The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

God, a lot of stressful times on this thread. Baby bombs suck, sympathies and more all round.

Tisfortired that must be extremely frustrating, I hope treatment did what it needed to.

Sorry to hear of your chemical too spottyyellow.
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Bubblegum* I'm glad to see you're about still, and so happy to hear stopping ttc has been positive. I'm good. We've discovered we're having a boy, and the news seems to have finally settled a lot of my awful anxiety. For now anyway.

@SparkwoodAnd21 oh no I hate baby bombs and I'm about to get another one this week. I know she's pregnant because I can tell...i have a sixth sense now about these things!

@Bubblegum89 ahhh love it's nice to hear from you xxx

Happy gin day...currently tucking into one I deserve it!

Still got lower back pain and trying not to Google it as a symptom argh!!

@Spottyyellowdress I think hell was totally appropriate to be fair hun.

@SparkwoodAnd21 I'm so sorry. Just remember that no matter how perfect things seem, there will always be something in their lives that isn't.

@nearlysummer2018 omg what an inconsiderate list of things to say! I hope you're ok?

@Tisfortired I hope the treatment was successful and there's no left over complications for you! So sorry. xx

Lurker of previous threads so thought I'd introduce myself, I hope you don't mind.

TTC #2, on cycle 10. I am just about to start temping/tracking ovulation as so far have tried combinations of guessing my FW and DTD every 2-3 days and not worked so far.

Spanner was thrown in the works last month when a smear test came back abnormal and I need treatment for pre cancerous cells. (As if I wasn't frustrated with my reproductive system enough.)

Sorry 😢 it's been a rough weekend.

I've just had a whole weekend of being told how excited my mother is at finally becoming a grandma and how amazing my brother is going to be at being a parent. "They tried for two months to get pregnant you know and both smoke and drink so it wasn't going to be easy" both ha e done amazing giving up smoking and I've never been prouder of them. Yes mother. This is the son who once stole your car at 15 to go see his mates - were you not proud then? Ohhhh maybe it was the drugs and breaking and entry that made you proud! Damn right they should give up smoking!! That's not something to be proud of that's a necessary thing to do! Not to be harsh but two months isn't a massive struggle getting pregnant it's just a case of not getting lucky the first time! Oh and I hope he is a fantastic father because he's a shitty uncle who has never once sent his nephew/godson a present, card, phone call etc in the last four years! So congrats mother on FINALLY becoming a grandma. I'll be taking my son home now and fading into the distance!

Uuggghhhh another fucking baby bomb today. These friends are beautiful, successful, and fertile so now I feel even more like a fat useless dried up old prune. Really struggling with it this time.

Helll?! Obvs that was meant to be hello...

HellI! Can I hop back over here from the June bus please?

Think I’ve had a chemical this cycle, two positive frers and faint lines on ics since Tuesday, bits of bleeding, now negative tests and what feels like af beginning. And some bleeding, so definitely af beginning.

This was cycle 12 for us so feeling pretty sad today. Already had a scan and day 21 bloods last month which came back fine and was convinced this was our month.

@Bubblegum89 sorry to hear it reached that point but so glad you're back to enjoying life.

@Booksandbaths1 I'd just stick to guidelines for drinking and avoid getting drunk. Drink til it's pink lol

Hi @bubble 👋 good to hear your feeling better mentally, sounds like you’re in a good place. Wishing you all the best 💐

Hey Limp I’m still about :) not ttc anymore, kind of decided that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be so we’re just getting on with our lives now and enjoying what we already have. I don’t think we’re going to be trying IVF after all. I’ve felt much more human since stopping ttc and I don’t think I’m up for going back to being crazy and obsessive! How are things going with you?

Hi to all the other yammers as well. I hope you’re all doing well and aren’t symptom spotting too much! Although I’m not trying for a baby anymore, I still pop in now and again to see how you’re all getting on. Fingers crossed I see the thread die out because you all get your bfp’s :)

Ah yes! Enjoy. Gin, gin, gin makes me grin 😀 I'm feeling hacked off as my already pretty short cycle was 23 days this month (surely not good?). FP arrived today so I've enjoyed a g&t, glass of pinot and a dessert wine with my dins. For a few months I got my booze intake down to 1-2 drinks per week max. But for f all results. Do you lovely yammers think less is better? Any personal advice?

Happy world gin day yammers!

@Rubberduckies might be worth having your results sent over to your doc. They may be able to speed up the nhs referral if they know the causes in advance.

@Rubberduckies I'm on the same boat hun except we don't qualify for IVF so we will have to start saving for private but yet we could fall naturally anyway! It's so annoying! Dp hasn't had sperm analysis yet because he's chicken and has already had two children from previous....so I have to keep nudging him

Still of waiting list to be seen initially on nhs, and our ccg will offer 1 cycle after 2years of trying, which will be next April.

Yesterday we paid and could go for private treatment going forward.

It feels like giving up. Spending 6 grand to buy a chance of a baby when there's a possibly of natural pregnancy seems daft! But me writing that is even dafter lol! And to think I refused to start ttc before we got married in case I got pregnant and couldn't fit in my dress...

@Rubberduckies no experience here so googled. On the info that showed I'd agree with you as the chances are reduced and you've been trying so long anyway. Why waste time? Are you on the nhs or private?

Any experience with antisperm antibodies? Dh's sperm analysis showed 70% antibodies :(

We hadn't done much reading up before and so didn't ask the right questions I don't think.... from what I've read, 70% makes natural conception very unlikely?

The Dr told us to keep trying naturally for another 8-10 months and then have icsi if not pregnant. Not sure if this is just wasting time and delaying the inevitable.....

Is Bubblegum still about? If you are I know you've put a hold on ttc for a bit if you are but I'm wondering how you're doing otherwise?

@Booksandbaths1 I can understand that. This is why I don't own any pregnancy tests any more. Tell myself I won't test early and I do and get pissed off faster! I have convinced myself it's sensible to BBT for a bit just to check things are normal but it has definitely opened a can of worms!

@orcinusorca yes the recipe is from cookieandkate I think. They tasted pretty yum. Oh man yes hormonal acne is the pits. My skin is awful at the mo - I seem to leap from pms spots to ovulation break out and back. I tried FF/BBT but it was like rocket fuel for this already v up and down emotional rollercoaster so I stopped. Fingers crossed for the b6! Maybe I'll try it as my next straw.
@bridget33 Hoping your dh's tests come back ok. Enjoy the wedding to the max! I prefer not to test if I can manage but it's soo hard not to. Good luck.
@Sparkwoodand21 I'm sorry, those negatives are a bitch. As are folk's questions about kids. I fully understand wanting to call it a day but also wanting to keep the hope going. Be kind to yourself and enjoy those biccies (or something better).

@SparkwoodAnd21 "cobwebby uterus" made me 🤣 sorry about the bfn - it never gets easier to see it. I am currently resisting taking a test. FP is due on Sunday and I've been having cramps so am just going to wait for it to show its unwelcome face. We have a wedding on Sunday as well so at least I'll have something to distract me. If I can resist, this will be the first month I've not taken a test which I feel may be a little bit of progress as I'm so obsessed about it all. We get DH's second SA results back today as well - I have a feeling they may be abnormal but we'll see.

@Booksandbaths1 they sound yummy! Did you find the recipe online? Tempted to bake some myself if I can pretend they're not tooooooooo bad for me definitely hoping the B6 helps, it is my current straw of choice to clutch haha. Given weird cycles lately I don't really know when FP is due, but if I can get to 10DPO with no spotting I'll class it as a win I think. 3DPO now.

Tentatively, I THINK my hormonal acne is a bit calmer this month. It kicked off before O but right now I only have one spot brewing into a nasty big beast and the rest are all starting to heal. Hoping no more will appear. I am also insanely cheery today because Fertility Friend has given me solid red lines for O, last month I only got dashed ones. Am obviously still obsessing about the fact my BBT rise is more like 0.3C higher than base line and not higher though, they say it should be at least 0.5 higher I think.

Does anyone else do BBT/FF?