TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

Also @zarala just realised I forgot to comment. I laughed alot at zaralaroid 😂😂😂 Hope it doesn't come to that!

@PassTheAfterEights im so sorry, that really sucks. Iv no idea why this happens. A char with the doctor will hopefully help.

@Wescat welcome and sorry for your loss.
Thats an unfortunate class to have to teach so soon. Like others said, can anyone cover?

@KnitKitty sounds really confusing, iv no advice really, but i do hope it sort itself out soon, im hoping its a little miracle in there! Will you see a doctor?

@ek78 🙊i don't blame you for hiding

@Pampl3m0usse Sorry things are crappy, as if it it all isnt hard enough. I hope the docot sorts things out for you

@Jessabean not testing til af due on Monday just need to distract myself until then!

Glad we're all on the same page re Facebook- have to say I really hate the whole site now, full of attention seekers. Deleted the app from my phone but keep it active as it's the only way my dad chooses to communicate these days! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Seems like a few people have had a tough few days. If only it was all more straight forward, at least as easy as they make it look in films anyway! ♥️🌈

Thanks @Jessabean and @Boboelephant Iq am hoping we have conceived and this uti is worth it. I did tell GP we are ttc so got antibiotics safe for baby just in case. I am planning to test 2 weeks after I think I ovulated so around the 22nd/23rd. Fx!

@knitknitty what a total headfuck! But yes, do what feels right for you. If that is hanging in a bit and retesting do that.
@passtheaftereights so so sorry to hear this. Hugs to you.

@Jessabean thankyou. I am going to test on Friday as long as my temp stays up. If not, I'll wait until after af- due Sun. Had acupuncture tonight to encourage implantation so fingers crossed! How are you going?

@Wescat sorry I missed you! Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm shocked you can't have a few days off after your MC. Can someone cover that for you?

@Pampl3m0usse I'm so sorry for your bfn. And everything at work. I hope they sort out your pain asap.
@Pancakes7 glad they got you some antibiotics. Hope it clears up soon.
@ek78 glad you can see the funny side. It's so tough sometimes!
@KnitKitty definitely do whatever feels right to you hun.
Sending 🐧🐧 hugs to everyone who needs them

Hi everyone

Sorry I've been lurking and catching up with reading messages here and there but not really had much of a chance to post back properly the last couple of days.

@KnitKitty I'm sorry to here about the faint positive FRER. That is so confusing. I think it's much more likely to be left from CP than the previous mc. Sounds like a plan testing again in a week or so but if you want to know before then/is still positive when you retest but don't want another scan you could go to your GP and ask for them to do bchg levels in your blood- they can't check them days apart and check they're falling.

@Pampl3m0usse & @Pancakes7 sorry to hear you've both not been feeling great. I can relate with the UTIs both times I got pregnant I had a UTI - was a bit too much JKS I think- evidently the only way I can manage conceiving though!

@PassTheAfterEights I'm sorry to hear about your situation - I think it's so much harder when you've had the positive FRER to then have AF arrive. I think it's a good bet to talk to your Gp about possible referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic though- hpt's are so accurate these days that you don't need to have 3 registered pregnancies to qualify.

@Boboelephant & @Murderino sounds promising with the cramps 🤞 keeping everything crossed for you both! When are you planning on testing?

@Laney79 & @Murderino I completely agree about Facebook. I've recently unfollowed anyone who had had been posting about their babies/bumps. Unfortunately that seems to be most people and now my newsfeed is full of distant acquaintances that I don't really know that well now so I've now just stopped using nearly altogether!

@Wescat Welcome though sorry you find yourself here. That is really tough. I would really consider calling in sick/explaining situation and letting work find cover for you if your not feeling up to it.

Sorry if I've missed anyone out- is so much to keep track of!

@PassTheAfterEights oh hun I'm so sorry! That really is shit. Sending you big hugs 🐧🐧🐧

@KnitKitty I don't think it's chickening out or burying your head in the sand, it's dealing with things in the way you can psychologically cope best with which I think is totally OK (provided you don't end up with obviously concerning symptoms.... ). I think the 'time will tell' approach is definitely a healthy one and I'm going to try (famous last words) to avoid the 2ww obsessing next time....
@PassTheAfterEights I'm so so sorry. Is there any way you can get a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic? I read a bit about hyperfertility after this miscarriage (last three pregnancies I've fallen first cycle) and wondered if that might be my issue (especially as I'm getting older and so eggs maybe less good quality). I don't think the research on this is well developed either, and it's clearly no consolation for you. Maybe try for a referral and avoid the FRERs for a bit (although if you're anything like me you'd rather know)....
xxx

Hi all, thanks @boboelephant for the heads up :) hope you are OK and massively fx for Friday.

Falling apart a bit the last few days; aced fertile week, felt very zen then two clear +FRER's at 10 & 11 dpo, now red bleeding & cramping (definitely AF) again, two days early. Third time in seven cycles, no idea what's happening. Seems like we can conceive but my body can't vacate the premises fast enough.

Sorry to be so behind and quiet, reading along and sorry so many are having a hard time. Will have a proper catch up soon, thinking of everybody and keeping everything crossed xx

Thanks for the replies all.

I think I'm going to chicken out of calling the EPU for now.
I just don't think I can hack being asked to come in for another scan right now, I would rather bury my head in the sand if it's another MMC. I don't particularly want to know if I managed to get to the point of there being anything visible again. (Is that terrible?)

I think I'll do as RedRobin7 suggested and test again in a week or two. If it's still positive then I may consider calling EPU.
Had a few twinges on and off the last couple of days so might even start bleeding again... Time will tell. Thanks for the support.

Hi to the newbies, so sorry for your losses but I'm glad you've found us here, this really is a wonderful bunch of women!

To those who've been struggling with work; if you need to get signed off again, take as much time as you need and don't like unfeeling colleagues make you feel bad about needing time to grieve. xxx hugs xxx

@zarala I suspect they'll call me in on Thursday morning... except I have two days of School trips with my class and my head is basically going to go mad if I take the time off :( so might try and delay it till Tuesday which is the first time I can go in without taking time off.... (I know that's a really bad idea, but she's mentioning redundancy on a daily basis and pulled me from all training, and generally being quite manipulative, a significant amount of which is illegal but I don't have the energy...)

Thanks @ Zarala I hope so too! Yeah so glad I phoned them again. So uncomfortable. @Pample3m0use Poor you, I'm glad the second GP took you seriously. Sometimes you have to seek a second opinion. I hope you get some answers soon and the pain subsides. @ek78 Aw poor you. I completely understand. You have to laugh don't you. Big hugs 🐧

@Pampl3m0usse im sorry your going through so much pain! I'm glad the doctors have agreed to refer you to hospital- when do you go in?

@Wescat oh hun that sounds so horribly difficult! I'm sorry you find yourself here but I can't imagine how tough that class is going to be - can someone fill in for you??
@Pancakes7 glad they sorted you out so quickly! Crazy that they didn't find anything in the morning! Hope the ABs kick in quickly!
@ek78 haha good you're seeing the lighter side of this! I think it's perfectly acceptable behaviour!
@KnitKitty I'd ask the EPU for advice that is a headfuck!!!

Just caught up.... Cleo sorry to hear about the negative; had exactly the same experience this morning :( actually all the more frustrating as I have no real AF signs and I just want to get the heck to day 1 of my cycle.....

@knitkitty what a head f**k! Def see what EPU says. I guess you could have leftover hcg from your cp?? I really don't have any knowledge about this though.

@ek78 it def make you do crazy things this ttc business! Glad you could see the funny side today 😊

@wescat sorry for your loss but welcome to the huddle. Is there any chance you can have a few days off to recover from things and have someone cover your class for you?

@Cleozeta I've also felt like that towards a colleague of DH's who shared my due date :*( just told him not to tell me any more about how she's doing! Have a v insensitive friend on facebook who four hours after I'd told her I'd miscarried posted on FB about how she'd been checked out at the day unit and how she thanked the lord for having taken care of her baby (right.... so he just couldn't be bothered with mine?!!). Unfollow!
@KnitKitty what a nightmare... I think a trip to the hospital to try to work out what's going on is definitely in order..... personally, the lack of certainty over what my body is doing is almost as bad as the not being pregnant (because of the uncertainties re TTC)....
@Wescat does anyone at school know that you were pregnant / had a miscarriage? I'd seriously be stepping out of that one. One of the reasons I took a couple of weeks off was that two of the Mum's of children in my nursery group were due to give birth and I couldn't face the enormous bumps / newborns. I'm so sorry about your loss.

So BFN this morning (12/13dpo) so definitely not pregnant. Still excruciating pains. Went to GP and white blood cells in wee but no other markers of infection... prescribed antibiotics but he really didn't listen to my concerns about the link with the miscarrige / cycles all over the place / weird pregnancy symptoms etc... spoke to second GP who agreed an emergency referral to the hospital was in order on account of the sheer pain levels I'm experiencing (alternatiing paracetemol and ibuprofen which isn't touching it, it's worse than my miscarriage and the early stges of labour :( ). Anyway all will hopefully become clear.

Hi. I’m joining here too, after a miscarriage at 7 weeks on Monday. I’m a teacher and dreading teaching my year 7 class about sexual reproduction and foetal development tomorrow. :(

@TedLife in relation you're digital OPK's they suggest using fmu after longest sleep but I tested one morning last week and got no smiley face then I tested before bed the same day and got a flashy smiley face! So I'd say test fmu and later if possible x

@KeefBurtain That looks positive to me! Good dark line. Is that a pregnancy test? If so congrats! @Laney79 I know how you feel. I have a friend due this week and I've unfollowed her on Facebook. I am trying not to go on there much. I know if I see any pregnancy announcements I'll find it difficult.

So UTI update....I felt worse so rang gp who said no need to see gp said just drop in a urine sample. So had to leave work in morning and then go back. Phoned me a couple of hours later and it's negative. Felt even worse over the day. Knew something's wrong. So rang gp again. Managed to get gp appointment. Had to leave work 30min early... gp was really good actually took me seriously and did test again and it did show infection so got antibiotics for 3 days now. So relieved got the antibiotics as feel really rough. But annoying i wasted my work time going there this morning. My boss is prob hating me atm all the doc appointments...Got work event for 3 days so hope the antibiotics kick in quick with drive up to Nottingham!

Checking in to register that I just hid behind a wall to avoid getting the train home with a colleague who is about to become a dad. Fortunately today I could see the funny side... 🙈 on another day I would have been having a little cry. What a strange process this is. Love to the huddle and anyone else who hid behind a wall today!