The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

@BGDino I got an awful explosive tummy bug on ov day last week and we did discuss a similar method in order to save DH's health but not waste ov day!! Didn't in end as I just felt too crap to even think about it. Now I don't even know if I will have ovulated when expected so this cycle is all up in the air.

I was feeling better yesterday and DH said 'is it too late for us to have sex now?' Had to remind him we can have sex whenever we like, not just when I'm fertile 😂

@Owlpatrol defo gin!!

@Owlpatrol both methinks, with a healthy side of chocolate. @Books forgot to answer your question, letrozole is just tablets thankfully no needles. @LexieJean neither of us could actually believe we were doing that... also that’s the funnel I normally use to make apple pie flavoured vodka needless to say I won’t be anymore Never thought that TTC + OI would affect my mental health so much. Too depressed to be at work today.

Yammers, I've been a sht friend, sorry. We've managed twice this fw but due 19th and already got af symptoms already and so feel like I'm out. Today I've been in the worst mood and I'm meant to be on holiday! @BGDino* that sounds like a plan and I've been there trust me. One of the deeds this month I needed a wee shortly after and it started creeping down sorry tmi, so caught some and attempted a leg up mannuveur in the toilet. Needless to say I felt like a desperate woman.
Have also been highly peed off at pregnant women and all women with a toddler or buggy in tow the past few days, bitterness and green eyed monsterness doesn't even describe it! Sorry for ranting yammers, shall I put the kettle on or just grab the gin?

Well @dino that all sounds suitably romantic for TTC. Have totally been there with lack of performance. If I say there’s always a chance will you screw yourself into knots for the next 2 weeks? (No pun intended) 🤞 for funnel conception for you.

@maddiie that sucks.

OI update, we had sex Thursday, Friday, Saturday after the phone call on Thursday afternoon. Hit a new low tonight as I’m too depressed to want to have sex and so naturally hubby couldn’t perform as $&#%ing someone who’s not into it is super unsexy. Ended up with him masturbating into a cup and us pouring it into me with a funnel... two doctor household and not a single syringe in the place. Hubby is working evening overtime tomorrow and Tuesday night so that’s probably it for us this cycle as my progesterone test is Wednesday. Have we done enough this cycle to even have a chance?

Oh @maddiie you poor thing, that’s a shitty Friday for sure.

It’s turning into a bit of a mantra for me atm but a yammer (soz cant recall which one of you!) shared these wise words: other people getting pregnant does not affect your chances of getting pg. I’m trying to remain self-focused and not get consumed by jealousy. Trying.

I get that @books Me and OH commenting that we like a particular name from tv the other night had my tears brimming.

Oh @maddiie that must be so so hard for you to hear. Does your sister know what's going on with you? How are you feeling about it?
I went to a friends for dinner this eve. Their daughter is adorable and both dh and I said so on the way home. Then I completely welled up and just felt really sad. Gotta keep the faith that we'll get there one day.

My sister told me earlier that she is pregnant. She's always been very vocal about how she doesn't want children. She's not keeping it. I feel like utter shite. How was your Friday?

@BGDino haaa loving those texts. Think you should go for one of the last two 😂 How do you take the letrozole - injection? I can well imagine it is difficult to not think about the meds and what they're doing. That massage sounds fab though.

Also welcome @maddiie I well know the feelings you're having just now. I found it really tough when a close friend who'd been ttc at the same time us dh and I got her bfp. She said things to be kind but it often made me feel angry and upset. Which then made me feel like a crap friend. As the others said, join us in our yamtastic chat. It truly helps x

Gaaah! Congrats Lexie and also hugs. It's such a head fuck this stuff isn't it. You must be feeling a whole mix of emotions. Hope your partner is taking the news ok. Hugs x

Shitty baby bomb. My bro in law- accident which somehow makes it worse. I’m so upset and so pleased for them. First time I’ll be an auntie and I’m gutted.

@Chooklass @LexieJean Thank you both. It's so disheartening. I feel like hitting 7 months I've got to that weird point where I can't really get help yet, or get it investigated.. but I've been doing it long enough to be really frustrated and turning slightly insane it's just awful. I do appreciate it'll only get worse the longer it takes as well though. She text me this morning saying no to be sad and maybe being around her will give me 'maternal vibes' and I can't even bring myself to reply So thanks for the kind welcome, the moaning will be needed.

Welcome @maddiie ! TTC is really shit, and the conflicting happy/ sad/ guilty emotions with every baby bomb are exhausting - you're in good company here 💐. I try really hard to remember that no matter how many friends/ colleagues etc get preggers before me, it won't change my chances of getting a bfp.

@pinkemi I felt nervous too but it was helpful and informative.

Welcome @maddiie It’s crap feeling so many mixed emotions when friends bfp- I have also felt frustration and anger then guilt cause I’m happy for them. It’s ok to feel sad about it, hopefully your bfp will come soon but in the meantime pull up a yam flavoured chair and join us. Moaning allowed.

Today marks the first day of the seventh month of TTC with no luck. I haven't posted on any of these threads as my closest friend was also trying and we had each other, she got her bfp three days ago and I am irrationally angry and feel like a terrible person and even worse friend. Obviously haven't shown that to her. Feel alone now and like I have no one to talk to. Sorry to butt in on your thread but ttc is shit and I fancied a moan. Wishing you all luck on your journeys

Those of your taking 75mg of Asprin.. is that everyday? Im thinking i should probably start too!

So.. we are booked in for an ivf open evening next tuesday. :-/ im nervous already.. which is silly as its just an information evening and nothing else. Bah.

There are some gems in there @dino 😂 let us know which one you go for! (Also- probably not the most relaxing thoughts whilst having a lovely massage but I totally understand it must be impossible to think of anything else right now) 💐

Yes it’s been way too hot for dtd! Although we did have a fun non fw related session the other day and the extra sweat was worth it!! it’s been a while since we had fun sex not scheduled sex 🙄

Thanks @LimpLettice ! 18ish cycles here and no sniff of a bfp, so I'll give anything a shot 👍

Bold fail sorry!

Sorry BG that made me giggle.
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Chooklass* I was told baby aspirin which is not technically sold in the U.K., it's 81mg. I found some 75mg in B&M for about 30p so stocked up on that. My m/w advice came from my cousin as I was having third miscarriage - she is roughly my age and had just had her last baby but obvs isn't my midwife as such. I've read it can either help or hinder conception so pinch of salt. Still felt it was worth a shot as I'd get no help at 40 with a DD already.

It's shit and there's no denying it Lexie / Books. I hate ttc like poison, the intrusive thoughts and feeling of failure was overwhelming this time round. We need more yammer grads, and we will get them! Doesn't help having to time the shagging when its 12 million degrees and everyone's knackered and tetchy either.

Hello and welcome to all the new Yammers and virtual hugs (and g’days!) to all from the Land Down Under.

Just popping in with an update. Friday 3/8 bloods showed slow oestrogen rise, repeat bloods this Tuesday gone 7/8 showed oestrogen is still rising slowly, will go back again tomorrow morning. Apparently it’s normal for the response to be slow with letrozole, at least according to the clinic nurses.

Treatment is almost all I can think about right now, I had a hot stone massage today as I had the day off, and my brain decided to amuse itself with different ideas for wordings for the “it’s time to do the sexy” text to send to my hubby. So far have come up with:

“Thunderbirds are go!”

“This is NOT a drill.”

“Do or do not. There is no try.”

“Unsheath your sword, sire, and prepare to enter the fray.”

And last but not least,

“The window of time for engaging in specialist physician sanctioned coitus has opened. Please expedite your return to our living quarters and impregnate me.”

(In case you can’t tell, I’m losing it...!)

Hi @sooz and @limp 👋👋 so lovely to hear you’re both doing well, it also gives me the hope to keep on trying.

My maca tabs are about to run out- should I bother buying more or have they proven to be as helpful as yams?!

Thanks for the encouragement @limp and @soozc I often feel like the bfp will never happen for me so it is heartening to hear that after 20 cycles it still can. Send any tips our way! (rushes out to buy asprin) x

@SoozC and @LimpLettice - what dose of asprin did you take? I've not tried asprin yet so may as well give that a shot!