Would I be stupid to try for another baby at 41 with a 6 year age gap?

I am an older parent.

The OP won't be retiring until 67 anyway...so the baby in question would be 25! Unless she is well-padded with a great pension etc.

I have teens in my mid-late fifties - they keep me young, we do all sorts of physical activities, nothing stops us really, and I can't see what the disadvantages to them having older parents are! I am a lot more chilled and confident - and less uptight than many younger parents I see on MN.

If you get pg (as many, many of us older parents do, with ease) you are within your natural childbearing span, so what's the issue? As older parents you are likely to be more financially stable etc.

There is often shocking age-prejudice all over MN.

Only you know the answer. No pro’s as far as I can think. Cons are that you’ll likely never e able to retire because you’ll be hitting your 60’s just as they’re leaving school and heading to uni. Teenagers in your late 50’s.

Personally you couldn’t pay me to do it. They don’t stay babies and neither do we stay young and there are the potential health problems which go with that.

From a personal level I am extremely glad that I don’t have older parents.

I'm 41 and expecting our 2nd about a month before DC1's 9th birthday. We thought our luck had run out and are still baffled how we got this one when we've had no luck at all for the past 5+ years.

From what I've read, larger age gaps are slightly easier as you get less jealousy and the older one can be more independent. DC1 is thrilled and has chats at night with my bump.

I have no idea what the odds are of you getting one - even if you manage to conceive, your miscarriage rate is still 40%+. I've just accepted that being over 40, and having a 40+ husband and a pregnancy with no morning sickness, all of which increase your miscarriage rate, this baby is just meant to be here. Hope it works out for you.

Slightly different but i’m 39 pregnant with DC3, DS2 is nearly 6, DS1 is 9.

I thought we were done. DH wasn’t. Neither of us wanted to regret not having another so we went for it.

Im 42 and pregnant my youngest will be6 when baby born.

If you want one and it will fit in with your family life then go for it! I will be 41 when o have my first and we are hoping for another pretty soon afterwards. With a six year hap you'll have lots of time with baby when your other child is in school.