Any older ladies? I'm 46 and really want another baby, too old?

Im39 and I couldn’t do it now let alone in 7 years time. My friend is pregnant with her 4th and I’m amazed she wanted another at our age. She did try for a while before falling pregnant and is finding out the sex next week. She will be 43 when youngest starts school. My three will be 15, 14 and 11. Madness to me but if it’s what you want, it’s what you want.

Unfortunately you are unlikely to fall pregnant at 46 and if you do you are very unlikely to carry a healthy baby to term. Those are just the facts. There are always exceptions and that might be you, but most of us past 40 will really struggle.

My history is fell pregnant easily at 37 and had no son with no issues. Then had three miscarriages, two early abd unexplained, one died just before my 12 week scan, they tested the tissue and the baby had DS. Then I was EXTREMELY lucky to fall pregnant with DS2 at 40 and gave birth to him just before my 41st birthday. Then we tried again and caught when I was 42, unfortunately the baby had Edwards Syndrome and I had to terminate the pregnancy at 17 weeks as she was very ill. We have since tried to conceive again but no luck whatsoever and I’m now 43.

I do know one woman at school who had her last child at 44 and he is healthy. She gives me a bit of hope but after 42 the stats are really really awful.

I've just had my 3rd and I'm 45. Very happy with the decision, although I plan to avoid the menopause with hrt!

I had my youngest at 44 ( number 6) I just relaxed didn't worry about it and got an fertility calendar and had 4 boys between 37 and 44 years old total mayhem but I love it . Just relax and see if it happens and eat a good diet with plenty of protein and vitamins. I wish you well.

I'm 38 and pregnant with dc2 but when I was pregnant with dd now 3, I met a lady who was 42 then and having her first child.

I met her at a consultants clinic at my local Hospital for high risk pregnancies and older Mums etc..... and we became really good friends.

She's an amazing mum and now she's 45 is expecting again same as me!!

I'm waiting for a dating scan as I'm not sure whether a late period much lighter than usual was late period or implantation bleed but we might be in together again!

Yes there's risks but if you're in a strong relationship or even an amazing single mum and in good health then op I wish you all the very best of luck.

There's a certain amount of risks for some people who are a lot younger aswell - I guess it's a very personal decision.

I'm a bit worried at 38 as I'm already one of the "older mums" at various groups - it's a tough call x

Does the yoga teacher have teenagers at home to annoy her? Because that is OPs reality at 60.
Sounds like yoga teacher has a more quiet home life!
I do agree that people feel differently at the same age. I was surprised to find out a mum friend was intact 42 and not 32!

No, it is not. Read what people have said.

Well seeing as you ask .. I'm 46 and I think it's too old. However I'm not you so crack on if it's what takes your fancy

My point is: age is just a number ‘FFS’

Lol fonteyn

The yoga teacher just has time for herself and yoga FFS

At 42 I felt much the same! At 45 I felt much the same. At nearing 48 I do not feel at all feel the same.

I am taking up yoga as of tomorrow!

I had my 4th at 39 and am now 45. I am bloody exhausted perimenopause is a problem I would no way have a baby at 46 unless I had no children and was desperate.

I have suddenly become a lot older. At 39 I felt pretty young. I would think very carefully because I feel sorry for my 5 year old sometimes as I just don't have enough energy for her sometimes.

I hate the ‘46 is too old to have a newborn’ comments. I mean why? Really? Surely it depends on the person. I’m 42 and look and feel about 30. My yoga teacher is 60 and looks about 40. You should see her do splits and headstands. She’s more gorgeous and vibrant than most women half her age. If your body is capable and you’re youthful and fit why not?! Just because you feel too old does not mean every other woman does. There’s a reason why many women continue to ovulate into their late 40s/50s.

HaHa, just wait! Snookie

No, my point was at 50, when the baby is 3 she will be menopausal! If not before. Fact. Not fun for anyone. Your energy goes down the pan!

A few years ago one of the journalists in the Guardian wrote a weekly column about exactly this. Here is one of them:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/09/luisa-dillner-pregnant-older-mum

Others have mentioned that the perimenopause is horrible. Not necessarily. I’m in my early 50s and have not noticed anything. I feel the same as always.

I am 47 and not menopausal, but can't imagine having a baby at this age. It really seems very old to have a newborn. I wouldn't want to be a 60 something with a teenager, it doesn't seem right.

OP come and join us on the ttc over 40 board if you decide to go for it. There are quite a few of us ttc number 1,2,3 and more. Some of us are in our early 40s but others are mid 40s.

How resilient are you? Realistically about 80% of mid-40s pregnacies are miscarried.

My story is that for my second pregnancy (age 33) I was effectively told I had miscarried and had to wait for the confirmation. And then they found a heartbeat. Which is now ds and my family is complete.

But whilst waiting for the confirmation of the miscarriage I vowed that I would never put myself through it again and I also realised that I didn’t think my 10 year marriage would survive it. And I went a bit loopy for the rest of the pregnancy and so can’t really remember my lovely older child as a 2 year old at all. Which is something I can never get back.

So I would never put myself through a pregnancy where the odds were stacked against me but that is because of knowing my own personality.