The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

Good luck @pinkemi!

@LexieJean no not one for the train.. unless your extremely open about these sort of things. Haha

My accupuncturist and my reflexologist have also been trying to drum this thought pattern into me for months.. but i always just shrugged them off. I guess i needed to read it for it to sink in.

Feeling positive today though.. just been stuck in a traffic jam for about 15mins. Instead of cursing about it.. i was thankful for the time to be able to listen to my tunes. :-) also just saw 3 magpies and then a single.. so i just counted them all together to make 4 for a boy!

It is my mission to be positive for the whole week. Ill let you know how i get on.

That looks good @pinkemi. Although not one for the train! 😆

Sounds much like the advice my accupuncturist has been telling me and helping me work towards. It is easier said than done but I think I have more positive than negative days now so that’s an improvement!

Hi All.. I had a very productive weekend keeping myself busy to try and forget about TTC for once. (It sorta worked... but only just. lol)

I think it helped that I have been reading this book:

www.amazon.co.uk/Your-Mind-Fertility-Friendly-Emotions-Fertility/dp/1784624640/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=mind+fertility+friendly&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1529336095&sr=8-1

I'm going to try and start being positive about this TTC journey, instead of negative all the time. :-/ I think it might be easier said then done. ha!

@SparkwoodAnd21 urgh that sucks. Sorry you're feeling crap.

@Mellp I had those last cycle. I wouldn't read too much into it as it's horrible but normal either way.

@Countrygirl94 I'm sorry to hear you OH is also finding it tough. Work medical can be brutal. I hope he's not stressing about it being in him, some guys do find it so emasculating.

@booksandbaths1 Thanks for tip, I will as doctor they can only say i have to wait.
@OrcinusOrca I get bad pains, can end up in bed with a hot water bottle until painkillers kick in. I agree though if even strong painkillers aren't giving you relief you should have it checked.

DH had a breakdown last night, he was certain this would only take a few months and with my fp being so late he had really got his hopes up. He also had a medical to do with work and he and high blood pressure and nurse told him he had to lose weight (which he was already doing) but she was so nasty about it, its totally knocked him. Think its worse seeing him so upset about it all.

Does anyone have any insight? I'm not symptom spotting as such but for the last 3 days I've been getting cramps, but not like fp cramps, more like pinching/stabbing feelings in that area. I'm around 4-8dpo (strong positive OPK 8 days ago and a slight temp shift 4 days ago - so may not have even ovulated tbh!) CD23 (cycles lengths vary from 30-37 days)
Just curious as I've never had these pains before.
Any help, grateful appreciated

Uuuuuuggggghhhhhh just seen pictures of ex boyfriend’s partner and it looks like she’s pregnant with number two. I know he’s a twat but it still makes me feel a bit shit.

Sorry you’re in so much pain orcinus, hope it gets better soon.

@OrcinusOrca if the pain is preventing you from carrying on with normal activities then I would get it checked out.

That’s crap @orca especially using up your annual leave! I can’t help I’m aftaid, my pain is bearable. It’s impossible to gauge against others though. Hope you get some relief.

Sorry about the bfn @owl

I feel like there’s no end of TTC in sight ! All my holiday positivity has evaporated!

Horribleeeeee period pain this morning. To the point I couldn't feed the dogs and had to crawl into a bath so hot I was dripping with sweat after just a couple of mins. Thank goodness am on annual leave this week. I had really bad periods after the termination five years ago and when I went back on the pill they were still bad but eventually (maybe after a couple of years) eased up a bit. This is the first time I've had one this bad again in a few years I think. Hoping it's a weird blip. Does anyone else ever get a really bad period once in a while? Never know how much pain is normal either, seems to vary so much from person to person.

@owlpatrol feck sorry about the bfn. It's utter shit this long term ttc crap isn't it?
Interesting for me to hear about other folk's partners having low morphology as we've also got that issue. 3-4% normal... which surely isn't great, especially with lowish sperm count. Yet I've heard it might be ok if you can improve other parameters. Although tbh I think most of our issues lie with me and shitty ovaries.
@countrygirl94 I would definitely recommend requesting a 21 day progesterone test just to ensure you're ovulating.. you could always say you're worried about irregular cycles and think you might not be. It's a key thing to check.

@OrcinusOrca awww hun sending hugs it's so hard isn't it. I told dp I tested and he's been really good. I just use ic tests because I know I'm not pregnant really so it literally helps me to get to fp to pass the time. I have a few Superdrug tests in the house collecting dust now. Not sure what to do next my job is so stressful as well just have to keep going and go through the NHS has much as I can till they tell me they can't go any further. (I am aware that is terribly pessimistic but this is the yam thread Lol!) Not looking forward to work tomorrow. Hope you've had a nice evening xx

@Owlpatrol quite a few people on here don't get BFP at 11DPO, but let's be honest fate never likes things to go perfectly and that's what a BFP today would have been! What tests do you use? I've seen a few people find ICs really naff. Psychologically I could never visualise myself getting a BFP on one of them so I got rid. Same for the marginally more expensive one step ones in a proper plastic stick.

My FP has vanished. It's really weird I've had cramps on and off for dayssss. Think my body is mugging me off after a stressful week at work. If I had a stick I'd pee on one because that ALWAYS tempts FP into appearing. MIL and FIL we're talking about my nieces earlier and I found it sound hard to be interested in the conversation because I'm too exasperated by our inability to conceive thus far. Everyone I know around my age who actually is married seems to get up the duff in an instant.

Hope, they're yours! Pm me your address.

@LexieJean PM me your address and I'll pop them in the post for you x

Ooh @wonky that would be fab! I wanted to try a basal (nasal) thermometer!

@SoozC I'd love them if no one else has snapped them up

Morning yammers it's a BFN for me again this morning so I'm not surprised. Really upset wanted to surprised dp this morning when he gets back from being away. Been crying on and off I know technically I still have a week before Af surely it would show something already as I'm 11dpo

BASAL thermometer!

I have an unopened box of Wellman Conception, happy to post free to anyone who wants them.

Morning Yammers. I'm having a clear out today and starting with the cupboards in my bedroom. I've got a bag of cheapy OPKs, some unused pregnacare conception and a nasal thermometer (never used). Don't like to waste if it can be avoided - anyone want them?

@HidCat ooooh I might clutch that as my new straw. Body having super clearout 👌🏻 FP is here anyway! Oh well. This means I can scoff tonnes of carbs wahooooo

Love that story @Owlpatrol

Okay so I'm trying not to symptom spot but I am having something unusual to my normal behaviour - crying. I am crying at everything! I'm not a crier, and it may be due to stress, but I wondered if anyone else has ever had this?

@OrcinusOrca I had some monster spotting last month too! Between the spotting and my actual period I was bleeding for nearly 2 weeks! Weirdly enough I had a test for blood clots 2 days later (unrelated) and the consultant had warned me it would most likely be positive due to my weird period but actually it ended up confirming that my body had just had a bloody (literally) good clear out!

@Owlpatrol love it! I hope I still have a libido when I get to that point in life 😂