TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

@weasledee yay for ov!!! Hopefully the TWW goes fast!!

@SerenaOverjoyed @DaisyMay25 @Boboelephant here's the fertility dance!!!

@ek78 defo give temping ago. I loved it. I actually miss doing it now I'm pregnant! 🙈

Thank you all for your kind words about the call I received this morning. I felt quite low most of the day and it got harder when I had two separate comments from colleagues.. the first asked me how my body is doing since the MC... seriously, who asks that? I said it's all fine now and back to normal (wasn't going to say I've been bleeding heavy and leaking 🙈😂) and then she said "great you can start trying again!"... the second person later in the day asked if we are going to start trying on our holiday next week... umm how does she know my cycle and that this is actually the case?! That's the downside to people knowing about the miscarriage. I didn't tell them the first time we were trying so why do they seem to assume I want to talk about it now? What do you all say when asked this question? I am a rubbish liar so I've just left it with, "we'll see"... that bit is true but not sure what else to say other than p!ss off, none of your business!!

This thread moves so fast. I'm feeling guilty that I don't have the time to speak to you all individually as it might seem a bit rude that my comments are all me me me 🙈 I hope it doesn't seem this way! I am reading every comment and thinking of you all. I forget who said what by the time I come to reply! I'm currently working over time to catch up from my holiday and also getting everything done ready for our second holiday on Friday but I will be more active once I'm back and look forward to getting to know you all more!

RedRobin That really sucks, sorry hun! Hugs xxx

Jessabean it's not over til the fat lady sings. When is she due?
If AF does arrive try to see it in a positive way, you can take extra time to recover and you have a lot going on so you should be kept busy (although I understand it will probably suck not to have a pregnancy to distract you in a positive way, but we're here for moral support). Do you have plans for your first bean's due date?

SerenaOverjoyed I hope things get back to normal soon, it must suck being in this weird limbo of not knowing what's going on.

maxiflump1 that's hilarious! I'm surprised he couldn't see anything though! When are you going to test again?

zarala Good luck for Monday and TTC next cycle. Do let us know how you get on!

Boboelephant I absolutely back what the other ladies have been saying. Sending you cyber baby dust. Penguin cuddles.

weasledee good luck with your TTW, hope you've managed to catch a sticky bean this month!

MrsLCW hope that's a good sign. Fingers crossed for you! :)

Mistymeow Good luck to you too! Sorry AF was so painful. Fingers crossed for you.

L1zz13 hugs! You don't have to rush in to a decision about TTC again. I can understand your hubby not wanting to put you through that again. You may just need a break and time to recover before even trying to decide what to do.

DaisyMay25 Camembert sounds amazing. Drools

@jessabean what a rubbish day for you!

What's this dance?! Count me in!
AF arrived so treated myself to some Camembert and a nice hot bath (haven't had a bath in three weeks to see if it made a difference) I'm going to try less this cycle just opks and SMEP again (if I can convince DH)
But I'll be enjoying my baths, not using conceive plus or eating pineapple core 🤢

I take folic acid and vitamin d already which other vitamins would people recommend?

@weasledee and @funkyemzie and @MrsLCW woohoo for tww! Fingers crossed!!
@SerenaOverjoyed haha collective fertility dance. Sounds like a plan! 😂 not sure what's going on for you hun but hopefully it's just the last month of your body regulating and next bubs is your sticky one.
@Anyday88 I don't know that app. Does it change from saying you're in fw to saying 'its ovulation day'? Either way sounds like you're in fw and you're covering bases so fx!
@Jessabean oh I hope not. It might just be too early still. Lots of lines don't get dark until after af would have been due. Did your temp drop below coverline? Fx you're still in!
@L1zz13 does DH want to stop completely? That's very difficult if so and I'm sorry that's a position you're in. I hope you can come up with a good plan together.
@BabynameEdie thanks so much lovely. I really appreciate your words and support. I'm thrilled you posted, i love hearing from you guys with your bfps! I actually started doing the yin yoga on YouTube and I love it. I'm doing the fertility one but we can do it alongside definitely!!
@hayleyfx thanks so much lovely!!
@ek78 I agree with @weasledee. The temps for me have taken so much guesswork out of it. And some of the stress!

Thankyou so much to all of you who have given me your love and support today. It has made my day!!! ❤🐧❤🐧
There have been a few days lately when posting has been hard for me as I've felt a bit lost and left behind. But I've kept doing it because I am genuinely happy for you but also it meant so much to me when I joined to have people respond to me so I'm so happy I have had a positive impact for some of you. xxx

Ek78 I've found the combination of the OPK's and taking my temp really useful. Once I've ovulated I see a clear temp rise, which remains high until you're period is due and you see a distinct drop. Worth doing I think x

@funkyemzie glad that it looks like you caught your ov day! If I have another confusing month with the opks next month, I might start with the temps too...

@Boboelephant I hope you manage to feel more positive this month and I hope it does work for you. You really deserve your BFP and hopefully very soon. You give us all amazing support and I just want to see you finally get your BFP!! Fingers, toes, everything crossed for you! 🤞

@RedRobin7 oh no I’m sorry. It’s rubbish when something like that happens and ruins your day. I hope you’re okay!

@SerenaOverjoyed thank you hun!!

@L1zz13 I hope you’re out of limbo soon, glad you’re feeling a bit better!

@JessaBean I’m sorry. You’re not out yet though, at 11dpo my line was so faint that I was convinced it was going to be a chemical then the next day - BFP! You never know. I hope you still get your bfp and if not this cycle then fingers crossed for next month!! 🤞

@Boboelephant I'm here and thinking of you. You give so many of us such amazing support and I hate to think you're feeling low. Just read back through lots of messages but particularly wanted to send you penguin huddle vibes so you know you're not alone. This will happen for you, although as I've found once I'm here it's bloody terrifying, but obviously still a good thing. I hope you don't mind me posting I just wanted to give you some ❤️ as you have given me so so much over the last few months. I'm about to start some gentle yoga, fancy joining? I feel if I have someone I'm committing it to then I might actually do it! Am going to just use YouTube so not spending lots of money. Lots of love x

So nice to pop back on this thread and see so many BFPs!

I got my af exactly 4 weeks after my ERPC, right on schedule, so I was pleased my body seems to have got back to normal. It was very painful though! I'm cd5 today and thank you to the lady who recommended the opks, I'm going to start using them this cycle. I still think it's going to be a miracle to get pregnant again but I want to give myself the best chance.

Good luck to you all, hope you are all well xx

Ok so I think I'm out this cycle now 🙁 Took another FRER this morning and looks no different from the first which it really should be by now (pretty sure I'm about 11dpo) if it was happening I think. That and I had a slight temp drop this morning too so pretty sure AF will be making an appearance in the next couple of days.

Feel so gutted. Properly got my hopes up this month- as I'd felt so rough the last few days and had cramping. Now not sure if it's a stomach bug or my body just playing cruel tricks on me!
Doubly rubbish as means I'm now out till August too as my OH is going away with work for 6weeks next Wednesday and will probs just miss my July FW on return. First Due Date is beginning of August and I've got some big work exams/stress gearing up around then too. Plus to top it off just got a letter from landlord yesterday saying we need to move by August as they're wanting to sell our rental flat. So just generally rubbish all round!

At least have a friends wedding this weekend and then off following weekend on holiday for a week with friends to try and take my mind away from all of this hopefully. Will try and use the time to heal & get back to pre TTC shape physically.

Sorry for the rant!

@RedRobin7 that is so rubbish of them! They really need to sort out their IT systems there as is so cruel.

Good luck to those of you testing in next few days& also to those entering 2WW (stay strong!) and those getting ready/starting to JKS!

Hi all,

Does this look like the day Ovia thinks I will ovulate?
I’ve just been back through my 3 previous cycles where I have gotten pregnant and a common theme seems to be that I have dtd on cycle day 14 however dh was too tired last night so we have dtd on cycle day 10, 13 and hopefully tonight on 15.

Hoping that’s enough 🙈

Hi everyone!
I'm 5DPO today and have mild cramping (more niggles than cramps) and heavy boobs today!
@SerenaOverjoyed like you I tend to have no issue falling pregnant (or haven't up til now) but keeping bubs safe in there is my issue! X

weasledee fx the next 10 days speed by and bring you some good news

RedRobin Just read about your phone call, ouch! That must have been a real slap in the face. I hope you do something nice for yourself today

Zarala there seems to be a spate of period weirdness! Good luck with the new cycle and Dr S' regime

maxiflump lol at the pee stick alarm clock!

boboelephant I'm probably not pregnant but still totally up for a collective fertility dance. I'm sure people have done weirder things ttc! Teach us the steps cakelaur?

My 2nd mc was in March, and I either had a weird 3rd mc in April (would have conceived 2 days after mc) or I had retained product that made my hcg creep up. I had an ultrssound but as my hcg was in the 40s there was nothing to be seen, so I have no idea! I seem to get pregnant really easily but I just never get to week 6 before miscarrying.

@maxiflump1 I see it!

Those OV tests are getting darker, but not near yet I don't think.

Fingers crossed it's your month @wealedee

@ek78 it's a good job we did JKS yesterday, tests are back to negative now but a clear shift in temp this morning.

So i has a temp rise yesterday so ovulation defo occurred when I got those positive sticks...
So I'm now 2 DPO.....

Woohoo @maxiflump1. Congratulations!!!
@hayleyfx thankyou. I read your message and it's snapped me out of my slump. You're right. It will happen when it's right, I've always been a believer in things happen when they should. I will just continue trying to be healthy and JKS and leave it up to fate as much as I can.
@ek78 I don't use the flashing ones so not too sure. Have you had any physical symptoms to make you think you might have ovulated?
@RedRobin7 oh that's so tough. Sending hugs to you.

@SerenaOverjoyed, @ek78, @Cakelaur and @zarala thankyou all so much. I got a bit teary reading your posts. It feels so nice to have all your support- my little anonymous ttc village!!! Please aim that baby dancing and chanting my way @Cake! I want to catch your preggers vibes!! 🤣

@SerenaOverjoyed oh I'm so sorry this is still dragging on for you. What cycle are you post MC? I really hope it's not a failed pregnancy.
@HidCat feeling much more positive today.
@MrsGS76 sounds positive!
@zarala hope Dr S has lots of answers for you!

@Boboelephant I totally agree with @SerenaOverjoyed and @ek78 ! 🐧 hugs and luck to you!

@maxiflump1 I see a squinter! Fx for you !!!

So AF arrived last night- CD25, which is a bit weird. Usually my cycles are between 27-29 days- and it's a strange brownish mucusy consistency- sorry if TMI- but this is AF 3 after my last MC, I thought things would start getting back to Normal by now! No wonder I was having strange symptoms the other day... oh well!

I'm seeing Dr S next Monday so hoping he has a plan for me and then maybe we can start TTCing next cycle! Yikes!

@maxiflump1 that's so hilarious thrusting it in front of DH at 630! What a wake up call. ✋🏼hi five to the men out there enduring this with us!
@SerenaOverjoyed keeping my fx for you xx
@Boboelephant thankful for my positive day yesterday and fx for a positive month ahead. I'm CD2 today and I was thinking of starting the OPK when AF finishes, so far it all appears normal after MC, just a normal AF, no clots, no excessive bleeding so all positive so far xx

@Boboelephant I hope you're doing ok? Straight into the huddle with you methinks 🐧.

@SerenaOverjoyedI hope it's not bad news for you but we're here either way. 🐧

Thanks ladies. DH said he couldn't see anything but then I did wake him up thrusting it in his face at 6.30 this morning! Will resist the urge to test for a few days!

Sorry to those of you who are at struggling

@RedRobin7 So sorry for you! It's an awful feeling when you know where you should be buy instead you're analysing every CM, every temp and every day!! Sending hugs to you!
And good luck to all the others waiting for those BFP's! X