Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

Go to the gp. If all they do is bloods to see what is going on it’s something.

Morning Ladies. Advice. I know, shocking to be asking for it on this forum!!! So since the TCM ended at the start of May my period has gone wack. The cycle after the end of the herbs was 44 days long, last month 35 and currently I am on day 37 and still no AF. Should I just wait this out? Bearing in mind I am not actually sure if I o'vlated.... this past month I did get some EWCM but no pains and I don't feel at all 'periody' or pregnant in any way so I know that there is no BFP around the corner. Is it worth going to the GP do you think - yet?
I am toying with going down the private clomid route again to encourage a kick-start - any thoughts anyone? x

No that’s ok. I tend not to do specifics as not told anyone we were trying in ‘real life’ and I know family come on here. So if it’s ok we’ll leave it at age, ttc 7 months, currently pregnant but waiting to see if it’s viable.

No probs, will update this evening mini when I'm back on my laptop. Karigan, I'm really sorry, can't remember the rest of your story re dcs, time ttc, can you remind me and I'll update yours too.

Thanks for the list shiny!

Thanks so much for doing this Shiny. Wow - what a lot of trying and challenge we share between us all - but also hope - you have have HOPE.
LittleMimosa really like your idea of slowing down.. think I also need to check out the yoga! X 🙆🏼‍♀️

Add me please Shiny...41, ttc #1 for 23 mths, 1 chemical and 1 mc in march .

OK, so in summary:

Alibaba: 42, dds 8 & 6, ttc 2 years
AtrocityNeedles: 44, ttc#1
Booseys: 46, ds, ttc 2.5-3 years
Chat: 45, 5dc, 3 mc, 1 chemical
Cleo: 41, dc 5 & 7, mmc May, ttc 15 months
Cookie: 40, ttc#1, 3 months
Critter: 40, ttc#1, doing IVF
Dicky: 40, ttc#3
Faith: 43, dd 3.5, 2 mc, ttc 2 years
Hmmm: 41, 1dc, ttc 1 month
Karrigan: 40.5
LittleMimosa: 42, dc 5 & 7, ttc 18 months
Matts: 48, dc 11 & 6, 4 chemicals
Orchid: 41, dc 2,5, ttc >1 year, having a crappy time right now
Presh: 39, ttc#1, mmc 2017, Graves disease
Shiny: 40, dd 3, tfmr 2017, mc April
Weasley: 42, dc 7 & 5, 2 mcs 2017, chemical in March

Love me a list.

Doh! Sorry - please read Matts for Boosey in my last muddled post - clearly the caffeine going to my head but I know you girls will forgive me the name confusion (mom v’a mama mistake!) x

Hmm I really like your idea of the bfp list, that would boost our hope levels surely! I did do a 40+ thread on the pregnancy board as orchid said, and there were quite a few of us on there at varying stages of pregnancy. Jojo and I were just a day or so apart with our bfp's, hers has been successful thankfully, sadly mine was not. But as far as stats go, thats about right. It does seem about 50/50 for success rate here.
But while I was pregnant, I also joined the due in december board, which had women of all ages, and the rate of people miscarrying on that board was shocking. It did show me though thats it not just our age group at risk. It's high risk at any age.

I’m so sorry Orchid, that’s really sad. Treat yourself to some chocs, flowers, a nice take-away, massage etc. You will feel better in time. And you have hope in that it was close.

We all have hope and for us mid-40ers, miracles do happen!

Ali - 42, DD8 and DD6, ttc#3 for 2 years

Ah Chat - thank you. I really love it. They are the perfect length and the perfect pace for me. Yes you definitely should get back to it:)

When I did my yoga earlier a video popped up at the side on YouTube called ‘pregnant at 46 Lauren Hanna’ so I watched it and it was v inspiring. I was going to post the link but can’t. It’s an American lady who had her child at 46 naturally after ttc for years and a couple of losses. The things she says have got me thinking. Especially the part about slowing down and being ‘receptive’. It made me think that I actually move around at a pace all the time, juggling full-time work, children and all their activities/homework etc plus trying to keep a clean home, keeping fit, cooking healthy food, being a good daughter, friend, sister and on and on. Does anyone else feel like this? I am going to try to make a concerted effort to slow down, it can only be good for hormones!

littlemimosa that was me who recommended yoga yin, glad it is helping.. feeling like I might need to get back to it soon x

So sorry to read your post orchid, like others wrote we were hoping for the best outcome for you! Be kind to yourself and take some time out to rest and recover.... x

Forgot to put stats on earlier!

Me - aged 48 !!! Ooh that
Looks harsh in black and white - anyway yes 48 but certainly don’t feel it. It’s almost like I’m writing about someone else! Two DC age 6 and 11 TTC no 3 for sometime
now and had about 4 chemicals - remaining hopeful but trying to be realistic at the same time! Had first dc aged 37 and second aged 42. Contrary to medical opinions my second pregnancy was a breeze compared to my first - before during and after! x

Oh and I’m 40 and a half

I think I count as a BFP although still waiting to see if it’s viable 😕

Orchid, that sounds dreadful for you. I know the feeling too as after my last m/c i vowed to call it a day it was so traumatic. I also remember sitting in the hospital thinking 'no more'. But then like a miracle ds happened a few months later when we'd mentally given up on the whole thing.
Thanks for the link to the oldest woman to have got pregnant. I wonder whether the op ever conceived. She's my age. Would be interesting to know

Sorry to read your update Orchid. You can only be strong for so long. Allow yourself time to process and grieve. Would recommnend wine and chocolate as a useful helper upperer. Cleo I had hoped Id have another bfp following my mc but Im still waiting. Af has ended and like yourself ive stocked up on opks and hpts for the coming months.

Sorry everyone. .just catching up and so sad to hear about your bad day Orchid...here's a virtual hug from me xx
hmmm123 .great idea about listing the BFPs ..i can def remember 3 on the 1st part of our super long thread! !

PS : my stats
43 (44 in Aug)
History of MC - 1 before DD (3.5) and one after - been TTC for two years
My DD came @ 29 weeks. My partner is not keen for another child in view of this but I’m still ‘keeping the faith’ 🙏🏻

So sorry Cleo. Yes i do that too btw..i have even been known to get a discarded bfn test out of the bin 10 minutes later just to be completely sure! The way it gets you ...

Thanks everyone for the great news msg's.
AliBaba2..re. Your ecg, why doesn't that surprise me?! I was half suspecting a malfunctioning monitor!

Rollcall ..i'm 46 (quite possibly the oldest on here so if manage a bfp everyone will go hyper! !). One DS. Ttc no. 2 for 2.5-3 years (but admittedly not seriously until recently) confirmed non peri-menopausal and mother nature is giving me a boot to hurry as i'm getting strong ov symptoms but no bfp's. Like weasledee also currently debating on whether to continue ttc as surely i'm too old now!

Welcome Presh. Sorry you are having a rough time. Hope you find support here ..good luck xx

First off Orchid - that’s pants. Your post made me cry and I know that if us ladies were to sit down on some comfy sofas right now we’d all be hugging you and each other. But for now - a virtual hug is all we have and thank God for the internet and the ability for us to be there for each other in these testing times.
Boosey - you are so right - in Turkey last week I counted in excess of 20 pregnant bellies on display - cuts me up, despite being happy for these lucky women.
And just to add to the resonance of your message Boo - here I am sat in Costa having a latte reading this thread!! You couldn’t have put it better if you’d tried. ☕️