Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

littlemimosa is there anything you can take or eat to up your oestrogen? I was using massage oils, drinking raspberry leaf tea and getting into a stress. My best friend said ditch it all and try and trust in you own body.. since those words I did and although I have had 2 m/c more than all last year with temp taking.
hubs and I try to dtd every other day for at last first 2 weeks of cycle and third week if not too exhausted..
I totally understand the ache... every flipping one is preggo at the mo.. including my sis in law.. social media does not help!
I do get the odd hot moment but before af or after ov... but while af still comes there is still hope for all of us...
sorry you are feeling low at the moment... hoping for you and you all 🤞🤞💕💕⭐️⭐️⭐️

Ali - you sound like me. I’ve missed my oestrogen this cycle too. I’m dreading menopause if this is a taste of things to come. How crap is being a woman. I don’t know where to go from here to be honest. I’ve tried literally everything. I can’t go on like this but nor Can I let it go:( I feel such a longing for a baby it’s heart-wrenching. I feel like I’m coming to the end of the road but I don’t know how I’ll cope without the hope. Feeling sad tonight. Hope you ladies are all ok and better than me.

One plus-side of crap hormones is no pmt! I did feel crap for the first half of cycle though. No oestrogen-high.

Mimosa - Just no decent hormonal symptoms. Normally I feel quite positive approaching ov but nothing. Didn’t even feel ov like I usually do. Did get the shivers around 7dpo as normal. Have had more night sweats than normal.

@Littlemimosa - great advice - I’m trying honestly! It doesnt help that DH is one of those super optimistic, power of positive thinking type people and he’s convinced it will happen so easily - he’s even started talking to my tummy LOL. Whenever I try to tone him down and be realistic about the chances he accuses me of being negative... 😔

Anyway they gave me an official test date of July third which is 14 days after transfer. I guess they just want to be absolutely sure there are no false negatives as you stop taking progesterone if you get a BFN at this date.

So glad you found the probable reason for your anovulatory cycleand had a better nights sleep - hope everything gets back to normal for you soon xxx

Ali - in what way crappy cycles?
I’m so glad you mentioned those herbs. I can’t stop thinking that they might be messing up my cycles. I googled it and apparently Vitex can lower oestrogen!! Loads of people posting online that their ovulation stopped from it. Lots of people also saying it helped them but im guessing that if your oestrogen is high to start with it could be good. Not for me it seems. Had a much better night last night too in terms of hot flashes....
What do you take?

I’m ok thanks Mimosa. Hoping for a decent next cycle after 2 crappy ones. Due AF tomorrow and will start back on epo.

Loving Love Island:-)

Critter - step away from the symptom spotting. It’s a guessing game! So from 5 day transfer how many days do they suggest waiting to test? Wouldn’t you deduct 5 from your usual LP? So say 9 afterwards? I’m probably being dumb here....

Ali - omg you’ve just given me a lightbulb moment. A couple of years ago I started taking Maca and distinctly remember now (had totally forgotten til you mentioned it) that I had my first ever anovulatory cycle!! I’m so stopping that. Thanks so much for trying to help me work this thru. It could be a coincidence of course but let’s see.... how’s things with you?

Yes me! Completely addicted. I love it

That should have been Love Island obviously......😳

Cleo - yeah not sure I’ll make it! AF would normally be due for me on Tuesday so will definitely be more hopeful if I make it that far - won’t even start thinking about testing until after that 😊

Is anyone else addicted to Love a Island at the moment? For some strange reason it’s really helping me with this 2ww!

Critter I wouldn't be waiting that long....

Haha yes - I’m supposed to wait until July third to test! Not sure why when the embryologists told me that the embryos would need to hatch and implant within two days realistically to have a chance, which would have been by yesterday - seems like waiting 12 days after that to test is a long time...

Oh critter that's so true! I always say I won't test early too......

Thanks all, trying to keep my chin up! That’s interesting Cleo, most things I had read seemed to imply that once the cramping started it kept coming and going continuously until BFP or later - you have made me feel better 😊 why is it that even when we promise ourselves that we will absolutely, 100% NOT symptom spot this time, we can’t help ourselves?! 😁

Critter - my implantation twinges only lasted one day, and I didn't feel anything after that until near when af was due and I had cramps. Keep positive

Presh - sorry I can't see anything either and I think it's higher than I would have expected. Maybe test again tomorrow?

Mimosa - good luck at gp, I hope they can help

Realistically I think I'm clinging to hope. Have just peed 4 times in past hour. Stopped the progesterone pessaries today and think I'm having withdrawal symptoms!!
@critter don't give up hope. You never know what's going on in there. Fingers crossed for you.....And everyone.

Critter - it’s too early to tell. Some people are pg for weeks and have no idea. Your xfer was last Weds right? I think implantation time can vary as do the cramps.

Mimosa - could it be the Maca/Vitex interrupting your hormones?

@Presh I’m afraid I can’t see anything either on that photo 😔

Feeling less hopeful here today - the strange cramping sensations have disappeared entirely now and don’t feel anything at all anymore (other than sore boobs but I’ve had those since my HCG trigger shot). I guess If it was implantation then it most likely failed as I would think that it would have gone on longer than 1 day or I would at least feel something afterwards.

Feeling a little down but trying to remain positive - my OTD isn’t until July third and that seems a long way off - will be interesting to see if my short LP kicks in despite the progesterone pessaries - AF would be due Tuesday so i guess if I make it past that I might feel kore hopeful again 😊

Hope everyone else is doing ok today and enjoying the sunshine.
@Littlemimosa I hope the doc is helpful to you and you get a sympathetic one xxx

Presh I can’t see anything at all hun. Sorry.

Ali/Cleo - thanks and sorry to moan. I just can’t get over suddenly having night hot flushes. I am overall warmer at the mo with this weather but these are definite ‘surges’ of heat which come and go. I think I will go back to my gp yes.

Can anyone see this light tinge? Is it me grasping at straws? Is it even in the right place? Am i losing it??

It could be worth some acu Mimosa.

Have you started taking anything new which could explain it? Vitex?

So weird Mimosa. I have been sweaty in bed this week. Could it be the hot weather? I will keep an eye on it once AF arrives/oestrogen kicks in. My oestrogen levels were high which is also not a good thing and a sign of aging :-(

Mimosa I do wonder if tests might help you, to either know where you are at, or more likely put your mind at rest. I know its stressful but i really believe its a one off blip - not the end, and tests would show that

Sorry it was bfn Presh.

All I’ve got to report is a night of hot flashes. It’s unbelievable how this has just suddenly started. I’m at a loss.

Weasel - hot flashes are loss of oestrogen so gaining a few pounds is my vain attempt to store some up. Probably nothing I can do in reality tho:-( I had quite big babies too, my youngest was 8lb which for me was huge.

Am I the only one getting these symptoms??