TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

@RedRobin7 that does suck. It's always hurtful to be let down by your friends. But I agree that you don't need such passive aggressive friends in your life who childishly delete you off social media without talking to you about it. Sorry you've had to go through that though.

@DaisyMay25 me too! I have a feeling she might turn up early tho

@Boboelephant haha! Bless your OH! He sounds like a lot of fun 😂

@RedRobin7wtf! That is seriously very bizarre and unnecessary behaviour! I am so sorry. I don't want to be a traitor to our sex but there are some right bitches out there!
I would be very upset and confused in your position- and I would be very tempted to call them out on it
Maybe just send a message to the group of them on WhatsApp and say something to the effect of how disappointed you are. When you most needed friends they abandoned you. And if that's how they roll then you don't need this kind of selfishness in your life.

Or don't say anything
I think I've become too confrontational ! But I really hate this kind of bullshit behaviour!

@redrobin7 sorry to hear this - sounds like a horrible situation to be in. As @hidcat said, could there have been some misunderstanding? People read into things a lot more over text/social media - is there one you could speak to in real life perhaps? (Only if you think it’s worth trying to salvage the friendship though!)

Re. not asking how you are - I do think ppl just don’t know what to say. One of my oldest friends who had 2mc’s herself said to me that she had started and deleted so many messages to me after I told her what happened but she said she didn’t know what state of mind I would be in and didn’t want to upset me. We only spoke about it all properly when we met in person.

Sending you lots of virtual hugs - it’s not a nice thing to go through after everything else x

@redrobin7 sounds like they are people you can live without! They always say that you find out who your real friends are when you are having a tough time... Sucks though.

Haha @Boboelephant that made me laugh too!

Just want to have a little vent here.

I had a group of friends who I used to work with. We all left that company years ago but stayed in contact, met up several times a year for girlie nights and had a group whatsapp chat going. They didn't know I was pregnant earlier this year or that I'd miscarried. I was getting lots of messages around the week of the MC about hair and eyebrows so I was feeling really annoyed (even though they didn't know) that I was getting these messages. I decided to tell them I'd just had a MMC and was going to have SMM so I'd silence myself from the chat for a bit. They all but one said sorry for my loss and that they were here for me. That was the last time I spoke to them all. None of them asked if I was okay. This week, which is 3 months later, I got a Facebook invite to one of their hen dos. As nobody has spoken to me and I'm hurt by it, I put not attending. I've since noticed they've all deleted me from their social media accounts.

Seriously wtf??? I didn't do anything wrong here apart from be heartbroken over losing my baby and being very depressed and anxious about life. At least I know now that they're no friends of mine but why are people so cruel? Two of them have kids so you'd think they'd understand to some degree. They're all in there 30s so it's very childish. Really makes me angry that talking about MC is still frowned upon so as a result others can't understand the pain you're in and how much you need your friends to reach out and ask how you're doing. ☹️

@Boboelephant you made me laugh! "Bangity bang" method-love it!!!

@Maydot, @Lolocola13 and @Anyday88 fx for you all.
@Pancakes7 hopefully you don't have to wait too long. The waiting is the hardest! They usually say you have EWCM right up until you ovulate and once it's gone that is when you know you have. So you should hopefully know by next week.
@Cleozeta is this your first fw since MC? Brown is old blood so is probably just your body clearing out any left over blood.
@DaisyMay25 oh I know how frustrating it must be for you. I think it is harder if you managed it quickly pre loss and then it takes much longer post loss. Fx next month is your turn!!! So sorry it looks like af is coming again.
@KnitKitty oh thanks hun. I've been reading up about self massage for ovary and was planning on tryng that. Will also try visualisation!
@afictionado sorry af got you but glad LP has lengthened.
@zarala ugh sorry hun!! They are the worst!

I've decided I'm going to try SMEP again this month. We tried it a few months ago but I think my mind and body is in a better place now so fx it works. Cd8 today so will start tonight. I ovulate late but have told DH we can start now to soften the blow as he was quite upset we weren't JKS every day this month. Or doing the 'bangity bang' method as he calls it. 😂😂

@zarala same here! I've started cramping this morning, AF is due in two days so I think she's just letting me know she's on her way!

Another undeniable BFN over here!
Feeling positively periody (bloated, crappy, nauseous) so I think AF is imminent
Of course I still have a slight glimmer of hope but I think it's naive as my temps have come down slightly this morning...

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@Lilimum4 it focuses the camera a bit better. (My cat has scratched mine with her tooth so it isn't the best)
@afictionado sorry about AF but good news about the LP

No luck for me this cycle, AF arrived today. On the positive side my LP seems to have lengthened to 13 days rather than the 8 it's been since my MC.

Fingers crossed for those still in with a chance.

Boboelephant RE getting your other ovary to ovulate, you could give visualisation a go? Not very scientific, but I believe it can help. I'm convinced I got rid of the endometriosis I had in my bowel due to visualising it being healthy and clean of it. Maybe try visualising ovulating on that side every night and morning until ovulation? And maybe try massaging the side that you want to ovulate every day? I wish there was a switch so you could choose! Good luck in your new cycle. xx

@DaisyMay25 hi I've seen a few pics like yours with the ring in it, I might seem thick but what does it do? Is it to show a pale line better

Evening ladies how are you all doing?

I've had dentist today which is normally fine but the waiting room was full of babies and pregnant ladies. Why do they seem to be everywhere !!!!

Apart from that I'm enjoying the stressless few days before fw starts Sunday. I've been doing the head space app its very good. One of you lovely ladies recommended it so thank you ( sorry I can't remember who said it)

@Cleozeta I also get brown cm. Pre and post miscarriage always get it day before and after af and post mcs I had it for ages throughout first cycle before first af. So assume it's ok!

Thank you ladies. I hope we all get our bfp soon x

Thanks newbie, maybe it is just another mc oddity then. It's just unnerving when weird things happen like that, its reassuring to know its not just me!

@Boboelephant only three months of actively trying which I know isn't that long but it's been nine months since then and it's just frustrating...

@cleozeta I have experienced brown cm just before AF just after my MC and D&C and then this month I am experiencing brown cm now - very light so assume that I am about to have my AF in the next day or so. I never had this before MC.

@Cleozeta not me..sorry

I just found this link for this free book- so thought I'd share

The Sperm Meets Egg Plan: Getting Pregnant Faster by Deanna Royitunes.apple.com/gb/book/the-sperm-meets-egg-plan-getting-pregnant-faster/id566014943?mt=11

July will be out for me as I'm away during the crucial 2 weeks but I'm going to get on this plan in earnest come August 🙏🏽

Unless of course this nausea and bloatedness that I'm suffering from today is a sign this month?! (But probably not!) Based on the rules of this book we didn't JKS during the most crucial 3 days this past month 🙄 so I've now resigned myself to waiting for AF

Random question - has anyone else's ewcm been brown since mc?? Or habe you all gone back to normal ewcm?
Hope you are all ok? Sorry not had much of a chance to keep up lately

Awwww @Anyday88 I really hope we get some bfps!!!
Fx to everyone waiting to test 😘

@Boboelephant I had sticky cm 8th till 14th June. So some time around then. I think the Sunday maybe. I so want it to be a bfp. But maybe next month. I just hope I know one way or the other soon.

Thanks @Boboelephant 🤞🏻

@Maydot we are due af the same day!