Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

No ive not tested again since my blood test came back negative nearly 2 weeks ago.

TMI but i keep getting lower mild cramping that seems to coincide with an increased flow of discharge, just had what looks like snot again TMI sorry. This discharge seems to happen worse when im getting this cramping but the increased flow has been like this for weeks, sometimes milky sometimes clear and varied textures.

Could all this be linked to my FSH being elevated? I just feel like theres something going on down there, like bob the builder is doing some home improvements or something 😅

I think it would be a very different scenario if you went private.

I honestly have never been to a more pointless appointment for anything, ever. His closing comment "have sex, best of luck" unbelievable.
I was wondering if I'd get the same reaction if I went private! Probably not? Have you ladies received better help and advice than that??
So medically there's no more help for me. I just don't know why I even had this appointment today?? They could have told me over the phone, instead as I take time off work etc

Weasle that sounds really crap. NHS seem very reluctant to perscribe progesterone and I have no idea why. I was made to feel really stupid when I asked for my progesterone levels to be checked when I got pregnant before.
Utter crap that they wont test or anything either, sounds like they were really dismissive.
What will you do next?

Ooh @weasledee that is beyond crap treatment of a patient... we have you and will support 💕💕💕💕 sending big hugs x

Well I can now tell you what an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic is like....... it's an utter waste of time!!!!
To sum up this is the info and help I got....
You're 42, have 2 kids so there's nothing wrong. Plus u have regular periods.... I asked about progesterone if I got pregnant - no they wouldn't give me that as apparently it wouldn't help.
I'm livid at what was a complete waste of my time! I feel lik I was completely written off, no mention of tests or anything..... 😡

Weasle I had a few cycles of feeling nauseous in the later part of the 2ww last year. I usually get some kind of 'teaser' every cycle and it's often different. I wasn't sure weather the nausea was perimenopause related, progesterone related or psychological but it stopped.

@weasledee ?? Trail singer ??? Not got my brain in this morning... have know idea what I meant

@weasledee good luck, have know idea what to expect but hope it is positive.. not heard about the sickness before, not associated with menopause.. I have had waves of nausea but not a good trial singer as had an early m/c last cycle.. so think mine was connected with preg, just little one didn't stick.. xxx

**2nd 🙄

Meant to add, I have my 2st recurrent miscarriage appointment this morning (even though they said I didn't meet the criteria!!)
Anyone know what I should expect? Thanks - bit nervous

Hi Emma welcome to the group....

Ladies now doing two types of symptom spotting 🙄😁
I've noticed for the second half of the month I'm feeling sick mostly in the mornings. Now I'm hoping this is a pregnancy symptom (Like I do every month) but I'm more concerned it's a menopause symptom..... it's been happening for about 3 months now....
Anyone else having this???

Welcome @emmalou512 have you tested again? Gps seem so insensitive about women in their 40's, this thread seems to highlight this...
loved your comment about castration 🤣🤣🤣 my ex and I were arguing about baby number 4... I wanted, he didn't then after he buggered off new gf up duff before we even had the absolute drawn up 😡
Thankfully have been able to have little ones with hubs no 2, but we are struggling to add to the numbers..
@shinyblackdog your list is getting nicely longer x
@Letsdothis42 not sure if I have said welcome back already, this thread has gone bonkers over weekend and have struggled to keep up.. but so sorry the health service has let you down... a long running theme on here very sad 😞😞😡
Keeping everything crossed for you @CritterTamer but sobbing at dinosaurs is a good sign.. xxx

Letsdothis...you're 42 right? I was 40 and 41 just 3 months after having ds but i tell everyone i was 41! At 42 you have a very good chance. Now i'm 46 hope is draining away for me but i never forget how lucky we are to have ds...A sprinkling of baby dust coming your way!!

@littlemimosa @alibaba @booseysmom

Thanks for the welcome back! I was so optimistic at the start and then nearly 2 years down the line, DTD around ovulation time (going by ovia app) tried the opk's the cheap amazon ones and didn't ever get a positive strong ovulation line, so been going by how I feel (TMI but not EWCM but more watery), all the blood tests I received from GP showed I was ovulating and they were done 10+ months ago, I'm too old for a free IVF go on NHS, (this date passed due to Dr and fertility clinic mistakes) went for HSG, they said all ok and now in limbo because no AF and BFN!

@alibaba yes we were on this thread together and sad that we haven't had our positives yet but here is hoping and praying! I am not sure how many days DPO I am but going by the Ovia app I should be 26 DPO but going by how I felt with ovary pain and watery CM it I could be 16/17 DPO?

Hi @emmalou do you definitely know you're not pregnant im not quite sure what undetectable HSG means via a blood test, fingers crossed you are and @booseysmom's story fills me with hope!

Thankyou for the warm welcome its really nice to have people to look to who are in or have been in similar situations.

Its just really out of the ordinary for me. My Af didnt change, have never been irregular and the only difference in the past few months was that my cycle got slightly longer so about 32 days apart. No heavy bleeding or anything else to make me think anything was changing. I just find it really odd that all this followed that 1 occasion of dtd unprotected on 20th May 1 time in 2 months. Im just going to see what happens now.

Regarding Fsh level, ive read that the test should only be done near very beginning of cycle and that any other time during the cycle the results are irrelevant?

Welcome emma, glad you found us! You are in the right place, as many of us have been in varying similar situations.
I really wouldn't worry to much about the fsh result as its just one small snapshot of very fluctuating patterns. Gp's read too much into it as it's the easier option.
Your situation could be a few things, an anovulatory cycle, which should resolve in time, or a pregnancy which has not reached levels of readable hsg yet. It's worth investigating further if still no answers soon

Letsdothis.. Sorry i meant to write more! Yes ghost symptoms and no bfp..that was my story too . see above.
Good luck x

Critter ..."sitting here crying my eyes out over a David Attenborough documentary about dinosaurs and birds - WTF???" ...made me lol!!
Letsdothis... Welcome back to the fold.
Emmalou..welcome. Wow,
what a bizarre situation! So you're def not preg then? ! I didn't know i was actually preg for 12 weeks as i had light periods which were later every month then one month it didn't happen at all so i went for a scan and there was DS wriggling away in there!!

Hi, im new to this thread and was directed here by cleo. Been reading through all your stories today to try and get a picture.

Anyway, my story in brief, im just turned 42 with 3 kids, ages 17, 10 and 6. I didnt really want any more kids and my ex partner of 20 years had the snip. Pity it wasnt castration 🙄 but thats a whole other story.

We separated last year and i met someone else, a long distance relationship. Hes in sweden im in the uk but we manage to meet up every 6 to 8 weeks.

Back in May he was over here and i had unprotected hanky panky(sorry i cant remember many abbreviations). My Af was due the following week, it never came. I didnt even think about it until i started getting weird symptoms, lower cramping, backache, flushes, and just this weird feeling. Out to buy first test, BFN, symptoms persisted and peeing on sticks became an obsession. I didnt even want kids so why was i so obsessed? I was confused and frustrated every time i got BFN because i was convinced i was pregnant. I even got jealous when i saw a pregnant woman shopping in lidl.

Trip to doctors, blood test showed hcg undetectable, two AF missed at this point and still getting symptoms. Am i crazy? What the doctor did say was that my fsh levels were 29 and she told me my body and hormones are shifting towards menopause. 😢 i left that office thinking i need a straight jacket because im convinced im pregnant.

Still no AF since 19th April, still weird symptoms consistant with pregnancy.

I now want another child and feel ive left it too late but reading here gives me some hope. Sorry for extremely long winded post i did try to keep it all brief 😅

Progesterone was tested twice and fine both times. One was 30ish one was 50ish. So eggs are fertilising and implanting but then miscarrying very early on. It’s got to be egg quality. I guess people have CPs without ever knowing about it. I’ve only had 2 (I think) which went on several days after AF was due.

Let’s - how many dpo are you? I may have been on the thread 2 years ago with you! (Although I was in denial about the 40+ thing then)...

Critter - id be exactly like you. Waiting as long as I could. I hate pregnancy tests.

Letsdothis- welcome back. I’m sorry you’ve had to come back but it’s good to have you all the same.

Ali - I agree with Cleo. It might be worth trying to push for some tests. Perhaps say you were a bit further along than you were? Did you say your progesterone was low? Could this be related?

Still nothing happening here. Still feeling sad but coping ok. Trying to actually let out my sadness and cry a bit rather than holding it in all the time. Loving yoga yin too and trying to do my Headspace app each day.

Ali - might be worth looking into though? They might have some suggestions of things that may help or some tests they can do? Such a shame as you can obviously conceive, we just need it to stick!

Welcome letsdothis! Sorry to hear you are having a difficult cycle. Have you tried using a frer? Have you been to gp? Must be frustrating! Do you do opk's or temp? Are you certain of when you ovulated?

Cleo, haven’t spoken to GP about it but no doubt it’s age-related. The fertilised egg must get to a certain stage then go wrong - which is to be expected I guess. Not sure what else it could be.

2 of the CPs, AF wasn’t even that late so GPs don’t even class that as a pregnancy.

Hello All lovely ladies! please can I join! I was on this thread two years ago when I first started trying at 41 cycle 1, I am now 43 still TTC #1 .

@shiney can you please add me to the list!

I am rooting for you all as it seems such a supportive group @Critter I am waiting for your results with baited breath too fingers firmly crossed for you!

For the first time ever I am cycle day 12 with no AF, I m a regular 28/29 day cycle and haven't ever been late before, but BFN when tested on Cycle day 3 and then yesterday. Am so confused worried and upset that this could be Peri menopausal symptoms! I have had immense cramping symptoms, and have felt I've had a ghost period for the past nearly two weeks! all the period pain and sometimes worse with non of the blood!

I have read through the thread with hope when some ladies have mentioned that a BFN is quite common even if you have fallen pregnant!