Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

Morning all, Critter, I do fertility acupuncture every other week. I enjoy it because my acupuncturist is great, works with lots of other ttcers so has helpful anecdotes and has had her own fertility issues, so really understands what it's like. I must admit that, while I like relaxing with plinky plunky music for half an hour or so I don't generally feel that different afterwards. In terms of the process, your acupuncturist should have a thorough conversation with you about your situation, plus your diet and lifestyle, and place the needles accordingly. Mine takes my pulse and looks at my tongue every time. The needles are fine, there are different thicknesses and mine uses quite thick ones as she says it gives her more control, so I'm aware of them going in but it's not painful. Sometimes they twiddle them during the session. Depending on what part of the cycle I'm in I get electric currents through ones in the stomach to stimulate the ovaries. It's an odd buzzy sensation.

Whether it works or not I couldn't say - I've got pregnant while having acupuncture but that might have happened anyway. It can't hurt though and it's nice to have someone to talk to who understands these things. Hope that helps, enjoy!

I was never on the pill so I can't even use that as an excuse!

LOL @Cookiewaffle - same here! I never noticed any of this stuff before, but my excuse is is was on the pill til age 39.5 and half of that time was on Cerazette which made me entirely amenstrual so I have no idea what an actual normal cycle should feel like really. Every one throws new weird symptoms at me now that I’m scrutinising them! 😊

Never noticed anything before TTC, now I notice sore boobs every month and I swear I could feel my ovaries yesterday, I mean really, after 40 years I'm just discovering these things

Does anyone else get ov symptoms? Feel like my boobs are a bit bigger (though not tender) and I've been really knackered and short tempered for the last 48 hours.

Maybe I'm just finding excuses for being a total shitbag today

I agree chat, although my doctor was great, very supportive. It was the clinic that I got referred to which was the biggest waste of my time ever! As I mentioned at the time, the consultant just said "have sex" I couldn't believe I'd taken a day off work for that!!!!

She's 3. She'll be 4 in a couple of months. Yes, there are plenty of trying moments every bedtime but she's genuinely a good kid. She comes into my bed every night and I'm trying everything I can think of to stop it! DH are in separate rooms as a result

Hopefully this will change as of tonight and we might have more chances make her a new sibling!! Then they can keep each other company (eventually!).

Hang in there ladies. Would love to see a BFP on here soon x

Hi Mellon, Err yes, i also said that last year! How old is your dd? My ds is 4.5 and is going through a difficult rebellious stage. He most def doesn't want any babies in the house! Getting him to bed each night is like a military exercise..we battle with him every single night! So atm the thought of having another is enough to put me off ttc. Being this age with a 4 year old is exhausting and i sometimes wonder wtf am i doing here? !!

And @mellongoose mile stones are hard... but don't give up hope... there are positive stories out there.. and positivity on here.. xxx

Ooh @BooseysMom I hear you... I have finally put all the cots up in the loft. Am about to have a root through for a few baby grows for new nephew.. but it has thrown me and now he is here it's not helping my broodiness.. no one is asking you to close the door.. you keep it open for as long as it needs to be.. my best friend ( who can't have kids but has also been single for over a decade) said well you may never have another one.. and you have to get used to that! We are still friends but the relationship isn't what it was... I will give up when my periods have stopped but for now they are reg as clockwork and I have surrounded myself with like minded ladies.. sending lots and lots of baby dust.. and also an article with Zara Tindall ( i love her, she had her first baby in same mat unit I worked in ) but she had 2 miscarriages between kiddies.. I think fertility probs are everywhere every age but we just feel it more because over 40's women wanting babies is not what drs want to deal with.. xx

I'm with you on that @BooseysMom. DD went into her 'big girl' bed today. There is so much I should be passing on but I can't.

Maybe next year I also said that last year

...give them away.

Sorry i've been quiet too. Just finished a weird af. Tmi alert...the blood was distinctly strange smelling. It wasn't as red as usual and was brown-ish. It def isn't anything to get excited about sadly as it was exactly 28 day cycle. Now i'm heading towards the fertile window. No ewcm as yet.
Letsdothis42..i watched that vid and it reminded me of when we didn't know for 3 months that we were expecting! The poor lady was told it was v likely ov cancer but it was her baby instead! What an amazing surprise!
Today i felt a bit teary as i was going thru baby sleep suits and i just can't bear to get shot of them..even if we don't have dc2 i still can't bring myself to give them them. Its just too difficult to close the door x

@Weasledee sorry I can’t be much help as I’ve never temped but if you never got a positive OPK could it just be an anovulatory cycle? Or if your temp has been high throughout could you have ovulated very early? Hopefully someone will have the answer for you soon 😊

AFM - AF is due tomorrow - this has been such a weird cycle will be glad to move on to the next one - dont even have normal pre-AF symptoms. Just counting the days down to when we can start the next IVF cycle I guess. Oh and I have an acupuncture appointment this week - has anyone tried fertility acupuncture? What was it like?

@weasledee not sure I can help.. as ditched the temps in jan because they did my brain in... but think that this very hot weather might not be helping with our resting body temps... how's your cm ? Has it gone ew? Think that's prob the best indicator or checking your cervix.. peri menopause I thought starts with changes to length of af arrival...

Right ladies help with this one...
Always had 28 day cycle, which apart from last month, which was 4 days late, has never changed
Always had nice temp patterns and fairly strong opk sticks.
So this month that has changed, got faint opk from day 8, but harder to day 12 and slowly gone fainter, today day 16, very faint. Weird thing is my temps haven't fallen below 37.3, and I'd expect around 36,8 to indicate ovulation!! Any ideas? Clearly my brain says menopause!!

Am also in my fertile week. Dtd last night but seem to have more ewcm today 🙄 I don't think we will get chance to get busy again so am hoping it's done the trick. Started with light ewcm on Friday. I've no idea when I actually ov!!

Fingers crossed for you @Karigan198

Hi ladies, sorry I’ve been quiet. I don’t really know what to say as I have no idea what’s going on with me.

After the whole what is going on saga from May I hoped I would get a normal cycle. I haven’t once things had taken their course. I’m now 3 weeks late. I think I didn’t ovulate until 2 weeks later than usual so didn’t bother until a further week went by.

Now though still no AF or a positive. I’m sure it’s not an anovulatory cycle as you would not believe how sore the girls are and there’s been plenty of ewcm. So once again I’m just sitting here wandering wtf is happening.
We haven’t been ‘trying’ this cycle but just seeing what happens

Sorry pressed send too soon.

We haven’t been ‘trying’ but just seeing what happens this cycle so only been monitoring ewcm rather than opks etc.

@Angelbabyollie could your ovaries be gearing up...

My new little nephew arrived yesterday 3 weeks early and has thrown me for a loop.... I guess because my sis in law and I were trying at the same time... I am thrilled for them but feeling a little pang of jealousy.. not sure when we can visit but hoping that my mother is not around or that might tip me over my emotional boundaries which are stretch at the mo... am busying myself with the thought that I am ovulating ( well think as ewcm is no more that have ovulated and we managed to dtd every other day during the mucusy period.. nice !! )
Means that af is due whilst we are away... not sure if need to pack pads and a test to have both outcomes covered.. hope all are keeping "busy" 😉😉😉 we seem to ov and af in sync..
now some booties to crochet 🤦‍♀️

Can I ask you guys - I am 14 weeks postpartum of my little angel baby, still no period and ttc. I am having pulling sensation over past few days. Did hpt and negative, any ideas? Am hoping for my rainbow but as 42 going to take time. How is everyone doing? Xx

Go for it Cookie and Weasle! 😁

Hey ladies, my body decided to surprise me with a positive OPK, first one so far, so I'm, err... gonna be a bit busy.... :)