TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

Oh Laney79 💔

I echo HidCat. See if you can get checked out before you head off on Thursday, even if it's just to point you in the right direction.

@Laney79 I think you should get checked out. This much pain and bleeding I'm sure is not normal and you may have retained products. Please don't suffer in silence, call your doc. 🐧🐧🐧🐧

Oh @Cakelaur what lovely pictures! So pleased for you. One day I hope we all can post similar snaps.

Welcome to all the new lasses-so sorry to see you here, but be assured this thread is one if the few things that's helped stop me freaking out.

That said-having a bad day today. Four weeks on from physical MC, 10 weeks since finding out, and I'm still bleeding/passing gloopy blood. And having pain every day. Was hoping this was my period after sudden heavy bleeding for half a day+ on Tuesday but I'm back to AF snot as I've nicknamed it, and the pain is still there-steady, no reduction in flow or anything. Checked my cervix today and it's also still open. So frankly I feel like this will never end. Just want a day where I don't pass anything and I don't have pain-is that really too much to ask?

Sobbed earlier. Off on hols on Thursday so I was doing my packing, trying on swimming cozzies and realised they shouldn't be fitting by now, I should have a 19 week bump...but I don't.

I should be looking forward to my holiday, but I'm beginning to dread it. It was meant to be last foreign trip before bean arrived. Now I'm trying to figure out how much tampax/pads to take, and wether there's any point in taking opks...as things stand I won't even be able to go in the water, let alone make love. I miss my man terribly.

It's just awful. I just need it to stop now. I'm so tired.

Sorry to be a moaning Minnie-I've just had enough. 😢 X

@Ells0204 hello and welcome. I'm sorry for your losses. This group is a great place to chat, ask advice and just off load sometimes. We all understand as we are all here for the very same reason. Baby dust to you too when your ready to try. X

I have been absent for a few days and there is so much to read. Hope everyone is well

Hi everyone I hope it’s ok I join! I feel like a little excited puppy as I have just spent the last 2-3 hours glued to my phone reading every single post in this thread 🙈 and feel like I know all of you already lol! I’m sorry we’re all here but totally agree with what some of you have been saying where friends/family/colleagues seem to think you’re miraculously ok and it’s more of a taboo now.

Background on me... TTC #1 since Jan, fell first cycle but was unfortunately a chemical. Fell again in March with a BFP on my 25th birthday but MC 5w3d naturally at home that very night after returning from A&E.

Not trying again for a few months due to being probably not quite mentally ready but also an exciting new job offer! But I would still love to get involved and chat with you all.

Congrats to those with their BFPs and baby dust to everyone else 💫 xxx

@HidCat sounds quite nice tbh. Mine is boring brown. I've tried dying it but it doesn't hold colour.

@Lilimum4 it's supposed to be pale "cool" blonde (non peroxide type as my hair was already blonde), but has gone a bit red at the roots for some reason. Hoping it's going to settle in a few washes as they usually do.

@BettySwoll0cks welcome and I'm sorry for all you've been through. Hope you have your bfp soon. I love the name by the way!

Hello all, hope you don't mind a new joiner so far into the thread! We're TTC DC2, fell preggers in Jan but had an early scan (7wks+) that showed bean only 5wks. I knew it wasn't right. Anyway, confirmed it was lost at an NHS scan a week later. Booked in for a D&C at 9 or 10wks and they did a precautionary scan and found a heartbeat that time. I was completely shocked & devastated, having resigned myself to the loss. Anyway, was sent home to sit and wait and eventually passed the pregnancy at about 11wks.

But ... enough of that. We're trying again. I've had 2 cycles now since the loss in March and so far nothing. Fingers crossed for everybody.

Just reading through these posts, @HidCat I’ve had my hair coloured too today. After nearly 12 weeks of thinking I was pregnant, I did not get my hair coloured so the grey really came through making me even more depressed! Now at least I feel a little bit more ‘human’ on the outside that is! Xx

Great pics cake! So pleased for you! Have you told anyone yet? :)

@hayleyfx I really hope its a darker line. The chemical one I've had this time has convinced me to never test to early again (I know I'll do it anyway) its just so cruel isn't it. I'll keep my fx and tx crossed for you.

@DaisyMay25 oh no I’m sorry!! Hugs

@KeefBurtain welcome, I’m so sorry for your loss. Hope this thread helps you as much as it has helped me!

@Lilimum4 sorry you’re having a bad day. I hope tomorrow is better for you. Hugs!

I’m testing again tomorrow. Convinced myself already that this will be another chemical - so pessimistic. If I get a darker, strong line tomorrow I’m honestly going to be surprised!! Fingers crossed though 🤞

@HidCat how do you mean good or bad weird

@Lilimum4 hugs to you!

Just dyed my hair, it's gone weird....

OK having a crappy day. How's everyone else doing?

Congratulations @Cakelaur beautiful little one you have there & so glad everything is on track and looking good! 👍
Your pic looks very similar to my friends who had scan at similar time to you & she is now a very healthy 24 weeks!

@Boboelephant sorry 🙈I'm a tit- did mean 8dpo Vs CD8 completely read that wrong! Good luck with the OPKs and making the most of fw and 🤞 for this cycle for you. Yea I had such good intentions but I've been out shopping today and have already bought a FRER which I'm now contemplating using tomorrow morning 🙈

Welcome @MrsGS76 & @KeefBurtain sorry you both find yourselves here & im so sorry for your losses. My AF took 5 weeks after my D&C for my second mc at 12 weeks and 4 weeks for my earlier mc at 8 weeks- depends how high your hormones were when you mc I think.

@KnitKitty interesting about the symptoms pre BFP conversation. Before my pregnancies previously I definitely had symptoms from about 6-7dpo - the last pregnancy I really felt I knew I was pregnant before the test was strongly positive. Then again it might be because pre my last two pregnancies when I didn't get a BFP I was a lot more chilled/not really trying so it may be that I will think the same if I get a BFN now that I'm obsessing like a mad woman! Definitely feel like I'm setting myself up for disappointment this cycle if it's negative!

At least they're outside cakelaur those are great pictures.

Sorry you find yourself here KeefBurtain . I was fortunate that I got regular again immediately after my MC, as though it had just been a period. But that isn't the case for everyone.

YellowDaffodils and MrsGS76 sorry you having such bad days, I hope they are few and far between.

@KeefBurtain I'm so sorry you find yourself here. AF should show 4-6 weeks after your bfn I think. It took me 3 months to get bfn then 4 weeks to get my period but had horrific PMS. I hope your cycle gets back to normal soon.

@Cakelaur those are fab scan pictures. So glad all is going well for you. xx

@DaisyMay25 hopefully it's implantation bleed. 🤞🏻

My next scan is in about 10days. Which I'm hoping will symbolise a time to start to relax.

Attached a pic.

Currently sat at home amongst chaos. My OH's 12 year old son has 8 friend over for a sleep over. They're currently on making silly drinks concoctions and doing the cinnamon challenge which has turned into a chilli powder challenge!!! Haha!! Carnage!!! My garden is covered in chilli powder!!! Hahaha!!!

@MrsGS76 our stories are really similar.

It was my 4th baby too.

@DaisyMay25 tbh we haven’t actually done anything to stop falling pregnant, just haven’t been actively trying if you know what I mean.

Hopefully AF will show up soon so I can get my opks out and at least feel like I’m being proactive.

@KeefBurtain I'm so sorry you find yourself here, I think everyone is a bit different as to when AF returned for them, mine was four weeks to the day but it can take a fair bit longer than that. I know you've been advised to wait until after that to start trying but there's nothing to suggest you have to. They say this mainly for dating purposes, there's no harm in trying again straight away, in fact many people have fallen pregnant again straight after a mc. Try again as soon as you feel ready

Hello @KeefBurtain, looks as though you had a natural miscarriage at the same time I did. I also had an early scan just after 6 weeks and saw the heartbeat but the lady said I was measuring less than that. Looking back , I should have known that was a sign? Following the miscarriage, I bled normally for about three days. I’ve just had that brown stringy discharge this morning but nothing since, thought it was my AF but not so sure now. So sorry for your loss. Xx
@YellowDaffodils86 , I too am having a bad day, I should be 18 weeks today, instead I’m thinking of how to start again planning . It’s really comforting that others are in the same position, and we are allowed to have bad days,,, I may just treat myself to a pink gin! Xx 🍸.

And to the other ladies who wished me well, thank you so much, apologies but I didn’t realise you needed to put the @ sign in before the name, sending love to all xx

@YellowDaffodils86 unfortunately I doubt it at 13dpo wishful thinking though!
I'm sorry things are a bit poop for you right now. I really hope she shows soon (if not a bfp obviously!) so you can start your next cycle. How many cycles post mc are you? In January which was my fourth cycle post mc I missed AF completely just a tiny bit of spotting and that's it