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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

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Orchid222 · 11/06/2018 10:39

Ladies here's our new thread!

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Orchid222 · 13/06/2018 20:39

Thank you Mimosa, I think today was the hardest day in terms of bleeding so hopefully physically it'll be getting easier from now on. Emotionally not there yet (broke down tonight and cried on dh's shoulder) but hoping to get better soon and be ready when ov comes.
Your vitamin regimen is incredible! I really need to up my game, will stock up on more stuff tomorrow. Purchased opks and pregnancy tests today so ready to go in that sense.
Cleo I think I bought the strongest ubiquinol on Amazon a while back, 300mg so that's what I had been taking before bfp and just started back on it today.

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shinyblackdog · 13/06/2018 20:38

I don't go to baby showers, they sound cringey and somehow tempting fate. I always give a present but not until the baby is out.

shinyblackdog · 13/06/2018 20:35

Here we go:

Alibaba: 42, dds 8 & 6, ttc 2 years
Apple: 42, mmc, tfmr, chemical, mc, ttc#1 three years
AtrocityNeedles: 44, ttc#1
Booseys: 46, ds, ttc 2.5-3 years
Chat: 45, 5dc, 3 mc, 1 chemical
Chendy: 40, poss thinking about ttc#3
Cleo: 41, dc 5 & 7, mmc May, ttc 15 months
Cookie: 40, ttc#1, 3 months
Critter: 40, ttc#1, doing IVF
Dicky: 40, ttc#3
Faith: 43, dd 3.5, 2 mc, ttc 2 years
Helbelle: 42, mmc at 40, dd 14 months, BFP!!!
Hmmm: 41, 1dc, ttc 1 month
Karigan: 40.5, ttc 7 months, waiting to see if viable
LittleMimosa: 42, dc 5 & 7, ttc 18 months
Matts: 48, dc 11 & 6, 4 chemicals
Minime: 41, ttc #1 for 23 mths, 1 chemical and 1 mc in march
Orchid: 41, dc 2,5, ttc >1 year, having a crappy time right now
PollyIndia: 40?, ds, ttc 18 months
Presh: 39, ttc#1, mmc 2017, Graves disease
Shiny: 40, dd 3, tfmr 2017, mc April
Weasle: 42, dc 7 & 5, 2 mcs 2017, chemical in March

Mini added, Karigan updated (completely see where you're coming from), also Apple, Chendy, Helbelle and PollyIndia from the old thread.

Cleozeta · 13/06/2018 20:17

Mimosa I bet you have one of those oap pill organisers!!
How do you find vitex? I have some but not started it yet. Thinking about doing B complex and progesterone cream this cycle so not sure it would mix?

How much ubiquinol does everyone take? I was on 100 but after mc have upped to 200 as clearly need the help with egg quality

Cleozeta · 13/06/2018 20:13

Never taken maca so can't comment on that, although 'flooding' can happen to us over 40's unfortunately, it's one of the many unfortunate things that can change. I had a few like that last year, much heavier than when I mc. Alternatively, it could also be early mc. Are you late?

I won't be going to the babyshower. I don't think they would appreciate the meltdown that it may trigger!

What is fertilaid? Not heard of that one.
Wow all go for Friday, how exciting critter - good luck!!

CritterTamer · 13/06/2018 20:10

Thank you @Littlemimosa 😊 your vitamin regime sounds amazing - you’re so disciplined! I just take a Fertilaid pill with breakfast, lunch and dinner, and Ubiquinol morning and night.

littlemimosa · 13/06/2018 20:02

Oh and re supplements here’s mine:
Breakfast: Vitex and CoQ10.
Lunch: pre-natal vit/minerals, Cod liver oil+Omega 3, & EPO up to ovulation.
Dinner:vitamin C+zinc
Bedtime: probiotics, magnesium spray on skin (=to 200mg).
Also use Maca now and Goji powders in food.
Shock

littlemimosa · 13/06/2018 19:58

Critter - how exciting!! Great news on the follicles so my fingers are tightly crossed for you x

Dickie - I started on Maca about 3 weeks ago (I’m not taking tablets though, I have the powder so I just stir half a teaspoon into my yoghurt or porridge everyday). I’ve only had one period since then and it was light for me so sorry can’t hekp you there.

Cleo - baby showers are so American along with these high school graduation things they all go to these days complete with ball gowns and tuxedos. Yuck. Don’t go. Look after number one.

Orchid - thinking of you. Hope you’re getting some tlc.

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Orchid222 · 13/06/2018 19:29

Wow Critter less than 2 days to go- good luck!
Sorry Dickybow I've never taken made but it sounds extreme. Was your period late? Do you have any clots? I'm guessing with an early mc you might have some as opposed to just having a heavy period.

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CritterTamer · 13/06/2018 19:07

Wow @Dickybow321 - that sounds unpleasant! No idea about the Maca though sorry never taken it.

It’s official - I need to take my trigger shot tonight for egg collection on Friday morning! No more nasty injections for a while after this one and sedation on Friday - yay 😁

Dickybow321 · 13/06/2018 19:02

Or maybe it's nothing to do with the maca and I'm having a very early MC Sad. I'm literally flooding through a moon cup and night time pad every 45 minutes. I've changed clothes four times today

Dickybow321 · 13/06/2018 18:43

Quick question, guys. Is anybody taking maca and found that it made their periods extremely heavy? I'm currently having the heaviest period ive had in my life Sad and I'm wondering if it's due to the fact that I've been taking maca (along with a gazillion other supplements). I've googled it and a few women have said it made their periods really heavy.

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Orchid222 · 13/06/2018 18:04

I keep bumping into one of the mums at ds's nursery who was due last Friday. So I'm bumping into her every day and in a few days I'll be bumping into her with a newborn which will probably be even harder to take 😢
Never heard of Fertilaid but will definitely look into it!

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CookieWaffle · 13/06/2018 17:52

Ooh good luck Critter, that sounds hopeful.

I think I'm definitely out this month, had a bit of a meltdown yesterday but I keep trying to remind myself that we've still not been trying that long. I just have too many friends who had little 'one night accidents'!

CritterTamer · 13/06/2018 17:48

I would definitely not be able to face a baby shower, and that’s not even considering I’ve never had a mc so I can’t imagine how you would be able to face that!

Re. Vits - has any one tried Fertilaid? It seems to be very popular in America but it’s harder to get here but you can get it on eBay. I used to use it earlier this year and honestly never felt so healthy. I tried proceive max for a while but the pint of disgusting powdery drink every morning was starting to make me heave so gone back to the Fertilaid now. It’s 600 dose of B6 daily rather than pregnacare 400. I also take Ubiquinol now after learning about it on this group 😊

Cleozeta · 13/06/2018 17:28

Orchid, I still can't look at pregnant people a month after mc, I hope it gets easier!
I think I'm finding it harder today as af is here at if feels like I'm going through it all over again.

Cleozeta · 13/06/2018 17:25

Critter that all sounds really interesting, I'm tempted to try it too!
Goo luck, I really hope it works for you

Chat - don't worry I won't be going to the baby shower, sounds crap anyway!!! And just not in a place for it right now

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Orchid222 · 13/06/2018 17:02

Critter that's great news!
Cleo- I wouldn't be able to go to a baby shower and sit and smile. I'm bleeding quite heavily, just passed a very pregnant woman and just seeing her made me choke. So upsetting.
Thanks Chat re: vits. You can take ubiquinol throughout the cycle so you don't need to wait for the next one is you don't want to.

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Chatbash72 · 13/06/2018 16:19

That's fab news CritterTamer.. 🤞🤞
Cleozeta baby showers are crap, my sis and I had m/c's about a month apart 2.5 years ago.. she then was preg 5 months later, me not so much and her shower was so diff and my sis in law found it hard too as they were trying. She is now 30 wks after having tubes flushed and is thankfully not having a shower.. but do you have to go? A tummy bug makes a good get out excuse.. your mental health is far more important than a baby shower.. 💕💕💕
How did the scan go sparklyglitterball ?
Re vits Orchid222 i take Superdrug pre conception vits and omega 3,6,9 and that all.. but tempted to start on Ubiquinol but ov came so quickly so will start next cycle.. x

CritterTamer · 13/06/2018 15:35

Hi all
Just got back from 7 day follicle scan - the bad news is that only 8 antral follicles came up this month 😔 was disappointing as last follicle scan 2 months ago had 13, but the nurse wasn’t worried and said that 8 is still a good result for 40yo - many apparently only get 2 or 3 so trying to feel positive about that. The great news is that all 8 have responded amazingly well to the stims and are between 18 and 22mm already after only 7 days, which explains why I’ve been feeling so uncomfortable the last few days. looks like my EC will be brought forward to Friday or Saturday - just waiting on a call from the consultant to confirm 🤞

Cleozeta · 13/06/2018 15:12

Faith - when I went to gp for wacky cycles I was just told 'perimenopause' and sent on my way. I had only just turned 40! Make sure you push for more if you go.

Orchid, i avoided taking anything except ubiquinol and pre conception vits until 1st af so body could readjust. Now I'm back on the lot.

Karigan I still have high hopes for you!

Just been invited to a baby shower. 1st of all, that upset me as it feels like salt in the wound, and 2nd. Who has babyshowers in the uk??? Thought that was an american thing!

Karigan198 · 13/06/2018 14:29

Lol apparently it can happen. I posted on another site and here and I’ve had loads telling me they didn’t get a BFP until 12 weeks odd gone! How strange is that. Wouldn’t believe it myself if I hadn’t had that scan

AtrocityNeedles · 13/06/2018 12:43

Orchid, a nutritionist once recommended Resveratrol as a very good antioxidant. I take a mountain high pile of vitamins daily Grin

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Orchid222 · 13/06/2018 12:35

Good luck Faith, I hope the gp will be able to figure it out. Now that you mentioned TCM, I got my bfp right after I finished it so who knows what my cycles will be after this mc. When I first started TCM they did get a bit longer, I hope they won't go completely crazy now.
Karigan-I meant to say yesterday, of course you'll see what happens at the scan on Monday and what the doctor says but you'll only be 6+4 so if there's any growth at all I'm sure the doc will tell you to wait but if not, wait! 6+4 is still early. Yes you should see a fetal pole by then but I've read so many stories where it didn't show until later and if the pregnancy is not viable you want to be absolutely sure of that before making a decision to stop it.
Ladies I need some help please. I'm keen to start on vitamins as soon as possible, holding off on vit B until I start ovulating again but what can I take in the meantime? Ubiquinol and vit C would be a good start right? And magnesium? I know a few of you have listed your vits before but I can't remember them all. I only used to take epo, vit b and ubiquinol before my bfp but I was also doing TCM now that I'm not doing it anymore I feel I should throw more vits at my body to see if that helps.
Minime-apologies, I forgot about your bfp yesterday! You got that early in the year yes? If so, that would make 5 bfp's in the first 5 months of this year with 2 still going strong so not a bad result considering we're all after 40 right? And that's not counting Karigan's special situation yet (not doubting the pregnancy just buffled about bfn's) so let's see how that develops, hopefully next week I'll be saying that's 6 bfp's with 3 going strong!

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Chatbash72 · 13/06/2018 10:06

KeepingTheFaith9 I would go to the gp to x