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Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

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KnitKitty · 13/06/2018 18:26

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

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KnitKitty · 14/06/2018 20:01

It's totally normal for your cycles to be different to normal after MC Lolacola13. The ladies over on TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22 are really lovely and supportive, head over there and introduce yourself. :)

DaisyMay25 what a lovely quote! Will definitely remember that one!

A nice thing happened to me today: a little sparrow came and fluttered in front of the French doors in my living room as though it was looking in to say hello. :)

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Lolacola13 · 14/06/2018 18:38

I'm struggling today mentally with ttc . Cd 19 and still no posture opk x been getting v high for over a week now it just won't peak! It's excruciating.Anyone else first cycle like this after a v early miscarriage ? 5-6 weeks? Xx

TinyPaws · 14/06/2018 18:34

Love this thread, going to check out that fertility yoga.

DaisyMay25 · 14/06/2018 12:35

Lovely idea for a thread!

Thanks for that suggestion on YouTube @CritterTamer I've got it open on a webpage to give a whirl at some point. I've been meaning to start yoga for my mental state so if this can help with fertility it's a bonus!

For today I'm keeping in mind the Disney quote 'even miracles take a little time'

KnitKitty · 14/06/2018 10:48

Thanks for joining in CritterTamer and lolacola13.

I'll definitely be giving the fertility yoga a whirl, and I love your affirmation lola!

My bit for today:
When you get the disappointment of AF arriving, try to focus on a new cycle having started; it's potentially the official start date of your pregnancy if you get lucky this month!

I think it's really important not to forget about other focuses in your life when TTC as well, focusing on something else (like decorating your house, learning a new skill or going for a promotion at work) will help take the pressure off life being about trying to get pregnant.

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lolacola13 · 13/06/2018 20:29

Great idea for a thread! My favorite is " I am doing everything in my power to create a healthy environment for a baby to grow, the rest is not up to me" sounds a bit odd but it helps me , I take my supplements , stay healthy and make sure we've timed the dtd and after that I can't do anymore . For my personally that is . Everyone has their own battle with this. It helped when I had an early miscarriage a few weeks ago , I did everything I could!

CritterTamer · 13/06/2018 20:06

Thank you @Knitkitty - what a lovely idea!
I am currently ttc #1 and have struggled with depression through my ttc journey. I’m now doing IVF cycle 1 (EC on Friday!🤞) and my tip for relaxing, passing the time and generally lifting my mood about the whole thing is try fertility yoga. There’s an amazing lady on YouTube who does fertility yoga - search for Yoga Yin. You can do it in the comfort of your own living room and she is just amazing! A couple of months ago my uterus lining was just 6.8mm and today had it measured at 9.5mm and I put it down to her 😊

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