Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

So sorry Critter. I think you have a good chance if it working within the 3 goes. x

Ohhhhh @CritterTamer I am so sorry..could it just be not enough hormones levels to register on the test? Sending lots of love and hugs.. 💕💕💕💕💕

Arrrhhh so sorry critter, I too was thinking of you this morning....
After all you went through it must b extra hard, take care x

So sorry to hear that critter. A BFN must be so much harder after all you went through this month. Bigs hugs to you, and fingers crossed for next cycle. Will you start the next one straight away?

So sorry @critter. Was thinking about you earlier. Not much else to say. Lots of hugs.

Hi ladies

So it was a BFN this morning. I knew deep down that it was coming - have done for about the last 4 days or so, but still utterly devastating to see it. Kind of feeling numb at the moment - expect the meltdown will come later. Can’t really say much else at the moment - the thought of gong through all that again is a bit overwhelming, but thanks everybody for your support over the past month 😊

Good luck for tomorrow @Critter

Thanks for the success stories @sparrow, its so nice to hear them!

Legumes and Salmon here we come!

ALi thanks for the link. I’m so scared to actually do it tho. The thought of something scraping the inside wall of my uterus makes me want to curl up be die lol.

Hi Sparrow, good luck for your blood test tomorrow. Let us know how you get on.

Critter- good luck to you too for tomorrow. Also, I don’t want to scare you but I’ve read some negative stuff linking Mercury fillings with infertility and other things (especially if they’re actually cracked and leaking). If I were you I’d try to hunt down a ‘bio’ dentist in your area and try to get it safely replaced.

I love fish so have no issues eating any sort really but more palatable oily options might be smoked salmon (with cream cheese on a bagel obvs, yum) smoked mackerel (Waitrose do a yummy soy and honey one), mackerel from a tin which is slightly less erm fishy and baked salmon cooked in soy, ginger, garlic and chilli. No need to go all out and eat herrings and roll mops!!!!

Legumes are any beans, lentils, green beans, peas and also seeds and nuts.

Hi all, I posted on this thread a few months ago and just haven't seem to have found the time to actively contribute since then, apologies for this.

I wanted to post again though as I am one of the 40+ success stories as I did get pregnant through my first round of IVF back in March 2016 and had my first (and only so far), DS at 42 in Dec 2016. I also have two very good friends who are pregnant at 45 (after 5 rounds of IVF) and naturally pregnant and gave birth at 44, both their first children. So it can happen, with and without the help of science.

I also wanted to say that if anyone has not been to see the Dr about possible fertility issues and may be entitled to help on the NHS to exaggerate completely about the time you have been TTC! I had to wait so long for my NHS appointments back in 2015, that it added months onto the waiting for answers. Then finally when we did get to see a consultant he was close to useless offering no advice and just told us we would have to go for IVF, which he then pointed out most strongly, would not be funded by the NHS

I've now just completed another go at IVF for DC number 2, but after an FRER test on Sunday morning, I think my luck has run out. I do have an HSG blood test booked tomorrow, but I am not holding out much hope.

I do have some clomid type tablets left over from my IVF cycle so I may try these again for the next couple of months while deciding whether to go for IVF again.

I'm off now to add lots of lovely kippers and kale to my shopping list!!

Critter good luck for tomorrow, try not to feel too down yet, there is still a possibility.
Scary about the mercury filling, I wouldn't have guessed that!

Why is it always the really grim foods that are so good for us?? Mackerel is vile!! Not sure I can bring myself to eat that, but I guess I'll have to try. Why can't it be cod?? (With chips & curry sauce obvs)

Mimosa - article on endo scratch:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/07/03/simple-womb-scratch-can-double-chance-of-giving-birth-study-find/amp/

@Cleozeta mackerel is a good oily fish.. with a blob of natural yog and a little horseradish is yum.. legumes kale, greens etc good antioxidants.. @littlemimosa have switched to wholewheat but not gone brown in the rice front, only have basmati once a week.. x

I’m deffo gonna stock up on oily fish and legumes then - thanks for the tip!

Critter, best of luck for tomorrow!

@cleozeta legumes are beans and oily fish would be things like mackerel and sardines (definitely not tuna and cod).

@Littlemimosa I’m alright, thanks for asking. Don’t really have any hope that I’m going to get a BFP. Although I do have lots of ‘symptoms’ they are very on and off and not getting any stronger so I’m pretty certain it’s just all the hormone supplementation I’m on causing them.

Feeling kinda down and trying to psych myself up to start the whole thing again 😔 to top it off I’ve got a very old filling which has cracked and is causing me loads of tooth pain - went to the dentist today to get it replaced and they can’t take it out if there’s even the smallest chance of pregnancy because apparently it has mercury in it!? I had no idea fillings were made of mercury - it’s been gradually crumbling and breaking up for months and I’ve been swallowing bits of it!

I read the thing about white pasta and rice, I've now gone brown. But I didn't know about the fish. Which fish would be classed as oily fish? And what the hecky pecky is legumes??

Oh and refined pasta and rice was associated with earlier menopause. Yikes.

Here’s the study link:

jech.bmj.com/content/early/2018/04/10/jech-2017-209887

Critter- how are you feeling? Hope you’re holding your s* together! Thinking of you.

Weasel sorry it was so disappointing. I’ve not been to recurrent miscarriage clinic but my fertility appointments concluded the same way ‘on paper there’s nothing wrong with you and there’s nothing else we can do for you. Oh and if you want to self- refer for ivf here is a leaflet.’ It’s very upsetting. Could you feasibly go private?

Emma - welcome aboard. I can’t advise you I’m afraid. My body is a mystery too right now.

So ladies I was reading something this morning which was a British study done which basically found that women who ate lots of legumes delayed menopause by over a year and those who ate oily fish delayed it by up to 3 years! Guess what I’m eating more of?!

Emma I had discharge like that in my annovulatory cycle, but I also had it in my pregnancy. I think the discharge can be a result of stuff going on, whatever that may be!

@chatbash Thanks, yep I am starting to realise some of the treatment we are receiving is utter crap!

@booseysmom no I am 43 and 3 months but still holding out hope! fading fast but still in there!

@weasledee that is unbelievable, the Dr's comment and the pointless appt. I remember at my last fertility clinic appt when I was told that cut off date was 42, could've told me that before the nearly one year wait for the appointments and I would've thought of something else whereas my GP said 44 was cut off for a go on NHS, the fertility clinic Dr said 'oh all your tests are fine, no chance of conceiving with IVF off you go have sex and best of luck but virtual close door in my face type of scenario!

Stupidly I closed myself off for months instead of bouncing back!

@Emma Im laughing so much at your bob the builder comment I feel exactly the same so when you said that your HCG was undetectable with a blood test I have been wondering if there is any point in going for mine or just waiting and getting a result like @booseysmom where nothing can be seen or known and 12 weeks later there is a baby in there !!!