darker and then twice - 630am with clear blue standard and evening with cheapie

Any one use CB advanced digital monitor with the flashing / still smiley? On my first month of these and finally got a flashing smiley today (cd19!!). What should I do for SMEP? Carry on every other night until I get a static smiley?

According to Flo i should ovulate tomorrow so getting close!!

Yay @MrsLCW so good to hear a good news story!

That sucks @TedLife. You are legally entitled to look for and get a new job while pregnant but I totally understand not wanting the stress of any of the job hunt, starting a new place or going off after a relatively short time. Can you seek out an opportunity at your current place or speak to your manager about adding things to your current duties?

@PurpleFushia glad you had a good break and that you've got your partner for fertile week this month!

@YellowDaffodils86 I'm 3dpo and this is already draaaaging. You're not out til you're out though - it only takes one!

I've had a terrible day, work was upsetting and I'm feeling trapped as don't want to look for a new job if I'm also hoping to get pregnant. Anyone else feel like that?

Need some outside distractions I think, and maybe a holiday!

Jumping back on board post holiday and post AF which showed bang on time on the day of my very pregnant friends wedding, ugh - glad to see some good news and sorry to see some bfps and some new members - it's rubbish that we are all here but this is a lovely supportive huddle.

Glad to have had a break and really got away from it all, feeling much more relaxed now and hopefully that will help this month. Am much more prepared this time and DH is actually in the country for all of FW so that should help! CD10 today and did first OPK today, just a faint line but not expecting anything more until the weekend at least. I'm just doing one a day at 2 pm at the moment, do people do more than one a day near ovulation to catch the surge? It doesn't really say that on the instructions but I'm sure I've read other people saying that before...

Other than that though, just trying to stay calm and not let things get to me. I'm feeling much better for cleaning up my act with coffee consumption (pretty much caffeine-free now, first time in my adult life!) And generally eating more healthily, getting more sleep, etc - it's having a calming influence so I think it's good for me even if it doesn't really make much difference to conception. So hopefully we're in with a good chance this month but only time will tell!

@Boboelephant @littleemma1 yes it hurt! It have everyone a laugh at the time. I spent that summer with very brown feet! Which included my wedding🤦🏻‍♀️thank god for floor length dress!

@strawberrye my mum had my little brother at 42!! Smooth pregnancy! Dont give up hope.

@MrsLCW such a relief! Was worried this morning after seeing your post, so pleased all is ok. 😊

@Lovemysparkle 👋🏻glad all is going well for you!

Hugs to those who need them, we have all gad a rocky time of it lately.

Im 4dpo, so far not taking to much notice!
Feel out already this month though. Dont feel enough bding was done the end of fw week, there was more the first half!

@MrsLCW amazing news!!!!! Sorry you had the panic but what a wonderful relief!
@Lovemysparkle wow 10 weeks has flown by! How wonderful! Are you going to find out the sex? Please keep us updated!!! 
@Jessabean so lovely to hear you're feeling positive and the JKS sounds like it's all going well! Personally I wouldn't stop TTC for a wedding! Anyway hopefully this will be your month and you won't have to make that decision! Fx!
@MisBit1 at UCLH in London they offer reassurance scans after you have had 1 MC! I think this should be standard everywhere!
Thanks for the info on slapped cheek! I'd never heard of it!
@Angelbabyollie yes I fell pregnant before AF after my 2nd MC- unfortunately that ended in MMC as well. but! One of my best friends Mc'd last August and she fell pregnant immediately without a period and she's just given birth to an absolutely gorgeous little boy! So it can definitely happen!
@sweetpea0318 sorry you're feeling that way but your post made me laugh! Analysing pregnant women's faces! Haha I think I do the same! I mean why did i wait so long to make babies? I always chastise myself! But I thought I was having too much fun 🙄 so silly in retrospect isn't it? But it is what it is and we will get there! Don't lose hope!
And yes @Lovemysparkle ! Keep dropping in on us and spreading your sparkley joy! No wrinkles you say?! What's your secret! Haha

@Boboelephant Hey hun
So the homeopathic remedy is called Ignatia
She said it's very powerful- but it's important to cleanse the mind body and soul of the grief of loss.
She told me to take it every day for 5 days and stop and see how I feel and to take heed of my dreams.
I didn't take it because it was very close to my last MC and I was going on holiday and didn't want to be more of an emotional wreck than I already felt. So I have no idea whether it will help-but that's what was recommended to me! Let us know if you give it a try!
Also did you ever try that Mayan massage thing???

@InDreamland I'm so so sorry you're going through this it really is sooo awful. But it's good news that there are no "retained products" take time now to heal mentally and emotionally. Make sure you take some iron & multivitamins - I found floradix helped me a lot. Time is the best healer and you will find yourself again after this difficult time. If you feel up to it, try and go to restorative yoga class - or even find some on YouTube if you don't want to leave the house. For now just focus on you and we will all be here to support you if you ever need to rant. Hugs

Sorry for such a long post! But there's so many of us! It's really sad- but really happy to have found you all- hugs to all 🐧

Hello. I was on the thread a while back, possibly under a different username, but then dropped off when my DH wasn’t sure about us trying again but he is definitely onboard now. I lost my baby at the start of the year but have had a couple of consultant appointments to go through the post mortem results and they’ve confirmed a repeat is really unlikely and there is a reassuring plan in place for a subsequent pregnancy.

Congratulations to all of those with BFPs since I we last on here and hopefully it is not much longer to wait for everyone else.

@MrsLCW fantastic news, so pleased for you!

Wonderful news @MrsLCW -so pleased for you.

Thanks all for the huddle cuddles. I'm guessing it may be a combination of pmt, my birthday in a week, tiredness and still grieving for my bean. Spoke to other half a bit tonight which had helped and my GP has done the Referal to the birth options consultant so I can have the discussion about a c section should I ever be lucky enough to need one. Counselling on Thursday.

Oh for the days when I was relaxed about this. I remember that feeling of "what will be will be, if it's meant to happen it will" -oh the joy of such a relaxed attitude! Xxx

Fantastic news @MRSLCW😘😘 rest up & look after yourself! Remember ladies don’t just look after the outside look after the inside mentally & physically ❤️❤️

@MrsLCW what fantastic news! CONGRATULATIONS!

@boboelephant the scan confirmed what we already knew - especially after my 4 hour ordeal last night it couldn't be anything else. I still felt so numb when the sonographer said it though. Thanks for asking. It's so nice to have so many supportive lovely people to speak to x

@RedRobin7 it's just like the worst thing ever wasn't out. I never want to experience that again and I agree that I think it was helpful for DH to see the whole ordeal and how painful it was. I really hope you get a BFP as soon as you feel ready and the next one is a healthy baby at the end of 40 weeks.

@hellotoyellow they were kind in EPU thankfully. Answer my questions and more when the doctor phobed me this afternoon to let me know the results of my blood tests (was quick). She signed me off work for 2 weeks, I just hope I will feel ready to face the world in 2 weeks time. I really hope you never have to go through another mc x

@kintan and @blondcat thank you. Not sure I've got closure but I know there is no more "product of pregnancy" left from the scan so yesterday really was it. I'm relieved the physical side of the process seems to so far be on track, just need my system now to reset I guess and get back to normal but I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to deal with this emotionally as I just feel like I've had my life ripped apart.

Thanks @Newbie21, I will rey remember that advice, I can totally understand why women take all pain relief going if labour pains are anything like what I experienced lastnight. I really felt like my insides were being ripped out. Maybe I'm just a wuss. DH did want to dial 999 and I know he found it hard not being able to do anything but seems to be over it today (he's seen stab victims and worse a lot as part of his day job so guess his tolerance threshold is higher than normal people's).

Right now I feel so exhausted, numb and empty, my little bean baby is gone and I can't believe all my hope is gone. I can't stop thinking about what might have been, all the plans I'd started making in my head for our baby, all gone. DH seems to be moving on quicker than me and already thinking about getting pregnant again. Just the thought of it fills me with dread, I can't go through this again, I can't deal with losing another baby but at the same time I desperately want my baby. Hopefully one day soon I'll feel ready to properly join you all in the quest of TTC. I'm scared though it'll be another 5 years of heartache and disappointment - something elae I don't want to deal with again. Hopefully all your exciting BFP news to come soon will help x

@MrsLCW brilliant congratulations xxxx

Awesome news @MrsLCW congratulations!!

@MrsLCW that's wonderful news! :)

@MrsLCW such a relief. Fantastic news!!

Thanks @lovemysparkle I love hearing positive and lovely stories like yours! It def gives me hope when feeling down. Will keep on keeping on & hopefully will have our rainbow someday xxx

@sweetpea0318 we all have rhymes & reasons why we wait hunny your decisions were totally right for you ❤️ I have a ds he’s 14 in a few weeks & I was on my own from before he was born (fell for a bad apple!!) I always wanted more dc’s but I felt I owed it to ds & me to be the best mum & build a great home & future & of course didn’t want a broken heart again!! So I stayed on my own & accepted years ago that I would probably not have anymore dc I was a bit of a bitter & twisted spinster just me & my boy ruled the world 😂 but then I met my now dh my best friend my soulmate ❤️ & my dreams came alive again. Although we have been through 3 mc’s we have carried on keeping hope & we found out about this little bean a week before our wedding day!! I’m 40 in January & I’m glad to say I’ve not got any wrinkles yet😂 just keep on keeping on hunny😘 I can feel it in my water we have all good things coming 🌈🌈🌈

@mrsLCW what a relief! I was reading the posts chronologically and had such a feeling of dread when read your first post. So happy that it all is going well for you!

@lovemysparkle really pleased it’s going well too! Time is flying!

@indreamland @redrobin7 @laney79 so sorry you’re having such a rough time. Big penguin huddle hugs to you all xx

@angelbabyollie fingers crossed for you. There are so many stories online of people catching before first af so you never know!

@knitkitty reiki sounds lovely! Glad it has helped. Have you ever read up about Chinese /eastern medicine and theory around ttc? There are different categories depending on various physical and psychological symptoms. One ‘stagnant’ sounds very much like the ‘meh’ feeling you’ve described. There’s lots of advice about how you can restore balance through eating and doing certain things. I find it all fascinating.

I’m feeling bit rubbish at the moment. Hoping it’s just cos af is here but can’t shake the hopeless feeling this time for some reason. I know women get pregnant well into their forties but I can’t help but feel that I’m going to miss (or already have) missed the boat (I’m 38, 39 in December). I keep kicking myself that we didn’t start trying sooner after my dd- even though we had good reasons to wait a little while. Just feeling bleurgh about all these things I can’t change now which I know is really silly. I’m also examining every pregnant women I see for face wrinkles to try and guess their age which is really ridiculous and I prob am looking like a complete weirdo!!!