TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

@HidCat just keep distracting yourself, I bed it's super hard but super exciting at the same time!!

Congrats to the ladies with the BFP's.

Question - yesterday I had some slight spotting (red blood) when going to toilet and very, very minor on pad , today I'm in full AF for the first time after MC. So do I count today as CD1 or yesterday as CD1?

I've had a lovely day today with family, took a walk to the special place we buried our little bundle of joy x so sad but so looking forward to the future of possibly adding another one to our family x

@Jessabean thankyou! I agree with you.it is really hard and gets harder the longer it goes on. Sure I'll snap out of this soon, just having a bit of a bad slump! I really hope you get a bfp on Wednesday.
@HidCat and @MrsLCW haha. Try and wait a bit longer!
@Funkyemzie yep I'd definitely get on it!! Especially as once you get a positive you can ovulate anywhere from 12-48 hours later. So as you're super fertile 2 days before ov and if you have a short surge you wana cover your bases!! Haha me too. I prefer JKS to BD but have just realised every time I've written jks'ing I'm saying 'just keep shagging'ing' 😂😂 Oops!

@boboelephant I've tried so many brands but over the months this is the only one that is sensitive enough. I actually have never had an "as dark or darker than the control line". I think I've just never found my right time. I'm on testing twice a day now so maybe start jks'ing from tonight?

Every time is see jks'ing it makes me chuckle! 😂

@HidCat I hear ya 😂 4DPO here and keep flitting between being desperate to test and scared to do it too soon and being disappointed/driving myself mad squinting at a pissy stick 😂

Hi ladies, hope everyone is managing to have a good day. I'm trying to distract myself from POAS as it's waaay too early (5dpo ish). Currently cooking a new dish, some sort of Mexican dish with Cajun sliced potatoes. Smelling good for now lol.

Haha @KnitKitty thanks! Hoping we both manage it this cycle! 🤞

Also @Funkyemzie that looks almost there to me- I would JKS from now though if I was you just to be sure anyway!

@Boboelephant I'm sorry your feeling rubbishy about stuff at the moment. I seem to have waves with good and bad periods with the low and anxious feelings around this process & am finding the longer it's going on for the harder it becomes to put the feelings aside/stick to the positive days. I think it's quite natural. This journey is hard & it is really not fair that we find ourselves here. I am also finding myself becoming jealous of those who have had such an east time conceiving and then feeling guilty as am genuinely happy for them. Basically what I'm trying to say is your right it's so shit but don't feel bad for how your feeling it's completely normal and natural & here for you if you need to vent! "Hugs"

Jessabean I feel almost as impatient to see your next test as mine... haha. Fingers crossed for you for Wednesday (or tomorrow if you cave )

@KnitKitty I wish I had the answers but unfortunately I am now that crazy obsessed woman who also symptom spots like crazy & tests too early too apparently! I've managed to hold off today and am hoping to hold off till Wednesday morning now before testing again just as I really can't deal with the uncertainty of another squinter! I'll be really annoyed if it's negative though not only because of the obvious & that I've set myself up for disappointment but also because I feel really rough- been off food completely today & if I'm not it means I'm probs Ill or this is a new PMS thing for me post mc!
Keeping everything crossed 🤞 for you though when you do test!

@hayleyfx & @Wellthisunexpected yes please keep us posted with how you get on! I find it really helpful to hear people in this situation who go on to have healthy pregnancies (which am keeping all crossed for you that both your beans will be this time!). It gives me hope!

@Funkyemzie I'd say it's not there yet but getting close. Although I haven't used that brand. Does it say that the test line needs to be as dark or darker than the control line? If so I'd say keep testing and jks'ing. It'll prob be positive tomorrow.

Thanks @YellowDaffodils86 and @zarala. Definitely up for the getting fitter and thinner! Hope we can all stick with it.
@Yellow how are you feeling? Any more idea what's going on? @SerenaOverjoyed what about you?
@Cakelaur thanks.
@UnicornsandRainbows1 so glad things are going well. Good luck for Friday. I'm sure everything will be great.
@MrsLCW I know how you feel. It is hard when you are torn between being happy for those you love and devastated for yourself.
My bf told me last night she's pregnant and I'm so happy for her but it knocked the breath out of me too. She fell as soon they started trying and whilst she's so brilliant and totally deserves it I can't help but wonder why I haven't been so lucky.
@DaisyMay25 I'm so sorry for the bfn. Hope af still stays away!
@hayleyfx and @Wellthatwasunexpected congratulations again. Must feel great to see it in words! Any tips @hayley on how you stayed positive?
@peachesarenom so glad all is well with bubs. So sorry for the bleeding, that must be really scary. Fx it stops soon and all continues well.
@Claire138 hey! So glad all is well with you too. And thankyou. I hope so. Struggling alot lately and not sure how to stay positive any more.
@KnitKitty you sound like me. 🤦‍♀️ I hope it is something for you though.

I did another yin yoga today which is lovely and relaxing. DH and I have also decided to stop drinking at home for the next month. If nothing else I'll look better in my bathers for our holiday in July!

Would you say this is an almost there? It's an OPK not a HPT.

hayleyfx I'm glad it's official now! :) Good luck, and by all means stick around to keep us updated and get the support you need.

Wellthisunexpected encouraging to hear that you got pregnant after just the once and you thought you'd missed your window. I'm in that boat right now. We've only done BD on what I think was the day after ovulation this month. Still symptom spotting like crazy and today couldn't stop myself buying some FRERs.

After my MC and before TTC again I was convinced I wouldn't want to POAS before AF was late as I didn't feel like I'd want to know too early on in case things went wrong again. I only tested on CD39 with the last pregnancy because the night before I was planning to test I had some bleeding which continued for a few days and thought AF had arrived. But I'm now experiencing POAS obsession for the first time. How does one stop oneself being a crazy lunatic? haha! I really feel like I'm inventing symptoms this month. A "sensation" in the uterus area, possibly darker nipples and heavier boobs (I never get pains) and the burping continues. I'm sure it's just psychological though. I really want to test but I know it's too early. I think conception would have happened a week or 6 days ago if it happened, and which is hasn't.

@Wellthisunexpected omg I’m way too excited about that haha! We’re in this together! 😀

@Blondcat so glad you’re feeling positive! It really does help, it helped me so much. I hope June is your month!

@Lovewinemorethanhusband @Maydot @Claire138 @Anyday88 thank you all so much!! I’ll keep you all updated, hopefully with good news 😊 fingers crossed for more bfp’s very soon, I’m so hopeful for everyone 🤞

@Claire138 btw hope you’re doing well hun!!

Hi All,
Finally found you. I am just enjoying the last couple of days in Menorca and my fertile window too! Hoping that being a little more relaxed and plenty of dtd will help!

Fantastic seeing the BFPs today @hayleyfx and @wellthisisunexpected

Big congrats @hayleyfx wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
I’m still lurking in the background and really rooting for you all!!
Sorry @boboelephant you are having a tough time! Really hope this is your month! You really deserve a BFP!
Sorry to the new comers and congrats to everyone else who has got a BFP!

Congratulations @Wellthisunexpected and @hayleyfx!!! So happy for you both, I have everything crossed for you
This makes me so excited to start trying again!! 😊
Please keep us posted on how things are going! x

Congratulations for bfp ladies hayleyfx and wellthisiunexpected.
Been away and not had any real signal will have to have a proper read through once kids are in bed ! I'm coming up to fw but really not feeling it at the moment so having a break I think to get my head straight x

Thanks @hayleyfx it is lovely and even with af showing up it has been relaxing and I am much more positive for this next month.
I am really happy that you and others have got your bfp's and would like to hear updates as it helps me to hear positive stories.

@Hayleyfx we're due date twins!

@MrsLCW @PumpkinPatch000 @Lilimum4 @DaisyMay25 @zarala @Funkyemzie thank you all so much ladies!! I’m so nervous but excited too. I’ll keep you all posted, going to arrange an early scan for a few weeks time. Praying I’m still pregnant then & for good news! Hoping you are all blessed with BFP’s and sticky beans soon, I have to stick around to see how you’re all getting on haha!!

@KeefBurtain yeah there’s something reassuring about a positive story isn’t there 😊 especially on this thread as you are just the most deserving bunch of ladies of BFP’s and sticky beans!

@Wellthisunexpected thank you! & it’s great seeing the word ‘pregnant’ pop up! I couldn’t stop staring at it haha. I’ve worked out I’m due around 4/2/19 but very well could be a day or two off! When are you due? I hope we both have healthy and happy pregnancies 🤞

Hi everyone!!! With the house move imminent and work and just general life I've been trying to keep off here. Been lurking and reading a few posts, decided though that I probably need you guys more than I think. I actually ovulated properly last month and going for the SMEP this month. Got my positive OPK today so on it for the next 3 days now.

@hayleyfx huge congratulations lovely, hope you have a very uneventful 9 months.

I love seeing Bfp's on this post!

@Hidcat hope you are well lovely!

Right I'm off for JKS 😂🐇🐇

Congratulations Hayleyfx when are you due?

I also couldn't help myself, something about having it in writing really helps.

Congratulations @hayleyfx
I know when my sister miscarried she couldn’t stand to be around pregnant people/hear babies mentioned but I love hearing about it. We have 2 pregnancies announced on my 2017 bus this week, plus a friend who lives in Greece has just put her 12 week scan on fb, and I find myself wanting to know every detail!

@peachesarenom wonderful news! I can only imagine how stressful the bleeds have been for you! but fingers crossed your pregnancy continues as smoothly and uncomplicated as possible! Do keep us updated!

@hayleyfx amazing news! Seeing that pregnant written really does have a stronger impact doesn't it! So happy for you and please do keep us posted!!

I don't know if everyone feels the same but positive stories like yours make me feel so hopeful and genuinely so happy for you as I know what we've all been through x