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TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

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HidCat · 08/06/2018 20:30

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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BabynameEdie · 20/06/2018 20:44

@Boboelephant I think that sounds like a good plan, just do what feels right for you and don't worry about staying in the loop here, the thread will always be here if you want to jump back in. Sending lots of love xx

Boboelephant · 20/06/2018 20:39

Hey all, thanks for thinking of me @BabynameEdie, @hayleyfx and @strawberrye. I'm ok, I just feel like i had to take a step back for a bit. I'm so happy for those that are getting your bfps and I don't want to steal the optimism away from those hoping for bfps immediately after losses. I just don't know where I stand. It's been such a long road and we are doing everything and it's just not happening. So i feel like maybe I need to try and think a little less about it all.
That said I'm sure in a few days I'll be back on here 50 times a day!

@Murderino and @RedRobin7 congratulations to you both!!!
@YellowDaffodils86 fingers crossed hun.
@zarala hope poas Friday brings you joy.

zarala · 20/06/2018 20:27

@YellowDaffodils86 yeah! great attitude to have - there's always an upside! Fx for you anyway

zarala · 20/06/2018 20:26

Hi @Lisalou88
Welcome to the penguin huddle
So sorry about your losses- Fx everything yes back to normal and you get your rainbow soon!

zarala · 20/06/2018 20:25

@YellowDaffodils86 what kind of test are you using? FRERs?

I'm really nervous about POAS Friday- I know I keep saying this! But I have never had BFP before af was due so I really don't have high hopes for friday! I'm just worried that I will have a false negative and then stop the drugs and then I don't know how that will impact my treatment plan !
I suppose I should just contact the doctor and ask him! They're going to know I've become a crazy woman!

Also @YellowDaffodils86 I have had cramps since cd21 but I'm trying not to get too excited about it as I remember having strange cramps last month and we were actively preventing pregnancy so it might just be a thing my body does now...
I haven't had much Cm at all which is usually my telltale sign- so I'm probably not at all in this month!

Ahhh! Just 2 more sleeps till POAS FRIDAY!

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HidCat · 20/06/2018 20:16

@YellowDaffodils86 I can relate to the electrical like pains. I think someone in one of my threads referred to them as fanny daggers 😂. Unfortunately mine were PMS but with symptoms crossing over it could be the other way for you.

@Lisalou88 I'm so sorry you've had two MCs so close together. I hope your cycles regulate and you get your rainbow baby soon.

I think I've ovulated today, CD16. DTD on CD 13 so in with a chance this month but OH not been up for it tonight or yesterday. Having said that my last bfp was exactly this timing so 🤞. I'm temping so hoping to see BBT rise in the next few days so I can say I'm definitely in the TWW. Now to avoid POAS for 2 weeks.....

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YellowDaffodils86 · 20/06/2018 20:14

@Pancakes7 i know its hard to get hopes up, i think af might just appear pretty soon. She feels so imminent. The only thing i think is, if its no this month, at least i can drink on holiday😂

YellowDaffodils86 · 20/06/2018 20:12

@Murderino thanks for your reply. Good to know.
@Pancakes7 iv also have creamy sticky cm
@weasledee i poas 10 and 12 dpo with bfn.
So was going to poas 15dpo if no af.

Pancakes7 · 20/06/2018 19:35

@YellowDaffodils86 I'm the same. I've had weird cramps. But not like normal af. Got creamy/sticky cm again today. Getting my hopes up which I need not to! I know really it'll most likely be bfn...

Murderino · 20/06/2018 19:34

@YellowDaffodils86 I cramped cd23 with implantation and everyday since - not sure about electricity but I'm certainly aware of it

weasledee · 20/06/2018 19:27

Yellow have you poas yet? (sorry if I've missed that you have, this thread moves quick!)

Lisalou88 · 20/06/2018 19:18

Hi everyone would love it I could join in.

Age 30
TTC No1 since July 2017
MMC at 12 weeks Jan 2018
MC at just over 5 weeks in May 2018

Currently have first AF since my miscarriage last month however don’t seem to have ovulated this cycle so hoping my body gets back to normal soon. Currently have long cycles around 40 days. Praying for a little rainbow baby soon.

YellowDaffodils86 · 20/06/2018 18:27

Bfp people including @Cakelaur can you indulge my tww mentalness? Im 15dpo tomorrow and so far no AF.
Iv had funny cramps since yesterday, they are not like af cramps. My uterus feels tender and like its been beaten from the inside. Its almost like electricity running through it rather than cramps, if that makes sense at all. Iv no other symptoms really. Any of you relate this at all?
Im flying at 7am tomorrow and packing a frer, if iv no af by the time i get to my room, im paos!

hayleyfx · 20/06/2018 18:25

@zarala @KeefBurtain ooh fingers crossed for POAS Friday!

& to everyone else testing soon, got everything crossed for you all 🤞

@Boboelephant how are you doing? Haven’t heard from you in a while, hope all is okay!

KeefBurtain · 20/06/2018 17:33

@zarala it’s a date Wink

Laney79 · 20/06/2018 14:21

Thanks everyone...I'm going to try and wait as long as poss, especially with cycles being so crazy before MMC. It's going to be so hard though!!! Gah!!!

Murderino · 20/06/2018 14:09

@GPS76 thank you! @Pancakes7 thank you ♥️ least you'll know where you stand, one way or the other. I have my fx for everyone x

zarala · 20/06/2018 13:50

@Cakelaur thanks for that! Really helpful

My doctor wants me to test at 10dpo but I really can't fathom seeing anything on Friday

I guess I just have to wait and see on Friday 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Cakelaur · 20/06/2018 13:47

@zarala hi babe. Hope you're doing well. Generally if there is a dip that is as implantation is happening. So if the next two/three temps are high then test then. You may find you get a bit of spotting too. I had a two day dip with spotting both days then bfp (but mine was 13 and 14dpo) good luck!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Pancakes7 · 20/06/2018 13:47

@Murderino Congratulations!! What good news!! And a 2-3 weeks aswell! So happy for you. This Friday is 4 wks since mmc. So hoping for a bfp later this week.... But if not af will atleast let me track my cycle.

zarala · 20/06/2018 13:45

@KeefBurtain I am sorry I don't see anything but I am rubbish at these squinters anyway
Wait until friday and we can POAS together and cry

GPS76 · 20/06/2018 13:39

Congratulations @Murderino ! Fx for you xx
@KeefBurtain I'm CD24 too, have POAS on the amazon cheapies but nothing, I'm tempted to go get a proper test or wait a few more days! I'm going crazy.. which test did you use? X
@Coffeist so sorry for your loss and I echo what @KnitKitty says , you will feel more normal once your AF shows up, it's a sign your body is ready and working properly again then you can enjoy TTC!! X
@Laney79 try the hold on ... I know it's hard as I'm going through it as well. I've disappointed myself by POAS with the amazon cheapies but I know it's too early for those ones! Fx for you x

Murderino · 20/06/2018 13:35

Thanks @zarala @TedLife @sweetpea0318 / really appreciate the well wishes 😊

KeefBurtain · 20/06/2018 13:33

I’m 9/10 dpo I think. 4 days til af due.

One of my friends made a negative image of a photo I sent, but says she can’t see anything. Now I’m doubting myself.

Any honest opinions? I don’t know if I’m just seeing something cos I want it so bad.

Top test is this am, bottom is from previous pregnancy.

TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.
zarala · 20/06/2018 13:09

Oh my! So much good news today!

@muderino congrats!!!!! Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy! Try and stay positive! I can imagine how scary it is!

@Laney79 I agree with @strawberrye if you can wait it out for a couple of days at least you should hopefully get the answer youre looking for! Plus it will be just in time for POAS FRIDAY!

Hi @Cakelaur ! As our resident charting guru if there's an implantation dip- does that mean implantation has happened or is about to happen? (Big dip this morning for me at dpo8) I'm supposed to test dpo10 but I'm so worried it will be too early !

Thanks @KnitKitty I hope so too!
And good luck talking to your man! I def think dating is a great idea! Rekindle the romance even if it's just Netflix and chill!

@afictionado welcome to the group and sorry for you loss! Hope you find these ladies are supportive and fun as I do! It's not an easy ride but at least we have each other in our penguin huddle 🐧

@TedLife I'm sorry you're feeling so low- but try and stay positive- I'm sure your partner won't hold you personally accountable if things don't work out! So don't let yourself feel guilty at all! If anything it's a positive thing he's on board TTC and you can try and have fun on this journey together- sending hugs

Welcome @Summerbab- sorry never went on the pill so have no advice!

Ahh@KeefBurtain! That's crazy! How many dpo are you? I need to test on Friday and I am so scared....!

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