TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

@DaisyMay25 am I right in that you are also testing today? 🤞🤞

Welcome to @charlyn and @dreaminofholidays and sorry you find yourselves here

@HidCat welcome to the tww! Fx it passes quickly and there's a little bean waiting for you at the other side!

@RedRobin7 yay! Congrats! Having 1 MC is very common so statistically it is very likely that you will have a healthy continuing pregnancy ! I know it seems like there are a lot of us here with 2+ but I just think these forums have a higher incidence of us because we seek the solace! But I totally understand your fears! Hoping you reach the 12 week mark quickly and smoothly and have a healthy happy baby in your arms in February! 💕

@Boboelephant Have you tried arvigo therapy - Mayan abdominal massage - I think that is supposed to help regulate ovulation - I also tried that after my last MC- it was very relaxing and the lady I saw was amazing. She told me she helps a lot women who have issues conceiving- if you're near London I can give you her details.

So I'm dpo9 today
My chart isn't looking hopeful 😐
It's my first chart ever and i only started temping on cd11 so maybe it's not that accurate?
But I haven't seen much of a temp rise at all!
I am getting cramps all over my belly now so wondering whether it's just AF preparing! Cd24 now- my periods have ranged from 25-30 since last MC.
I was so tempted to POAS this morning but I'll wait for tomorrow.

@hayleyfx thankyou and I'm so glad your scan went well. 😀
@Strawberrye aww thankyou. What lovely words. That's really made me smile xxx @Lilimum4 and @zarala thankyou!!! That's so sweet xx
@zarala I do think it probably contributed for awhile yes but my ectopic was now 19 months ago so do feel like I have processed it. Therapy, meditation etc... I'll look into the cranial massage though. I was told recently that my energy was excellent do just a matter of time maybe.
@KnitKitty yes I do think i probably ovulate more from the missing tube side. Would love any tips to stimulate the other side if anyone knows any!? Glad you sorted things with DH. Maybe a visit to gp to check ovary?
@YellowDaffodils86 thinking of you today! 🤞
Thanks @HidCat and RedRobin7. Glad you've seen the digital @Red!!
@charlyn and @dreaminofholidays welcome and sorry for your losses.

RedRobin7 congratulations! I really hope this is your rainbow baby tucking in nice and warm and safe. Your BPF is especially meaningful to me as we shared our journey after MMC so closely. Yours and Jessabean's support has been invaluable to me. I am so happy for you, and I know it's going to be hard for you to be happy yet too, but try not to let what happened before tarnish your excitement about this pregnancy. Let yourself hope and be excited, enjoy it if you can! I'm really pleased you're still accessing the counselling. Hope it helps. Please keep in touch. (PM me if you don't want to post on here). And remember we're all here for support if you need. We know that pregnancy after MC isn't the joyful experience everyone assumes you have when you get that BFP, so stick around if you need to! Hugs!!!

YellowDaffodils86 Any updates on your situation?

Hidcat good luck with your TTW. Fingers crossed for you! That is a long time to have to wait! Good idea not having any sticks in the house to pee on.

@RedRobin7 fantastic news. I hope it all goes smoothly. Keep us posted and stay positive and although you will be nervous for quite some time try to enjoy it.

Okay so I've finally seen that BFP on a digital so I'm going to start believing it. That makes me 4 weeks today. I am sooo bloody terrified. I had a MMC at 12 weeks after seeing the baby with a heartbeat at 8 weeks so I don't think it's possible to relax. We told family on the day we found out last time but this time I think we will wait until 8 or 12 weeks. I know statistically the odds are in my favour but so many people on here have had more than one MC so it's hard to be hopeful. Thankfully I have a counselling session today so we can discuss it.

Thank you all so much for your support. You've really got me through some very dark days. I'll keep checking in here as I want to know how you're all doing! Good luck ladies, baby dust to you all Xx

@Boboelephant Thank you! You're amazing and I really hope you have a successful month soon. I can feel which side I ovulate from so I know sometimes 3 months in a row will be the same side and then it switches. So maybe you just need to keep at it and not give up. Try DTD every other day too like someone else suggested recently. Keeping everything crossed for you! Xx

@yellowdaffodils86 sending virtual hand holding for this morning. I've got everything crossed for you. Xx

@Cakelaur you keep popping into my mind, knowing that you didn't have a bfp till 15dpo. Not sure which way it will swing yet.

Hello to all the newbies. We seem to have a few new people here. Sorry you find yourself here after losing a precious bean, but I hope you all get sticky ones soon. Excuse me for not saying hi to you each individually. xxx

Boboelephant do you think maybe you ovulate more often on the side that doesn't have a tube anymore? I totally understand if you need to take a step back, but please keep checking in every now and then to let us know how you are if you do. xxx

I did have a talk with OH today and we cleared the air. Feeling a lot better.
I am still getting odd pains on my right side though so I am feeling a little worried that all is not well with my ovary.

@Boboelephant I totally echo what @strawberrye said!
Also I know this might not be what you want to hear but
Your last experience sounds really traumatic- maybe what is happening is less of a physical and more of an emotional block
Have you heard of craniosacral massage? That can sometimes help release any tension or sources of energy blockages
I know you've been doing acupuncture and that's great too
I also saw a naturopath after my last MC and she did craniosacral on me and she also recommended some homeopathy (controversial I know!) - but I have a lot of friends who swear by it

Just a suggestion !
I know your rainbow will come soon 💕

@boboelephant I think @strawberrye has said exactly what I was going to say. Hugs and healing thoughts to you hun x

@boboelephant I think it's completely understandable how you are feeling jaded and pissef off, there is absolutely no need to apologise. You always inspire me with how upbeat you are, how much you remember about each of us and how friendly you are to everyone on here despite the crappy time you've had of TTC. You truly are a ray of sunshine and really deserve to get a BFP. I think that's why we are all rooting for you especially, because you're just such a lovely human being! Sending hugs

@HidCat yay ovulation twin! I think I'm ovulating today or tomorrow, DTD yesterday and the day before and hopefully will be able to pounce DH tonight! Usually he isn't up for loads of nights in a row, don't know how you ladies do it with your marathons!

@Boboelephant I’m glad everything is alright! Take all the time you need, I totally understand - it can all get too much sometimes. Sorry for how low you’re feeling, would love to be able to say something to make it better but all I can say is we’re all here for you and can’t wait to see you get your BFP! Sending hugs. Hope you have better news this month!

hello,
Please can I join?

age 32
ttc #1
1st cycle since MC in April @ 5-6 weeks
1st month ttc

No idea if I have ovulated or when AF is due as always had irregular cycles.
BFP in April was a big surprise, was just getting my head around it and get excited when MC started.

Not expecting anything this month but I have started tracking now

Fingers crossed for all those POAS and congrats to the BFPs. Fingers crossed for the rest of us xxx

Hi everyone, hope it’s ok to join you.
I’m ttc no.2 and had an ectopic pregnancy and surgery 2 and a half weeks ago.
I only have one tube now so that’s going to make things harder probably.
I have no idea where I am in my cycle or when to expect my first period. I guess I’m not really ‘trying’ until my first cycle after af but I don’t see the point in using contraception until then so...
Hope to see lots of bfps on this thread :)

Ooooh @YellowDaffodils86 I got my bfp at 15dpo after testing negative on 12and 13dpo!! Eek!!! 🤞🏻

I'm ok thanks @YellowDaffodils86. Taking some time but still around. Haha for your pic!!!

Thanks @BabynameEdie xx
Thanks @RedRobin7. Don't feel guilty. I am really happy for you. But yes it is hard for me. That doesn't mean you don't deserve to be thrilled for you though! I hope all goes well with this one xx
@zarala thankyou! Yes I had all the tests and everything is fine. It hasn't really helped me though as it just makes me wonder more what the hell is going on. I had my DS easily and without trying and then fell pregnant immediately the second time too. I had an ectopic and lost a tube and almost died and I'm convinced that's messed something up. They say it hasn't but before that I was pregnant first month twice and now it's been 20 months- pregnant once but a MC. So who knows?!?! I am a bit jaded and pissed off. Ugghh, sorry to be a downer!!!

Ha ha love the pic! It sums up all our lives at the moment! :)

@HidCat i have also heard that term too😂
@zarala only frer. Its tricky as i think mc has changed how my afs are now.
So hard to know if things are normal or not.

@Boboelephant thank you. Been thinking of you, i was going to give you a little poke but thought maybe you were getting some space. I think its good sometimes to have some time away from ttc madness.
Hope you are ok though.

I thought this picture was amusing, prepared ethier way😂

Thanks @Boboelephant
I've been thinking about you and sending you virtual hugs. It's just so shit and I'm really sorry. There's no rhyme or reason to this thing- some people are so lucky with this making babies thing and some of us have to suffer for it! It's just shit.

Have you done any tests? Hormone tests or egg reserves etc? A cousin of mine was trying for a long time- she was obsessively TTC and it just wasn't happening. She was so stressed. Crying every month AF arrived and POAS like constantly. Eventually she went to get her hormones and egg reserves checked out and she was pleasantly surprised with her results! She had convinced herself that all her former days of hardcore partying (working in advertising) has destroyed her eggs and that she had ruined her chances of ever having a baby- But turns out she was in good shape- after finding this out she said she felt a lot calmer about everything and decided to not worry as much anymore- she stopped POAS and temping and everything and and boom she got knocked up immediately! She's due a little boy in October.
I know it's far easier said than done to "stop thinking about it/ stop trying" but maybe having some kind of reassurance of that kind could help?

Sorry I can't remember if you already have had yourself tested?

Also totally understand if you need a step back from these forums! I thought I was so chilled out and now I'm as crazy as the rest as the huddle! Really have caught the bug!
But yeah
Basically I am rambling but just want to say I feel for you and always here if you need a rant
💕🐧💕

@Boboelephant Thank you - I know it's hard for you to say that. I'm still so gutted it wasn't your month and I do feel guilty that it is possibly mine. I hope you are able to find some answers. Please don't give up hope xx