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Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

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KnitKitty · 13/06/2018 18:26

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

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TedLife · 30/07/2018 12:18

@KnitKitty, i've just spotted this thread and can't thank you enough. It's totally turned my mood around today.
I've been following you on both threads and i'm really sorry if you're feeling low about potential AF arrival and if she is coming, I hope it's soon. I know the feeling of waiting, I had spotting from 9dpo and she fully appeared on 13dpo which was 1 day early. It did give me time to prepare though and not be totally crushed.

Some mantras for today, to hopefully help anyone who needs it:

"I deserve to have joy in my life."

"My life is a gift and I appreciate everything I have."

"I choose not to criticise myself or others around me."

ChaosMoon · 30/07/2018 11:23

It's perfectly possible @KnitKitty. Smile

Stephen Hawking once said "Where there is life, there is hope." And who can argue with him?

Today I'm feeling slightly nauseous. There are 100 reasons to think I haven't caught this month. But I have 2 choices. To feel sick, tell myself it's nothing and feel anxious and down about it. Or to feel sick, have hope and get exited about what could be. Sick and miserable v sick and happy.

Telling myself it's nothing doesn't make me feel better when AF comes. It just prolongs the misery.

I read something else today that felt highly relevant to Tyne ttc journey.
You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.

VenusStarr · 30/07/2018 08:20

It's OK (and good) to hope @KnitKitty. I'm sorry you're not feeling well today, hope you can get some rest before work later. It's really hard to stop your mind going into overdrive. I'm glad you have something to look forward to this week Flowers

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KnitKitty · 30/07/2018 08:12

No ChaosMoon. AF doesn't really feel imminent. But I have woken up to a load of spots on my forehead and that's usually a sign she's lurking.

I can't believe I'm letting myself hope still... But I'm so confused about the pains/sensations I was getting in my uterus and then BFN, that I'm wondering if they were implantation taking place and yesterday was too soon to detect HCG? I did have spots in early pregnancy as well.

I was reading that it takes about 3 days for the implantation process to take place. And I had pains/sensations for three days on the trot. They've now disappeared completely.
Usually with AF I get spots 2-3 days before, cramps the day before and then she shows up.
I've had no spots until now, Thursday I felt a stretching feeling in my womb, Friday I had cramps and Saturday I had an occasional pinching type feeling.

I'm not feeling very well today. My asthma is playing up for the first time in a few months.
(Of course I'm wondering if it's a sign...)

Time will tell I suppose!!!

Whats everyone up to this drizzly week?
We have friends arriving on Wednesday for just a night, but that will be a nice distraction, and I'm going out with colleagues for dinner at the weekend.
Today I'm on the late shift at work which means I can have a quiet morning at home and the "rush hour" at work is pretty much over by the time I arrive so should be able to catch up on jobs that need doing this afternoon.

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ChaosMoon · 30/07/2018 06:58

Oh @KnitKitty that sucks. Any sign of AF though? Your not necessarily out if she still hasn't shown.

CookieWaffle · 30/07/2018 06:39

Ahh so sorry @KnitKitty hugs

VenusStarr · 29/07/2018 22:14

Sorry to hear of bfn @KnitKitty, glad dh is there with you xx

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KnitKitty · 29/07/2018 21:18

It was a BFN. Feeling quite crappy but OH has been extremely lovely.

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ChaosMoon · 29/07/2018 15:10

Test! It's more likely that you've always been ovulating a bit late, than any other scenario there. Don't forget that some people don't even know they're pregnant until they're months and months gone, because they have no symptoms. I really hope this is your month @KnitKitty!

VenusStarr · 29/07/2018 10:34

I can imagine! Maybe try to keep busy today with something you enjoy to distract you. It's great that your dh is supporting you through this. We're here too x

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KnitKitty · 29/07/2018 10:28

OH said we can talk about testing this evening if AF hasn't shown up today.

I don't feel pregnant. But then, I didn't back in February either.
I have convinced myself of every possibility... Pains and late period being caused by a cyst, or I never ovulated and I have just had ovulation and am going to have a really long cycle... But I know the most likely scenarios really are either AF is a day or so late, or I'm pregnant again. My head is all over the place.

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VenusStarr · 29/07/2018 09:16

Got my fingers crossed for you @KnitKitty! Will you test today?

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KnitKitty · 29/07/2018 09:06

I love IKEA too, but it's so hard not to get carried away!!!

CookieWaffle looks like a good strong month for ovulation! Hope it's a strong little eggie you're producing! They say you are more fertile after a loss... A silver lining I guess.

VenusStar I can imagine that feels lovely and luxurious. Anything that brings you a smile is worth being thankful for. :)

AF hasn't arrived yet. Will be buying pregnancy tests today. Shock

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VenusStarr · 28/07/2018 22:54

I have been stroking the carpet and walking barefoot :) it makes me smile everytime I come upstairs.

Glad the cramping has stopped @KnitKitty, understand you being cautious but fingers crossed for you.

Love ikea @CookieWaffle, we live really close to one so it's easy just to pop down. We were there last week eating meatballs, didn't do much shopping!

CookieWaffle · 28/07/2018 22:39

I got sent to IKEA, that place is so dangerous. I think I came back with about 90% as stuff I really don't need. I did get a few looks :)

OPK still positive, this is a bit of a record! I think I must be extra hormony after the CP or something!

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend!

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KnitKitty · 28/07/2018 19:56

I expect VenusStar is lying on the floor stroking it right now... Hahahaa!

Ooohhh! CookieWaffle what did you buy? Retail therapy is the best!
Great that your chart is looking positive this month! Fingers crossed!!!

Well the cramping stopped again and no AF so far. Bit suspicious but I really don't want to get my hopes up as I don't feel pregnant.

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CookieWaffle · 28/07/2018 14:59

Happy Saturday! I got kicked out of the house and given money to go shopping today, what a shame.

Feeling very positive about this cycle, my chart is almost perfect so far and my temp has gone up so now for the tww!

Any signs of AF today KnitKitty?

VenusStarr · 28/07/2018 09:37

How's everyone doing today? Early start this morning, the carpet guts are here! I said to dh I might just go and sit on the new carpet and stroke it later 😂

Hope you're not in too much discomfort with cramps @KnitKitty

Hope you all have a good weekend x

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KnitKitty · 27/07/2018 21:18

It's cloudy... No blood moon for us to see. Never mind!! haha

ChaosMoon you made me laugh with your sore boobs in the shower story! You too CookieWaffle Daft women!!! Hahaha!
The things we get excited about in the TTW, huh? Yesterday I had a weird feeling in my uterus for several hours, like it was being stretched like a balloon being blown up. I have had this before my period before... Although it wasn't as strong a feeling, and I think it was the cycle I had a CP.
This evening I've been cramping though, so I think AF will arrive on time. Due on tomorrow. I've put a pad in.
No facial spots yet though which is good!

VenusStar Getting new carpets will feel like your home has had a face-lift. Hope they're nice and soft.

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VenusStarr · 27/07/2018 13:40

I think it might have just been coincidence @ChaosMoon, I was reading last night and he asked what it was (baby making Bible) and he said, I thought we agreed to take it easy?! I find it interesting though. He was initiating at the right time though so maybe I was giving off subtle signs :)

Sorry to hear you're finding the last part of tww difficult @KnitKitty, I think dealing with uncertainty is hard. I'm not brilliant with affirmations but I'll have a think.

Good their from you @Angelmiracle, exciting!

Hi @CookieWaffle hope the preeseed helps

We're having new carpets tomorrow, thehouse is a mess with boxes everywhere but I can't wait! It'll all be worth it then :)

ChaosMoon · 27/07/2018 13:25

😂 I'm glad its not just me that does these things!

Thanks @CookieWaffle. 3 seemed a bit much for me but less doesn't seem enough... I guess it's all trial and error!

CookieWaffle · 27/07/2018 13:21

Ooh I thought I'd replied @ChaosMoon, I must not have pressed the button! Preseed - instructions suggested up to the 3 line but I do then have to wipe it up a bit (sorry!). Did it before DP noticed the other day, so as not to ruin the mood and he didn't notice at least! If he does I just laugh it off! I've only tried it a couple of times so far.

I had sore boobs on one cycle, whacked them against a post and they were sore and I thought oh it must be a sign, but no just me being blind!

ChaosMoon · 27/07/2018 08:26

Went to a gig last night, which was Brilliant. Late night though, so I was a zombie getting in a shower this morning. For a split second I thought, "oh my god, my boobs are sore, this never happens, its a sign!" Then I realised I'd just punched myself in the breast. Oops. 😂

Your DH sounds great @VenusStarr must be nice not to be carrying that mental load.

@Angelmiracle that's great! I bet you can't wait.

Me too @KnitKitty. I'll have to keep an eye out. Although I bet that's the one time we get rain!

Hope about - I trust the timing of my life.

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KnitKitty · 27/07/2018 07:30

Angelmiracle how exciting!

I'm due my period this weekend and I'm finding the TTW hard at the moment.
Anyone got any good mantras or affirmations they can suggest to me to help stay calm?

Hope everyone is coping OK in this heat we've been having. Luckily we have air-con at work... Something I forgot to be grateful for yesterday!

Hope everyone has a lovely Friday.
Look out for the blood moon this evening ladies... Should be from 21:00 - 22:15. I often miss these astrological phenomenons but I'm hoping I might get to see this one!

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Angelmiracle · 27/07/2018 06:21

@ChaosMoon I am really doing great!! Some days I get lots of symptoms but these past couple of days I have been feeling pretty normal. Got my appointment through for booking in and dating scan really looking forward to that 😊

Sending you all lots of positive baby vibes ♀️♂️ The attitude you all have is amazing!