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The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 31/05/2018 18:08

CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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LexieJean · 04/09/2018 22:36

Well my positivity has been waning a bit this week- just so busy at work with a huge project trying not to let it stress me out. But I’ve been trying to do some yoga each day- mostly the the breathing and calmness. Fw just beginning here...

Owlpatrol · 04/09/2018 18:13

@Pinkemi oh yeah you're totally right, I've got quite a few days left because I was originally "saving them up" for mat leave. Sigh. Anyways home time now!

Oooh I am sending lots of hugs (and tea) for your IVF paperwork. I'm trying to stay super positive this month, it's the first month in a while where we could actually be in as we've done it twice fw sooooo here's hoping eh!

Pinkemi · 04/09/2018 16:46

@owlpatrol Make sure you don't tell them your TTC if you DO go for a Spa Day. I wasn't allowed my full body massage because i told them that I "could" be pregnant. (I was in my TWW.. I mean technically I could have been.) sigh

Your job sounds like a nightmare. :( Is there any way you could just take a few days off to re-charge?

I'm trying to not let work get to me.. just chill out about it and carry on as normal. Although I am finding it hard to find any joy in anything at the moment.. need to snap out of it!

I have my IVF consultation on Friday.. :( was trying to fill out the forms last night and just felt so overwhelmed by it all.

Owlpatrol · 04/09/2018 13:05

@Pinkemi oooh spa day in order. I'd love a spa day right now!!

Owlpatrol · 04/09/2018 13:04

Hi ladies how are we all doing? I've been feeling really anxious lately what with my job being so stressful, I need to take a personal break from work but my employer doesn't allow career breaks and let's face it all I want is to fall pregnant Sad

We've managed to dtd twice this fw I think I ovulated yesterday or maybe today as appetite has increased. Anyway I really hope its this month I need to make some lifestyle choices now if it's not.

Anyone else in a similar shitty situation?

Pinkemi · 03/09/2018 10:06

@Maddiie thanks! I will defenitly be sulking for the next few days I think. Need to get back onto the weight loss wagon etc etc.. I just cant shift the "Life is so unfair" feeling at the moment. (I gotta snap out of it.)

Going to nourish my body for the next couple of days.. once FP has gone then gotta get back into the swing of life again! no more mopeing and feeling sorry for myself.

maddiie · 03/09/2018 08:35

@Pinkemi ThanksThanks ttc is shit, but atleast you do have the appointment on Friday and can get things in motion so try and see the bright side. Sulking definitely permitted for a day or two though!

Pinkemi · 02/09/2018 21:57

Am home from the hen party and feel like shite... not due to a ranging hangover.. but due to FP starting in the middle of last night. (Ffs.)

Now tucked up in bed with my DH downstairs watching tv. Feeling very sorry for myself (even though i KNEW it wasn't going to be our month) and just generally bla.

Anyone else find that actually TTC for this long can make you feel more disjointed and distant from your partner? :-/ its hard to describe.. and im probably only feeling so distant because i feel so damn ill.. but just feel.. i dunno.. fed up i guess. I think my husband has basically decided that IVF is the only way to go.. where as im still in denial. (Will probably still be in denial even after our consultation on friday.)

I dunno.. i guess im back to feeling like i have nothing to look forward to.. and ill never be pregnant. (Down in the dumps as always.)

LexieJean · 02/09/2018 20:14

Thanks @books. It was ok- totally side stepped the children question. Thought I did it quite masterfully actually, ha! OH commented in the car on way home that I totally changed the subject- he was mildly impressed 😂 hell of a long conversation about the baby’s possible names.....🙉

Booksandbaths1 · 02/09/2018 16:25

Gosh, good luck and lots of strength @LexieJean - you can do it! I find sometimes acting out a role that everything is fine in my head helps in these sorts of situations. It's perhaps not that healthy as relies on full on self denial, ha. Alternatively try channelling masses of self focus and remembering your and your partner's journey is your own and doesn't relate or compare to others. Fingers crossed no feckin baby questions are asked! Folk should mind their own biz. x

LexieJean · 02/09/2018 11:50

Give me strength. Off to a big family thing today- pg SIL will be there. It’s going to be all about the baby. Must remember how happy I am for them, how brilliant an auntie I’m going to be and that their being pg doesn’t affect my chances. 😬
How many mins in do you reckon before we get asked about children. 5? 10? Will I even get my coat off before the questions start! 🤦‍♀️

maddiie · 02/09/2018 09:57

Thanks @Booksandbaths1 it literally lasted 2 hours and was only pink and brown. I fell victim to google last night just searching "pink brown blood when I wipe only lasted hours' and it came straight up with loads of links to implantation bleeding. I'm awful at convincing myself I have pregnancy symptoms but that's not something I even knew about. Trying to not get my hopes up

Booksandbaths1 · 01/09/2018 11:27

@maddiie that is fairly normal for me. I tend to get on/off spotting for a few days before period arrives properly. Hopefully it is better news for you but I would wait and see what the next few days brings.

maddiie · 01/09/2018 09:50

Thought AF turned up yesterday as when I wiped there was some pinkish blood. Next time I went to the loo wiped again there was brown blood and nothing since? Does this sound normal to anyone or have my periods become even more ridiculous than they already were..

Hoping that you are part of the 15% @BGDino got everything crossed for you xx

LexieJean · 01/09/2018 09:11

Oh @dino what a week for you! Sending you special yammer hugs and keeping everything crossed 🤞

LimpLettice · 01/09/2018 08:17

BGDino forgive me if I'm clutching at straws for you but that seems like excellent doubling time to me? I was told the actual volume was unimportant as this stage, just doubling time which should be 48-72 hours which that defo is. I'll keep everything tightly crossed for you.

BGDino · 01/09/2018 04:02

So glad you found your new GP @maddiie she sounds lovely.

@LexieJean that’s great news!

@Pinkemi have a drink for me!

So my repeat bloods yesterday showed my HCG went from 152 on Monday to 930. Enough of a rise for my fertility specialist to order more bloods on Monday and an early ultrasound on Wednesday. Apparently the 3 options are a) impending miscarriage; b) ectopic pregnancy; c) a normal pregnancy which happens to be one of the 15% with a low, slow HCG. I’ve stopped getting morning sickness though so I’m not optimistic about it being c).

As if we didn’t have enough to be getting on with DH got diagnosed with scabies by his GP, which he probably caught from a hospital patient. So we’ve both had to be covered head to toe in permethrin cream and it feels like we have never ending laundry... have counted 4 laundry baskets’ worth. Though our laundry is down 3 flights of stairs and I’m not supposed to carry heavy stuff (?) so it’s not my problem Wink

Hoping next weeks is better!!!

Booksandbaths1 · 31/08/2018 22:45

I'm sorry about the bfn @pinkemi I find even if I expect it they still aren't any easier to deal with. I hope you have a really fun hen weekend enjoying yourself and not thinking about ttc. You deserve fun times, as do we all.

I've just finished a delicious glass of wine whilst watching the netflix docu One More Shot. It made me cry quite a lot but I do recommend it. I'm finding the ivf podcasts and documentaries are helping me come to terms with what feels like quite a daunting process but one my dh and I are increasingly looking like we'll be going through.

Forgot to say @maddiie I'm really glad you've switched gp and are getting somewhere with the new one. Well done for pushing it and good luck!

(Crossing fingers the spacing on my phone app worked this time, apols if a big jumbled mess!)

LexieJean · 31/08/2018 13:21

Thanks @si1ver 😊

Si1ver · 31/08/2018 13:06

Don't be scared of the drugs @LexieJean, it's tough, but do-able. I had a melt down mid cycle when I wished I hadn't started, but the memory fades fast. You just need to keep going.

Pregnancy is going well so far. 19 weeks in and no major issues.

Pinkemi · 31/08/2018 08:33

Well.. BFN.. lets get plastered! Lol (not sure why i hoped it would be our month.. it was never going to be our month this cycle!)

LexieJean · 31/08/2018 08:29

@books and @si1ver thank you. Yes am relieved but also petrified of all the drugs 😬 not sure when we’ll start- have appointment at end Sept but am away in October so I guess it will depend on cycles etc. Will keep you updated!
How’s your pg going @si1ver?

Glad you’re feeling some control @owl.

Si1ver · 31/08/2018 08:18

@LexieJean that's brilliant news! Do you have a time frame now? It must be such a weight of your shoulders knowing you don't have to find the cash yourselves.

Booksandbaths1 · 30/08/2018 22:26

@Owlpatrol glad you're feeling a bit more in control. I'm afraid I haven't got any tips that have worked for me but vits and jumping on your dp at the appropriate time sound sensible 😉

I'm forced to take this cycle off due to hycosy test which is booked in for cd23. Rather frustrating. Currently on cd4 so a while to wait yet. We have nhs infertility appmt due 17th Sept too.

@LexieJean how are you feeling about the ivf funding coming through? Do you know when it might start?

Owlpatrol · 30/08/2018 20:47

Omg @LexieJean that's amazing news!

Well I feel more in control this month, I've gone back to using opks and I feel better for doing "something" if that makes sense. I also realised i haven't been taking folic acid for 3 months! so started taking again today

Anyone got any tips at all that they can think of, I haven't ordered the lube yet just plan on jumping on dp as much as possible. I think my egg won't last long and or dp must have an issue. Still working on dp