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The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 31/05/2018 18:08

CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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Pinkemi · 09/09/2018 17:46

Feeling nervous already and we havent even started.. Sad just so worried about having to sort it out around work.. and then if it doesnt work. The doctor was pretty full of doom and gloom. Just blah.

LimpLettice · 09/09/2018 16:52

Ooh fingers crossed 🤞🏻 BGDino!

Owlpatrol · 09/09/2018 14:00

@ImpatientMammy welcome!
@BGDino sounds positive, can't wait to hear Friday
@maddiie oooh sounds intriguing

I've woke up with a hangover (promised myself I wouldn't drink too much) and sore sore boobs, can't even wear a bra. Must not get hopes up, must not get hopes up. Boiler packed in yesterday so if it is our month, it will be a serious case of sods law. Either way I'm 6dpo so anxious to find out as eve!

Si1ver · 09/09/2018 11:04

Great news so far Dino fingers crossed for a heart beat

SoozC · 09/09/2018 08:38

Dino, that's really positive news! Everything crossed for Friday for you. I know what the wait is like, had to do it last autumn when I mc'd. Really hoping for you!

BGDino · 09/09/2018 01:55

We saw an intrauterine gestational sac with a yolk sac! Measuring at 5+2/40 which is pretty close to the 5+4/40 from dates. Having a repeat scan on Friday to look for the heartbeat. Feeling pretty nervous about it tbh. Also feeling exhausted all the time...

Fully sympathise with missing alcohol, went to the hospital ball for my DH’s work last night and it wasn’t fun being the only sober one in the room!

ImpatientMammy · 08/09/2018 20:00

Awww @maddiie do you ovulate while your away? 🤞good omen. Where you off too? Sorry this is to big a thread to catch up on x

maddiie · 08/09/2018 19:17

DH came home with a hire car from work to head North tomorrow, last three digits of the license plate are BFP. Is the universe taunting me or is it a lucky omen? 

Welcome @ImpatientMammy x

ImpatientMammy · 08/09/2018 17:10

CD1 sorry x

ImpatientMammy · 08/09/2018 17:08

Hi all. CD2 of cycle 10 and AF has me feeling like a failure. Mind if I join? X

Owlpatrol · 08/09/2018 08:31

@Pinkemi oh I am totally the same and everything you said resonates with me currently sitting here with a mild hangover after a bottle of wine last night, despite being in the tww honestly like most of us here I'm sure we've tried everything, drinking, not drinking, cutting caffeine, exercise and NOTHING works lol. I have been cutting down on carbs but that's not for ttc specifically that's because I could do with loosing a few pounds. I've lost about 5 pounds doing it.....dp is stricter than I am

Anyway anyway sore boobs alerting me to definate ovulation so I'm about 5 dpo. I've got some cramps as well Confused I literally don't know what to do next cycle If I'm not pregnant, what I "want to" do is quit my job, be less stressed and worry about if I get pregnant when that happens....

LimpLettice · 07/09/2018 17:26

Great news Pinkemi, stay positive.

LimpLettice · 07/09/2018 17:26

Has BGDino updated? Hope you're ok chick.

Pinkemi · 07/09/2018 14:05

So.. it looks like im doing IVF in october. Sad doctor was not very encouraging about our chances.. but i guess they have to be realistic about these things.

Chooklass · 07/09/2018 12:07

Brilliant news @maddiie! So glad your new gp is taking it seriously.

maddiie · 07/09/2018 11:56

Just had my appointment with my new GP after my last one told me to go back in 5 years if I want a family.. she was amazing. Said that as it's been so long we'll start unexplained infertility treatment. I've given blood samples and arranged as perm sample for DH, if all is well she's happy to prescribe clomid and try and get things going. Feel so relieved.

OrcinusOrca · 06/09/2018 22:47

@Booksandbaths1 hycosy is day 6-13 window. I have to ring up day one of period and if they've no slots ring up at the start of my next period. No trying during the cycle of the procedure either.

LexieJean · 06/09/2018 22:37

@pink I’d like to echo @books I’ve had timed where I’ve changed my life b cause of the ‘just in case I’m pg’ or ‘this could help me get pg’ but I’m really trying to be more relaxed about the whole thing, part of my positive mental attitude. And I need a life !

@books they won’t do an HSG if you’ve tried- you have to abstain. Not sure with hycosy but I would have thought the same.

And good luck tomorrow @pink. My appointment with the ivf nurse is early October. I know what you mean about the paperwork- scary stuff!

Booksandbaths1 · 06/09/2018 17:34

Awww hun @Pinkemi I totally feel for you and absolutely get where you're coming from. I think everyone who struggles with ttc goes through the 'should I not have a drink or two', 'what else should I be doing to help get pregnant' etc etc. I think we each have to find our own balance and work out what we feel is reasonable and set some achievable aims so we feel proactive whilst balancing the fact that day to day things will change. For example I had quite a boozey Aug so I'm trying to keep to 3 drinks max a week in Sept in prep for trying sober October. But if (or when) I occasionally slip up I won't beat myself up about it. We need to still live our lives and enjoy stuff. So I agree with you - play Fallout 4 (literally have no idea what it is 😂) and truly enjoy yourself. Hugs x

Pinkemi · 06/09/2018 16:52

I forgot my point of my story! haha

So because my councillor said to me that its time i did more of "I want" instead of "I should", I told her that actually i want to be able to play hours of Fallout 4! (So guess what I'm doing once I get back from the consultation tomorrow!) haha

I did think about the things I want to do... and thats really the only thing I can think of at the moment.. Except for I want to be able to have a blasted few drinks and not worry about it! HA!

Pinkemi · 06/09/2018 16:49

I went to see my councillor this morning and she spoke a lot about things i "want" to do instead of things that "i should" do. Im always saying "I should do this" or "I should do that" and never really "I want to do this."

Like this weekend we are seeing a few friends.. and I instantly think.. my DH and I "shouldn't" drink. (We normally get quite jolly with these friends.)So i automatically went.. Okay ill drive! But actually.. we don't really go out that often.. and why SHOULDN'T i be able to get trolly-ed if i want to.. you know? Why shouldnt i stuff my face with cake and chocolate (like i normally do when i've had a few.) Its my life and my body!

But then i start worrying and thinking that with my low AMH level.. I dont have many good eggs left. What if the one that is slowly maturing now in my ovaries is a good egg and the fact that i get rat arsed ruins it? What if this is the egg... but because my DH was drinking.. his swimmers weren't up to scratch? So many what ifs!

But...

You would think that if i was that worried about it.. I would have lost weight by now.. I would have stopped eating dairy, gluten and refined carbs and sugar ages ago! (because i'm always reading that these things are bad for fertility.) But for some reason I just cant seem to stop doing these things. Alcohol is really the only one thing Ive managed to get stressy and controlling over.

gah.. Ive stopped saying to my DH that he can't drink. To be honest we go out so rarely i dont think its going to make a massive difference.. but it doesn't stop me stressing over it. I know i know.. drink until its pink.. but how do you not.. worry?! I would SO SO love to be able to go.. you know what.. ive had enough. I'm just going to live my life and if we conceive then great.. if not.. then onto IVF.

urgh.. im going round and round in circles.

Pinkemi · 06/09/2018 13:24

My week has been so so... Just so nervous about tomorrow..

I've sort of resigned myself to the fact that we will be starting IVF.. I say sort of because Im still resisting slightly! lol

I just worry so much about work.. and trying to fit everything in without pissing everyone off.. just.. a struggle you know? Reading all the paperwork just made me more terrified of the whole thing. :(

I definitely DONT want to tell my manager what is going on.. Its going to be a juggle to get everything sorted so im not stressed but still able to go through with it.

Booksandbaths1 · 06/09/2018 12:54

Ooh did someone say 'spa day' - count me in 😉 Hope everyone's weeks have picked up a bit. I'm confused as to whether I can be trying this cycle or not... does anyone know if you can have a hycosy test done at the end of your cycle (ie.a few days before period, poss spotting)? Ivr looked online but isn't clear. Although fw has commenced and dh is out of town working til Sat so poss might miss the window anyway dep on ov. I'm feeling pretty resigned to ivf as next step anyway. Even though I know odds are it won't work 1st go I feel the process might provide more info in terms of ovarian reserve/egg & sperm quality so we can make some more informed decisions.

Owlpatrol · 05/09/2018 06:25

@BGDino oooh keep us posted!

I had a good chat with mum last night and although she said about 5 times to try and relax and not think of things, it did help to have a chat with someone in real life. I tried to jump on dp last night but we were knackered so fw is ending for me and I've definately ovulated now, so onto tww again. I'm trying to stay positive as we have at least dtd during the tww....

BGDino · 05/09/2018 04:22

Spa day sounds lovely!

In the spirit of not getting too stressed I managed to piss off the nurse unit manager of my ward because she wanted to give a patient loads more Valium and I don’t think she needs it. My boss is overseas at the moment so no backup. Am well aware that if I was one of the male consultants this wouldn’t even be an issue Angry

Ultrasound in 2 hours time, can’t come soon enough!