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TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

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HidCat · 08/06/2018 20:30

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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BabynameEdie · 13/06/2018 22:58

@YellowDaffodils86 hey! How are you? When are you testing? 🤞🤞🤞

BabynameEdie · 13/06/2018 22:57

@PassTheAfterEights thinking of you and hope you're ok, I can't imagine how difficult this must have been for you 💕

@Boboelephant it's nearly Friday! I am literally crossing everything. Sending sticky bean vibes to you about ten times a day, and know that it's not the end of the road if it's not what we all hope for. Your time WILL come (probably on Friday!!!) xxxx

KnitKitty · 13/06/2018 22:48

Yellowdaffodils86 Thanks for asking, I'm doing ok. I'm pretending like I didn't see the test and just assuming it's a normal cycle, though I strangely have no desire to try this month. Don't know if it's just the ups and downs of the last 6 months have got too much and I just need calm for a while or if because I'm not ovulating yet my hormones haven't made me go crazy with wanting to TTC yet.
How are you? Having to sit on your hands yet? Fingers crossed for you. Find something to do to take your mind off it.

L1zz13 Please feel free to stick around for support here. Reading negative posts on the other thread won't help you feel any better and we like having you around. How are you doing at the moment? Had any more chats with OH?

Pampl3m0usse Hope you start feeling better soon. hugs xxx

Sorry sweetpea0318 and Lilimum4 for BFNs, it really sucks.

Hidcat How is your DS doing? Are you still having to work at home? Has your FW started yet?

Boboelephant Sending vibes to you so hard! Still meditating and doing yoga? Is it helping you stay calm?

Cakelaur How are you doing?

hayleyfx · 13/06/2018 22:47

@L1zz13 was wondering how you were doing. Sorry you’re feeling so low, I really hope you get the support you need to feel better. Sending hugs to you hun 💕

@Boboelephant POAS Friday!! I’m so excited for you 😀

@Pampl3m0usse so sorry you’re having such a tough time. Sending you love x

TWW for a lot of you it seems... I hope there are lots of bfp’s this month 😊

littleemma1 · 13/06/2018 22:38

If it wasn’t a coincidence and I wasn’t just poorly, I had “signs” from sort of 6/7dpo 😱 but it was probably not related xxx

littleemma1 · 13/06/2018 22:36

@YellowDaffodils86 I suppose I can accept my place in the crazy club 😂😂😂

RedRobin7 · 13/06/2018 22:28

Clicked post too soon!

@Pampl3m0usse So sorry. I hope you're getting some answers from the hospital now. Please let us know how you got on xx

@YellowDaffodils86 Same here! I lost weight after my MMC and started going to the gym so my stomach was quite flat... today I feel sick and I'm so bloated and look pregnant! I don't normally get bloated leading up to period so does make me wonder. Also driving myself insane trying to work out how early is too early to test. Must stick to my original plan and wait for Tuesday!!

RedRobin7 · 13/06/2018 22:25

@L1zz13 Nice to hear from you 😊 have been thinking of you! Have you told your DH how you're feeling and that you're getting support from depression boards?

YellowDaffodils86 · 13/06/2018 22:08

@L1zz13 nice to see you back, stay with us!
Hope you can find some comfort from the other group though. We will always be here!

@Lilimum4 sorry for bfn, know that feeling well.

@sweetpea0318 sorry for bfn too

@KnitKitty How you doing?

@Pampl3m0usse So sorry for all you are going through. Sometimes words don't seem enough, for some of the things people have/are going through. I hope it gets better soon for you.

@littleemma1 Join the frickin crazy club!🤦🏽‍♀️

@Boboelephant i actually feel nerves when i think of you testing, like its me poas. 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞i hope its your turn.

Im googling like a mental women! Dont even know why i do it! So much for the relaxed month!
7dpo- lots of cm still, sore nipples, weird feelings/cramps in uterus, probably all means fuck all, i have hormones thats about it! 😂

L1zz13 · 13/06/2018 21:38

@TedLife @Boboelephant in comparison I'm as sane as a daisy on the Elefriends

Go bobo

Boboelephant · 13/06/2018 21:27

@pampl3m0usse how did you get on?
@sweetpea0318 oh no so sorry for bfn! 🙁
@Murderino I know. I'm the same. Although I think my optimism may be gone forever if this month doesn't work!
@Cakelaur haha. Bless you and your sticking around with fingers crossed for me. I promise I will post a chart update tomorrow. Hope it's not a depressing downward turn!! xx
@Lilimum4 so sorry it wasn't your month. Hope next month is the one!! Thanks so much x

Lilimum4 · 13/06/2018 20:34

14dpo tested and bfn Sad OK on to next month and I'm gonna try everything. Got my progesterone cream, pre seed, opks doing yoga and meditation and I'll do pineapple when its time.

Good luck to you @boboelephant on Friday I'm really hoping its your month xx

Good luck and baby dust to all the tww's

Cakelaur · 13/06/2018 20:16

@Boboelephant please can we have a pic of your chart tomorrow.. just to soften the wait for the test. Xx

sweetpea0318 · 13/06/2018 20:06

@murderino either tomorrow or Saturday according to my apps so not 100% sure. But I’m pretty sure I’m out from past experience testing at 12dpo.

Murderino · 13/06/2018 19:51

🐧🐧🐧@Pampl3m0usse 🐧🐧🐧 sending hugs, what stressful and sad thing to go through - thinking of you x

@sweetpea0318 when is af due - are you sure you're out?

Tww is your torturous this month @Boboelephant I've convinced myself I'm preggo won't be able to bear the egg on my face when I'm wrong again 🙃

sweetpea0318 · 13/06/2018 19:23

I caved and tested! Bfn so that's me out for the month. It was always a long shot this cycle so I'm not that surprised. 🤞for everyone still waiting to test and hugs to those having a tough time x

ek78 · 13/06/2018 19:08

@pampl3m0usse oh no! So sorry to hear. I hope you aren’t kept waiting too long. Let us know how you get on.

Boboelephant · 13/06/2018 18:30

@RedRobin7 thankyou. I know, it is painfully slow! I never used to realise how much progesterone effects your body with nausea, fatigue etc. It's so unfair because pregnant or not yiu can still get heaps of symptoms!
@L1zz13 thankyou!! Even though it's depressing I hope it helps and gives you some comfort xx
@Tefiti2 haha. Ah it's hard!! I'm 9dpo too but the opposite. Way too scared to test!!
@Pampl3m0usse oh I'm so sorry hun. For everything. What a rough ride you are having. 🐧🐧🐧 into the middle of the huddle you go.
@KnitKitty perhaps a month off is what you need. Just chill out and take the stress out of it for a bit. And thankyou. I'm so damn scared. I think I've really convinced myself this is it. Ahh stupid hopeful brain.

DaisyMay25 · 13/06/2018 18:26

@Pampl3m0usse I'm so sorry your going through this. Hopefully the scan has some answers so you can get the right treatment Thanks

Pampl3m0usse · 13/06/2018 18:01

Internal at gp yes who have now sent me to a&e to see the gynae:(

Wescat · 13/06/2018 17:38

@pampl3m0ousse - what a crappy time. Thinking of you xx

KnitKitty · 13/06/2018 17:25

Thanks Hidcat that's really useful to know. Maybe I just have levels of HCG that FRER pick up.

I'm just assuming I'm not pregnant and going to assume I will still ovulate this month, though who knows?

Not really feeling very in to the trying this month. My motivation seems to have gone on holiday, but that's fine, a chilled out month of not obsessing might be what I need to let my body get back to normal.

Those in the TTW, I'm thinking of you. Hope you're managing to distract yourselves well.

Boboelephant I'm impatient to find out if you're caught this month, so I can't imagine how you're feeling! Fingers and toes crossed. xxx

Hugs for those who need them! xxx

ek78 · 13/06/2018 17:14

Sending an emergency handhold @pampl3m0usse. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, especially with your mums anniversary looming. Is the internal happening at the GPs?

Pampl3m0usse · 13/06/2018 17:05

I just wrote a whole message and it disappeared. Typical. So say at gp for the second time in two days as gynae my gp spoke to reckons I probably have an infection of my womb lining as a result of miscarriage 5 weeks ago. Awaiting a gory internal as period has also started. And six month anniversary of mums suicide tomorrow. Barely holding it together in the waiting room.

Wescat · 13/06/2018 16:37

Wow, this thread moves fast. Thanks everyone for their kind words. I didn't want to tell anyone at work as my boss doesn't seem to understand about confidentiality. I actually found it better going in to work to be honest. I taught foetal development today, and it was ok, which is a relief.
I just want the bleeding to be over, and then my period so we can try again in earnest. Best of luck everyone.

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