Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

Checking in late as DS has been using my phone as a car park and refused to let me have it back. .Gotta love him!

Cookie.. Sorry to hear about your faded tests. Take encouragement from the fact it happened. .it can happen again. Take care Cookie

Critter...how are your pains now?

@angel, so sorry for your loss and wishing you lots of luck in the

@cookie bad me about af arriving

@critter feeling your annoyance against being cd10/11 & not a sign of anything ov related. My body hates me. Going to try dtd tonight, done nothing since Tues.

Hi everyone,

Angel - welcome and so sorry about Ollie. You deserve some happier times, for sure. My Nan got pg 2 months after her first child so it can happen very quickly. Good luck!

Cleo, does that mean that the monitor hasn’t detected the oestrogen rise yet? Presume it’s on its way if the opk lines are getting darker so worth starting dtd.

Sorry about your CP Cookie, I feel your pain!

Clear blue fertility monitor.
Yeah I think you are right chat, I'll do that!

@Cleozeta what is cbfm ?
I'd go with the ewcm... and dtd tombe on safe side ..

Cookie sorry to hear it didn't work out this time. Gutting.
Angel so sorry to hear what you have been through, utterly heartbreaking.
Minime we tend to go for the less is more approach. Every other day just in fertile week normally.
Critter cd11 is still early so I wouldn't panic quite yet. Maybe its just pushed things back a bit?
I had a weird one today. Had ewcm and line is getting darker on opk (which is great!) But my cbfm said low... not quite sure whats going on there. What do I trust?

Ohhhhh CookieWaffle so sorry to here faded tests.... sending big hugs...
CritterTamer can you just regularly dtd just to keep some swimmers in the tubes?

@Cookiewaffle I’m so sorry it turned out to be a CP. this whole ttc thing really is shit 😔 take extra good care of yourself and your DH today. Sending hugs your way xxx

@Angelbabyollie - welcome to the group. I cried when I read your story about your loss. You will find lots of friendly support from the ladies here.

@minime2017 - congrats on the house move! Hope you’re settling in well.

AFM, my body is totally screwed up from the IVF cycle 😔 CD11 and no signs of impending ovulation at all. Had EWCM (but -OPKs) on CD8 & 9, now nothing and still negative OPKs which would normally be high from CD9. Also have severe ovary and uterus pain which is a bit scary. Starting to think the whole thing wasn’t worth it if it’s messed my body and cycles up 😔

Morning everyone, update from me. Tests slowly faded into nothing. Blood this morning. Ah well :(

Hi ladies just checking in. Been busy moving home and all things ttc have taken a back seat. Briefly reading re frequency of dtd and conception, when we fell pregnant we did it 3 times max, 2 properly over fertile week. Got me thinking that, in terms of his part, less is more? Surely all the unused swimmers cant be good lingering about...i dont know but there might be something in it. Last month we dtd at the right times going by ov signs and opk but nowt! Less is more will be this months strategy 😁 plus we are knackered from moving halfway across the country so it will work in our favour

@Chatbash72 thank you, my mum had a full term still born and she said the only way she got over it was when she was pregnant with me. I long to cuddle my baby Ollie but know that can't be, just trying to focus on the future. If you don't mind asking your friend that would be great but it good to here it was possible to have a rainbow baby. I am trying to stay relaxed about it all but wary of my age. Thank you xxxxx

Hi @Angelbabyollie
I am so sorry for your terribly sad loss... I have not been through it personally but my best friend has gone through similar. He little boy had downs and a poorly heart but died due to hospital complications.. she wanted another it was just a feeling she had and she did go on to have another little boy but struggles with her periods taking a long while to come back.. but she just kept dtd but I can ask her how long before her periods came back.. but I would imagine the hormones can take at least 3-6 months after delivery as you have a lot on board and I know you are worried about the time aspect but be gentle to yourself too.. the emotional aspect is something that my friend hadn't fully realised and is struggling with a new baby and her grief.. sending big big hugs 💕

Sorry Critter i meant to say that's interesting about the sperm! "Unless it gets used in other ways" lol 😄
Weasle.. Yes i know what you mean about things going off dramatically. .in my case i put it down to age. As cleo says it only takes once for the bfp to happen and with ds we only dtd once possibly twice in one cycle. Now things seem very different.
Angel. .welcome and i am so very sorry to hear of your loss. .your angel baby. Sending you lots of healing vibes and baby dust your way xx

@weasledee thanks for your reply , when we were ttc after the mmc I did ovulation sticks , temping and everything. Got so stressed that gave up trying and low and behold fell pregnant with Ollie ! I am trying not to be obsessive like I was before but keep testing hpt as no af and just get the blank whiteness of the tests back! I think the ovulation tests may be wise but thought should wait until af appears when ever that will be ! Xxx

Hi angel, oh my, I'm so sorry to read your story, I just can't begin to imagine what you have all been through.
I haven't really got an answers to your questions but are you using the ovulation sticks? I've also found the temping quite useful too....

Hi I hope you don't mind me joining, just wondered if anyone in a similar situation to me or any advise! I am 42 have 3 girls and had a mmc 2 years ago and after a year fell pregnant with my angel boy, he had trisomy 21 but no heart / lung or any problems. He was born 24 April 2018 and died 6 may 2018 ( we still do not know why but possible hospital error ) anyway here I am 11 weeks on and ttc once again. Not to replace him but because time is not on my side and I know can't leave it too long. So it's 11 weeks on and no af as yet and no signs - u don't know if af will come back but am hoping for the concept of you ovulate before af so keep trying. Has anyone had similar situation as in periods took long time to return after angel baby? Chances of getting hpt before af? Sorry and thanks for any advice . Sending positivity to everyone xxx

It only takes once!

To be honest ladies, I feel it's the only thing we haven't tried. All my previous pregnancies, including ones that ended in miscarriage have been when we had sex once (!!!) on ovulation day on the first month of trying each time. Things have have gone off dramatically this year ( just one chemical)

Cleo.. omg so did we!! I was at the stage where i was getting too scared to try as the mc i had was really painful and i'm a big wuss!! At one point we absteined for 6 months. .i'm surprised DS didn't go off with a younger model tbh..he's a good un!

Apparently the sperm that are sitting around in the tubes only have a shelf life of 3 - 5 days max. After that they die and will need to be ejaculated before any fresh sperm can get through. Of course they could be used up in other ways than by DTD though!

Also volume/count will be dramatically lower if ejaculation happens every day.

We were dtd once a month when I conceived ds!

Orchid...thanks.. Good idea about temping. Wish i'd kept my fertility thermometer now. Chucked it out years ago.
Critter ... Didn't realise they
shoot out mainly dead sperm after 3 days abstinence. .we go alot longer than that at times!!

Hi all, hope you’re all doing ok 😊
Careful with the sex marathons - unless you are lucky enough to have a DH in his early 20s his sperm count and quality will be reduced if he ejaculates every day - every 2 or even 3 days is optimum especially if he has any sperm issues. You shouldn’t go any longer than 3 days though either as he will be shooting out mainly dead sperm after 3 days abstinence. Hope this helps (the things you learn from IVF!)

@Cookie - everything is crossed that this is a sticky one for you xxx🤞

Thanks Cookie. So i'm currently on day 17 and i just don't get this as it says on the babycenter one that i ovulated july 2nd - 7th but i thought i ovulated this week!! I honestly thought i'd ovulated this week. So i'm getting my days totally out of whack!! We dtd x3 so i may still have a chance ..we shall see!