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Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

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KnitKitty · 13/06/2018 18:26

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

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VenusStarr · 02/07/2018 17:28

Happy Monday everyone :) have been 'working from home' today which means I've had a massive dose of vitamin D with all this lovely weather we're having. Feeling nice and relaxed. Had a lovely weekend with DH, spending quality time together :)

Am enjoying catching up, I haven't got an affirmation today, just feeling good. Hope you're all OK x

ChaosMoon · 02/07/2018 08:24

@KnitKitty I love that quote. And I'm ado glad you were able to shift your mood. You're right, sometimes we need to wallow - as long as we can get out of it again afterwards.

@PurpleFushia I'm so sorry to hear about your mc but very glad you've joined us. Well done for already taking some positive steps for you!

Today's affirmation - I open myself to greater health, strength and fertility now.

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KnitKitty · 02/07/2018 07:38

A brand new week, a blank canvas. I wonder what wonderful things will happen this week?

Quote for today found on the internet and apparently by Neil Barringham which spoke to me in particular this morning:
The grass is greener when you water it.

Happy Monday everyone!

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KnitKitty · 01/07/2018 22:14

Hi PurpleFushia, sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you've joined us here.
I've given up drinking and caffeine for the most part too, and it had made an amazing difference to my mood!
I actually gave up caffeine before TTC because I had bad anxiety and whenever I've stopped drinking it in the past I'd notice my anxiety wasn't as bad. I still have the occasional glass of wine, but I feel better without it.

I'm feeling a lot better again this evening. I think I was just due a good wallow.

Back on my feet now and looking forward to a new week and a new month.

My affirmation for today:
I am joyful and successful.

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TinyPaws · 01/07/2018 21:17

@CritterTamer Thanks for the Fertility Yoga suggestion at the beginning of this thread, just did a couple of the YogaYin videos and now feel really good.

PurpleFushia · 01/07/2018 16:31

What a wonderful thread, some of the posts have really made me think about my attitude to TTC, TWW, etc. Currently in the middle of TWW but don't think it's my month, I'm in a similar position to some of you in still being fairly soon after miscarriage so not really knowing what my cycles are doing. But as I am doing the right things - vitamins, sleep, cut out booze and caffeine (went a bit mad with drinking post MC, drowning sorrows I think, and had built up a bad espresso addiction generally which was not doing me any good, and I've found abstinence is easier for me than moderation). As KnitKnitty said above another month means an even healthier me and a better chance, so there's nothing to fear from it yet, it's all part of my TTC journey. Will be back to share positives and commiserate on less positives!

Angelmiracle · 01/07/2018 16:10

"I declare July will favour me for conception" 😊🌸🤞

Happy Sunday everyone 🌼☀️

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KnitKitty · 01/07/2018 10:34

That should have read *posting positive things

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KnitKitty · 01/07/2018 10:31

AngelMiracle interesting about the feeling of having twins. I hope you're right!! Love the giggling after DTD. So cute! Teehee!

Love your affirmations as always ladies.

ChaosMoon I'm not feeling my best today either. Had a massive sob last night. Lots of changes going on around me (people at work leaving for better jobs, my sister getting a puppy AND got engaged yesterday, seeing pregnancy announcements on FB) I am thrilled for everyone but it just reminded me I'm not where I want to be in life at the moment.

So I need to dust myself off again today. I plan on doing some meditation and read a positive book to reset myself again.

Will post again later once I'm feeling better again.

Just wanted to say thank you to you ladies again because you genuinely are making life easier for me at the moment and it's wonderful having all of you positive positive things every day. Flowers

I hope you all have a wonderful day today. xxx

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SoBoredOfWaiting · 01/07/2018 09:31

Love that affirmation @ChaosMoon

My affirmation for today was:
My body is the perfect environment for a happy and healthy baby.

ChaosMoon · 01/07/2018 09:22

Woke up this morning feeling anxious. Possibly early pmt, or just exhaustion because I barely slept. Either way, today's affirmation needs to get me out of that way of thinking.

So - I choose to love myself and trust my body.

ChaosMoon · 30/06/2018 15:36

Definitely a healthy sign @Angelmiracle!

You know I used to think twins would be the awful, but now I can't think of anything better. I love that you and ds are on the same page there! Smile

Angelmiracle · 30/06/2018 12:39

@KnitKitty I agree with getting AF - new cycle new chance! I had a HSG in May and noticed I'd no brown colour in this cycle it was bright red so taking that as a healthy sign!! Lol at OH laughing in his sleep.

Everytime we dtd and I O I always go into a fit of giggles DH finds it hilarious that I do this so we always finish dtd with a good giggle together which keeps the mood light lol.

Love that affirmation @ChaosMoon !!

Angelmiracle · 30/06/2018 12:30

"I receive my miracle babies today" Recently I've been having a feeling that I will conceive twins- a boy and girl to be exact. Twins are in both sides of the family so there's definitely a good chance of a twin pregnancy. DS has been asking for a sibling from last year. So one night at bedtime I asked DS if he'd like a brother or sister he said both!! He said a boy for him and girl for me 😂 I just thought this was funny esp due to the feeling I had of having twins!!

Im going to hold onto this visualise a twin pregnancy and birth Grin No matter how scary 😂

Also do any of you follow Will Smith on Insta? He does lots of positivity videos he's very good. He was talking about when you're in pursuit of a specific goal sitting back and waiting is not productive. He said to keep on experiencing new things in life and give to the world in ways that you can and then in return your goals and dreams happen in unexpected ways. He said it much better than that but was good advice!

ChaosMoon · 30/06/2018 11:41

Oh my god, @KnitKitty I have those dreams too and they're the best! I love your attitude and your ability to find joy in life. I used to be more like that and I feel like this thread is helping me reconnect with that person.

My affirmation today -
My womb is warm. My heart is open. My body is ready for this baby.

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KnitKitty · 30/06/2018 09:25

A few things this morning:

Fristly; AF arrived. Bang on time, which is encouraging because I've worked out I must be fairly regular after MC and I have a good idea when to try this cycle now. It also means that my body has had a bit more time to heal and for vitamins to kick in more to make me all healthy and prepare for a good little egg.
So, I'm excited to start a new cycle! This could count as the first day of a successful pregnancy!

Secondly; I had a good start to the morning this morning!
At 5:30 I was lying awake, trying not to feel annoyed that I was finding it hard to go back to sleep. And then OH just started giggling in his sleep and woke himself up laughing, which made me laugh and we were just both lying there in hysterics for about 5 minutes. I got to sleep after that. This morning he informed me he'd been having a dream about snails which he found funny........

Thirdly; if like me you find reading/hearing/watching the news puts you down. Try giving yourself a boost again by looking on The Good News Network. It will lift your heart.

Finally, my quote for the day:
I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it. Maya Angelou.

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KnitKitty · 29/06/2018 19:24

It works out at something like £5.99 a month I think.
Of course, you can always mediate for free, but I personally find this more motivating and I feel like I'm gaining more out of it than if I struggled along on my own.

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KnitKitty · 29/06/2018 19:22

Oh... And on the note of having bought new clothes...

I realised I'd been putting on hold buying some nice new clothes since starting TTC in December in case I fell pregnant and needed to get maternity-wear. I realised today, it could take months or years to fall pregnant and putting off doing things for me is just going to add to the misery of not being pregnant, so I thought why not treat myself! I can always wear new clothes I don't fit in to if I get pregnant again when I've had the baby, and there's a good few weeks you can still wear non-elasticated or spacious things anyway!

So if there's anything you've been putting off doing in case, maybe reevaluate your priorities and have a think if you're just feeding into a misery cycle.

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DaisyMay25 · 29/06/2018 19:22

@KnitKitty I thought about headspace because sometimes I just needs to chill out! I might give it a go. How much is the subscription?

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KnitKitty · 29/06/2018 19:15

How lovely! What a nice compliment. :)

I treated myself to a bit of retail therapy after work today. Got some new shoes and a nice skirt.

Now I've been paid I've also signed up properly to Headspace. The free trial was so helpful for me, and I'm really glad I've subscribed. I've started their pack on patience (because my goodness how slowly does time go when TTC!?! lol). Anyone else subscribed? What packs are you doing?

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DaisyMay25 · 29/06/2018 18:55

My taxi driver today told me that I look happy. I'm going to embrace it and feel as happy as I looked to him!

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KnitKitty · 29/06/2018 07:21

Lovely mis-quote ChaosMoon.

Today is a new day full of new opportunities and fresh starts.

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ChaosMoon · 29/06/2018 06:12

2ww, not tww. Smile

ChaosMoon · 29/06/2018 06:10

It will certainly help @KnitKitty. Thing is, I do yoga as part of my physio & even fertility yoga in the tww is taking it's toll. It'll be worth it though.

I love your wish board, and that you keep the pictures. Looking back on what you've achieved must be so motivating.

Today's affirmation is a mis-quote from Buddha.
What I think, I become.
What I feel, I attract.
What I imagine, I create.

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KnitKitty · 28/06/2018 22:13

ChaosMoon You won't mind modifying the yoga once you have a baby on board, the yoga you will be able to do will still feel great. :)

VenusStar I love your story about visualisation. I think a lot of us have experiences of it that we don't realise.
I have a "wish board" (made from a painted mini ironing board) on which I put pictures of things I would like in my life and affirmations and mantras. Every so often I change it, but I keep the pictures. I was looking at the pictures I had on it a couple of years ago and I have so many of the things I had been wishing for.

Great affirmation Angelmiracle!

Hi Frazzlerock, welcome. You certainly have been through a lot. I hope you manage to find some balance and peace with TTC this time. Joining us is a good start! Grin What are you planning to try to keep zen?
You have a few really positive pockets of information in your story: you know you can conceive even though you have PCOS. Also because of the difficulties you've had and the losses you've suffered you can walk in to this feeling more prepared and with a game plan in place (i.e. baby aspirin). You know you can cope with whatever is thrown at you because you've already got through so much in one piece. I'm glad you're feeling more yourself again.
The symptom spotting is one of the things I've found the hardest to not give in to. The problem is that your PMS symptoms can be identical to pregnancy symptoms so it's really best to just take them with a pinch of salt. I just note down in a diary how my body is feeling whenever I get a symptom and then try to forget about it so I can see if I have a pattern each month. Refocusing my attention on AF symptoms rather than possible pregnancy symptoms seems to be helping me.
It is difficult though when you have irregular cycles. I'd give yourself a certain CD each month to test if AF still hasn't shown (CD40?)

ChaosMoon I love your affirmation high. I've been having similar experiences recently. I just had an over-whelming feeling of happiness and contentment at work today (of all places!!) I think we must be doing something right. Smile

You guys are all amazing. Thanks so much for joining in with me with the positive stuff!

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