TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

@Boboelephant - exciting! Curious to know, did you do SMEP this month or your marathon like last? Keeping everything crossed for you x

@MisBit1 congratulations xxxx

@Cakelaur that has absolutely flown by. So glad it's all going well, please keep in touch.

@redrobin7 really sorry to hear this, my heart fell to the floor. Please look after yourself. Hugs xx

@Kintan so sorry to hear. I was also 9 weeks when I had a mmc in April. I had an ERPC and the bleeding stopped after 3 days. Af arrived four weeks after the ERPC. It does get easier x

@Boboelephant I think we may be cycle buddies this month, or near enough. I'm 7dpo. Temps still high but took slight dip two days in a row (still above coverline). Bored of my body tricking me so I'm just ignoring symptoms :D When are you going to test? I don't think I will until missed period.

I know what you guys mean about having a fixed date by which you want to have a baby by. I’ve only got 3 months to get pregnant again if I want to hit my goal.. Fingers crossed for everyone x

@Boboelephant
I was thinking more that you come across so nice and supportive, which is why it didn't surprise me. Im intrigued to have some of these infamous timtams!
I hope sore throat is a sign, although i know a few people that have had colds lately including myself. Could your dip be implantation dip today?? When do you plan to test this month? Have everything crossed this month🤞

@Cakelaur cant believe its 17weeks already! Will you find out if its pink or blue?
Glad all is going well though.

@RedRobin7 I am so sorry that this is happening, life really is unfair sometimes.
But you know its not your fault in any way, unfortunately its mainly statistics, which doesn't help in any way. I really wish this wasn't happening for you. I agree with others that the scan will be good to have and i was bleeding quite a bit for my internal, its was fine.
Good luck with your dog training, thats a really cool thing to do.

Iv always said to myself that i wanted to be pregnant by 32, even when i wasn't anywhere near trying for a family.
Iv realised iv got 2 cycles left until that happens. Not sure I will make it. 😬

@redrobin7 I'm so so sorry to hear you're bleeding. Massive hugs and please come back to us as and when you need support. You're not alone.

@MisBit1 Congratulations! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months x

@TheHalfBloodPrincess Welcome to the huddle, so sorry you find yourself here but hope you find some comfort in the group.

@Boboelephant is Friday POAS day? Keeping everything crossed for you x

@misbit1 congratulations!!

@thehalfbloodprincess we have very similar stats - I too am 37, I had an MMC in April and my due date was 11/11 and I'm now on CD 17. I have very slight cramp feeling which could be ovulation but I thought I ovulated a day or 2 ago. Post-MC I think I'm just more sensitive to any twinges. Sorry you find yourself here but hope you find comfort in the support, I certainly do.

MisBit1 congratulations! That’s amazing :)

@boboelephant no, I’ve never had ewcm before. I usually get watery cm mid cycle but it’s one of them things that I’ve never really taken notice of until I ttc.
I’m not putting much faith in the chart tbh, I’ve had a few 4am/5am wake ups this week and don’t think I’ve had a block of more than an hour or 2 without being woken up, but thought I’d keep up with it as it sorta makes me feel a bit more proactive iykwim.

It’s really silly but I’ve got in my head that I need to be pregnant by my due date (11/11) and at the minute it’s helping me to have a focus and not be eaten up with grief, but at the same time I worry I’m setting myself up for a mental fall if I’m still not pregnant when it rolls around.

@MisBit1 congratulations lovely fx for a very happy pregnancy and an easy delivery. Xx

I hope you don’t mind I’ve put this in a separate post because I didn’t want to upset anyone by tagging them in it.

I think I have a dodgy batch of ICs the line was a teeny bit darker but still barely there so I broke out my CBs. I know this will make me sound an absolute nutter but I didn’t want to use a FRER because I used them with both my losses but with my DS I only used a CB (and only did 2 tests throughout the whole pregnancy - totally mad!).

Anyway there’s no doubting this so now I need to figure out what to do about school and the slapped cheek outbreak.

@HelloViroids @Angelbabyollie @kintan @TheHalfBloodPrincess so sorry you all find yourselves here. I bled for about 7 days after my miscarriage and my first AF was 35 days after so a week later than my regular cycle so hopefully you won’t have to wait too long @Angelbabyollie

@TheHalfBloodPrincess it sounds like you might have had ovulation pains I think you ovulate within 12-48hrs of your positive opk so JKS! I’m not so sure on the temping but an expert will be along soon.

@redrobin7 I’m so sorry you’re going through all this again it’s just not fair but it’s absolutely not your fault. I hope your scan brings you closure really don’t worry about bleeding, they’re used to it. If you’re physically up for it it sounds like the dog training will be a good distraction and a wonderful thing you’re doing to help others too.

@happysbno4 I think AF post miscarriage tends to be a bit weird. It was in my experiences. I think your body just has a good clear out.

@Martydog sorry you’re having a tough time hugs to you.

@Tedlife fingers crossed you’re going to be celebrating!

@laney glad you had a good weekend.

@MrsLCW I hope all goes well on Friday I’m beginning to understand that anxiety.

I hope I haven’t missed anyone. Hugs to all those who need them.

@redrobin7 so sorry you are going through this as others have said we are here for whatever you need. Penguin huddle support all the way.

@kintan I had a natural miscarriage and bleeding tapered off after 2 weeks, with the last few days being spotting/tinged discharge.

Sorry for your loss x

Hi, hope it’s ok to join.
I’m 37
Ttc#4
Had mmc in April at 11 weeks (baby 7/8 weeks)
Cd16

Feel ready to try again.

I’ve had 2 periods since mmc.

This cycle I’ve been using opks and taking bbt but I’m not sure I know what I’m doing.

I had a positive opk yesterday at 6pm which is now negative. Also had menstral cramps last night (which I’ve never had pre mc)
Does it mean I’ve ovulated? About to? It’s so confusing.

I’m not sure the bbt is accurate - my ‘usual’ time to take is at 7:30 but this past few weeks Ive been waking at all different times due to 1 year old dc being unsettled (vaccinations/teething/weather I guess) but there was a small dip this morning. I’ve added my chart to see if anyone can hazard a guess.

Thanks a lot, and sorry to be ‘meeting’ you all as part of this horrible club.

Hi everyone, mind if I join in? I miscarried over the weekend at 9 weeks. I just want to get on and try again. I'm close to 40 so I know time is of the essence! Could I ask how long after the m/c did the bleeding stop, and how long before you started ovulating again?

Sorry for everyone's losses, it really sucks. I had such an easy straightforward pregnancy with my son, so wasn't expecting this at all. Although I stopped feeling pregnant a couple of weeks ago, but I just didn't think this would happen :(

@RedRobin7 I'm so, so very sorry. Re the scan, I was very (mega) anxious about having whilst bleeding so heavily (really heavily), however, it was nothing to worry about at all, the staff were lovely, completely understanding, and everything was as well managed as a difficult situation could be. I was really glad to have the scan, as it gave us all a clear understanding of where I was at, and then enabled me to have a clear next steps plan with the doc. X

@Jessabean Thank you. I just discussed it with my husband and he agrees with you that I should still have the scan for closure. So we'll go tomorrow as planned. His manager has given him the day off for it but I wish he was here today too to comfort me whilst I'm in pain. He's an engineer who drives around the country and weirdly he's on the same job today that he was on the day I found out about the first MMC!

The dog training centre is 5 mins from the house so hopefully I'll be okay. I have to attend as I'll be handling the dog and there are lots of rules and commands that need to be followed. I'll just take lots of pads and hope we're sitting down and that there's an obvious toilet nearby.

@KnitKitty I've sent you a PM btw. We told my family about 10 days ago so now we just need to deliver the bad news somewhere between my sister giving birth and meeting my nephew. I don't think can meet him and keep the secret! I really wanted my sister to know I was pregnant again so that she wouldn't be worried about me holding my nephew knowing that I should have been 29 weeks pregnant. Now she's going to feel even worse that I've had two loses in the time she's been pregnant! I'm going to love my nephew so much though so she doesn't need to worry about me!

TedLife I hope it's a happy celebration! I've had the same problem with OH and wanting to call it AF! We usually call it Code Red between us. lol

Martydog I'm sorry you're struggling. It's so hard when you don't feel you're getting the right opportunities for TTC as well. In fact that's probably hard enough as it is without the added fact of having lost previous pregnancies. Hugs xxx

Happysbno4 AF can be weird after MC and ERPC. Sometimes you have a bit left over from MC and expel it during your first AF, so that might be what it was. I hope everything seems back to normal for you now. Good luck. xxx

Fingers crossed for you Laney79! Hope that you DTD at the right time. Glad you're feeling better again. Relaxing with friends is always nice. :)

doddlebobs as Boboelephant has said, the grapefruit juice is supposed to help you produce good CM. I might see if I can buy some after work today. If Sainsbury's doesn't have it I'm giving up.

MrsLCW Good luck for Friday, let us know how it goes. I can totally understand the anxiety. It's hard when this should just be a happy and exciting time and you're just filled with worries, but try to hold on to the happiness and hopefulness and brush the other emotions to one side as best you can.

RedRobin7 It might be a good idea to still have the scan so they can check exactly what's going on.
Doing the guide dog training might actually be a good distraction but I totally get if you don't want to go. Do whatever feels right.
I'm sorry you can't tell your family what's happening. Did they know about the pregnancy yet? More hugs xxx