Nutty TTCers thread #3!

@IsAnyoneElseMissingCheese did u test again? X thanks @TheMagicTorch @Cakelaur @HidCat and anyone else i missed yous girls r soo supportive❤ Congrats to everyone who got their bfps this month!

@Cakelaur i know ive tried the relaxed approach still didnt get me newhere lol i think a trip away prob would do us gd tho..ooh need to watch that for some light relief haha

@SoBoredOfWaiting congratulations what a fantastic line!!

@thisisouryrfx18 sorry to hear you'e been arguing, it is tough - @cakelaur has some really good advice there, maybe take some time for the two of you and enjoy each others company, and dtd when it feels right and you want to. Hope things get better for you soon.

@thisisouryrfx18 you have to do what's best for you babe. The most important thing in all of this is you and DH. So maybe take some time out. Even just a month. And spend time together. And just "give up" for a month. And have sex when you actually want to and maybe let him instigate or book a trip away. That way it's not all about ttc.

Also... extreme cheapskates has new episodes this morning!! Haha

@Cakelaur thanx for completely gettin it hun we dnt normally argue, feel like i blew up big time over something and nothing. Its just frustrating all this waiting about for tests n test results, we do love one another soo much..my heads just all over the place dnt know if i should stay off here for a while

Congrats @SoBoredOfWaiting that's a great line.

@thisisouryrfx18 sorry you're arguing babe. I had a massive blow out with my OH back in October. I went away to Dubai for a week, came home we DTD a few times and fell pregnant that month (we lost that one in Jan) but similar thing this time. We had lots of meltdowns (from me) and crying sessions about the MC and him not wanting to try as hard. Then we decided to just give it all we had. We DTD 8days in a row during FW and then we just relaxed. I knew we'd done everything we could and we enjoyed the marathon and tried to make it fun. And that was the month we got our bfp again.
It's mega hard to get into that mind frame. The boys defo seem to not perform as well under pressure. So I didn't tell oh when I was ovulating. We just agreed to DTD for 8 days straight. I of course knew those 8 days were perfectly timed. Haha. It is stressful, but remember you're in it together and you love each other. So if his SA is worrying him, talk to him about it. Either way to know if there's a problem is better than not knowing. And there's usually loads they can do to help. And worst case ivf is an option if maybe he has low motility. But remember you're both on the same team. Sending massive hugs. I've been there. And come out the other side and you will too. Your baby is coming! I promise. Have you tried SMEP? Maybe it will take a bit of pressure off, but then you both know the deal and can have some fun it with?

Congratulations @SoBoredOfWaiting!

@thisisouryrfx18 I'm so sorry things are tough for you and OH. This road can be so trying at times just try to remember that you're both doing everything that you can and you will get through it.

@thisisouryrfx18 sorry to hear about the arguments. Maybe a weekend break or a couple of days away will help you both? Me and DH did that last month and we totally chilled about it this month.

Girls, think I got a bfp this morning! I put it down to having a chilled month 😊

Well looks like i jinxed that me n oh have had a massive argument think the pressure of his SA has gottten to him but i feel v alone atm is this what ttc does to u as a couple?!

@SoBoredOfWaiting I can see a good line there 🤞🤞

@thisisouryrfx18 12 days is still good, under 10 is when you need to worry.

@SoBoredOfWaiting I can see a line, fx you can find a frer though!

I'm having a very minor surgery on my toenail on Friday, I'll be 7dpo but it's worth trying before I get it done tight?

@thisisouryrfx18 it will happen for you, chin up lovely and I have all fingers crossed for you. How do you invert it on iphone?

@SoBoredOfWaiting thanks i just dnt c an end to this atm..well a happy 1 for me, my guts tellin me its not gonna happen for me..i defo c sumthin on ur test tho hun invert it i want to c

Have a nice drink @thisisouryrfx18 you deserve it!

So I did another test this morning, still not 100% sure! AF due tomorrow... what do you think?
I am going to try a FRER instead as I don't trust these ones. Wish me luck, I have to try and find one in Spain!! 😂

God im emotionally drained slept for 12hrs last nite lol hopefully it helps me feel better today! The suns out and i have the day off work sunbathing and a cheeky little drink methinks 😜🍸🍹🌞

@Hidcat sumtimes the humidity makes my asthma worse thats gd u booked midwife exciting..@DaisyMay25 i am beating myself up luteal phase was only 12days this cycle thinking that might b part of the issue..woohoo get to dtd x

@thisisouryrfx18 sorry you're feeling down. It sounds like you're beating yourself up for not getting pregnant though and that's not fair on you. At least you're in the right track to answer now. Sending hugs!

I just did a test (I never do them in the afternoon but hadn't had a wee since 4am so it was a good hold) and finally got a static smiley!

@thisisouryrfx18 oh hun I'm so sorry. Yey for amazing OH though.

I'm ok, struggling with my asthma yesterday and today but working through it. Registered with the midwife today, they want me to go in tomorrow for a pre-booking appointment. She said it's normal but they didn't do it with my pregnancy in December so must either be MC related or new protocol.

@HidCat working today(sux) af came this morning so i basically feel like bursting into tears but i cant..i ll say 1thing tho this ttc crap has proved to me that oh is my rock hes always there for me when im down i like to think i do the same for him but i know i can b a right hormonal bitch lol thanks for asking tho hun how r things with u? X

@thisisouryrfx18 I'm so sorry that TTC is causing so many problems. Hopefully you'll get an answer in your tests that can be dealt with. How are you feeling this morning?

Feeling v emotional 2day oh has not been himself he opened up and said ttc is gettin him down..feel a bit of a let down i want him to be happy and its making me angry now that its not happening for us

@Angelmiracle thats what we did in the beginning took the relaxed approach not workd tho lol