TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

Thanks hidcat :) x

I think I am going to ovulate tomorrow. Will do another ovulation test later. I track my discharge. I got a white stretchy discharge today. But not completely stretchy. So think I'll ovulate tomorrow. Planning to jks for the next week atleast. 3 days done! Dh is enjoying it! Haha!

Morning ladies! Just catching up... had a bad day yesterday and deleted the app 🙈 who am I kidding, I need you ladies! Just feel so depressed about everything.

@L1zz13 I'm struggling with my DH at the moment too and I think maybe we need counselling but he won't agree to it. I'm having counselling but it's not really addressing all this how I'd like to. My DH keeps changing his mind about whether or not we are going to try and also doesn't want to go through another MC. We're on holiday and have argued so many times it's so sad. It's his anxiety and depression which causes him to be like this. He keeps saying he's a failure and I should find someone else who would treat me better. I'm not giving up on him and I know he will be an amazing dad so I don't feel bad that I keep pushing it. In the TWW now and it's his bday so thankfully we can stop thinking about TTC!!

@Pancakes7 @KnitKitty I will give headspace a go too as I feel like my thoughts are taking over and it's going to drive me insane. Thanks for recommending it!

@ek78 so sorry you received that call. It happened to me last week too. Really got me down as I had managed to forget when my appointments were. Be kind to yourself today xx

@Boboelephant After I posted the pic of my OPK, the next day I got the static smiley and almost equal line on the IC. My app says that I'd ovulate the following day (today) but I felt ovulation pain yesterday between 12-5pm which suggests to me I must have ovulated yesterday even if it was in the evening after the pain. We DTD twice this week but I think we were too early and maybe too late now. Preparing myself for a BFN in two weeks time. However, we did see an amazing rainbow at Niagara Falls yesterday and today we are walking over the Rainbow Bridge into Canada. Can't help but think maybe it's a sign... but life never goes as perfectly as you think it in your head!!

Wishing you all a good day!

@Boboelephant I did my first ever POAS Friday! For OPK And yay I finally got my first ever flashing smiley face! JKS all through now! Probably try and 4-5 day marathon...!depends on when the flashing smiles become static...
@ek78 eugh that is really awful- and I'm so sorry it upset you- my hospital did the same thing and it's quite shocking that they don't immediately update the system!
@HidCat love your penguin huddle art!!!
And sorry about AF sounds intense...Fx it's just a weird month...
@babibell I echo everything all the other ladies have said. Definitely NOT disgusting, in fact the way you have honoured your MC baby by waiting this long is actually quite sweet. At the end of the day whenever you feel your are emotionally, mentally and physically ready you should go for it! Never place such harsh judgements on yourself- you went through a difficult and terrible time and now that you're ready to try again it is lovely. You can commence a new chapter that will bring new life to the world- there is nothing more beautiful than that!
I too had a MMC in December and was due in July- I then got pregnant immediately (unintentionally) in January and lost that in February . And I am now about to start TTC after taking 3 months break...So we're in a similar position. Sending hugs

@ek78 I'm so sorry you had that. I had a similar call from my hospital a few weeks back who insisted that I had attended for an appointment that morning and they couldn't find me now.. After telling them I had a miscarriage and I was not there (in fact I had moved 50miles from the hospital that very day) I had to almost shout at her that this was very upsetting and I had not been to the hospital that morning after she kept insisting that I had. So insensitive, she made a terrible job of apologising too. Sometimes I wonder about the people who work in these roles, I know it's business as usual for them but for us it's our whole world crashing down. A bit of sensitivity wouldn't go amiss. hugs

I cant get over how heavy my period has been today! Had a week of spotting then bam, I'm constantly back and forth to the loo coz I'm paranoid about the pads overflowing. About to take lunch as I'm feeling light headed and worried that it's due to my heavy period. I hope this isn't my new normal now.

@ek78 I'm so sorry Hun. Sometimes bedside manners seems to be forgotten about. Even as a courtesy a simple oh I'm so sorry it hasn't been recorded would have been better than nothing.

Thanks @daisymay25 I'm really upset and fuming too. Was going to email to complain but my partner says he'll do it instead.

*sorry, that sounds awful. Kinda just brings back all the pain and hurt really. That's really bad of them, I would've been fuming. Hope you're okay

@ek78 I'm so s

Morning ladies, just been reduced to tears by a phonecall from the midwife team that had all the sensitivity of a rhinoceros.
It was a man (no problem with that) but done so insensitively 'Just calling on behalf of the midwife team about your appointments'.
Me 'Do you know I had a miscarriage?'
'We weren't sure and your file is still open so I'll close that down'.
A conversation ensued where I said I didn't think that communication between the hospital and the midwives was very good and that this was the first I had heard from the midwives. He really didn't know what to say and it was so awkward. I was fine on the phone but in bits now. And this in the middle of a perfectly nice morning while I was getting on with my work. FFS!

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I peed on a stick and I'm sure it was actually whiter after I peed on it than before!!!!
I really don't think this is ever gonna work out for no. 3 for me sadly, I need the middle of the huddle!!!!
But obvs I'm really grateful for what I already have

@KnitKitty wow, you've had a tough journey. I have a lot of faith you will get your rainbow :)

@babibell I totally agree with the other ladies. We are all in the same boat here, you are in the right place for support.

Bobo, I suppose technically I am in the 2ww considering I've clearly messed up my temping haha. I would only be 3dpo. That's if I o'd. I'm probably just going to wait for af and not bring pregnancy tests on holiday. It's so unlikely.

DH hopefully getting his fertility treatment end of July which should increase his sperm count. Anything before then is a bit of a long shot.

I can't remember where everyone is in the tww. Are there any takers for POAS FRIDAY?? I want to live vicariously through you!

@Lilimum4 haha yep a bit early!! Don't worry my symptom spotting has started at 4dpo!! 😂🤦‍♀️

Lilimum4 please don't berate yourself for being down in the dumps for going through what you're going through. Everyone's burdens are their own. What seems like a small blip in one person's day can feel like the worst day ever to someone else, and there's nothing wrong with that so long as you learn how to cope and get the support you need (which is what we're all here for). And I did go through a long phase of depression when I was struggling to cope with all the pain and emotions of not knowing if I could ever had children or not, and hated my body for letting me down for quite a long time. But because it all happened when I was so young and before I'd started thinking about having babies, I consider myself extremely lucky for that.
7DPO is a little too early to test. Try to hold off for as long as possible! Sit on your hands if you have to! haha! But have all my fingers and toes crossed for you!!!

Thanks zarala and Boboelephant I hope you get your rainbows soon too. xxx

babibell I agree with everything Gratefulninja said. There's absolutely nothing wrong with feeling ready to try already. I'm really sorry for your loss, and welcome.

@Lilimum4 I know! No matter how manny articles I read telling me otherwise, every symptom is a possibility 🤦🏼‍♀️. One of these days though, we will be right!

@HidCat that's for that need a slap to bring me back to earth lol why does this make us crazy

@Lilimum4 yep defo too early to test and probably just progesterone related symptoms. So frustrating though!

Morning ladies my symptom spotting is mental
Symptoms today
Tired so so tired can't stop yawning even after I just got up, sore boobs, I can smell menthol all the time.
Only 7dpo so if I took a test it would defo be a bfn this early right? Also these symptoms could all be AF related right ? OK I'm crazy and very inpatient today

@babibell I'm so sorry for your loss. You certainly wouldn't be disgusting for trying now, you should start whenever your ready. I wanted to try to be pregnant again before my due date rather than wait until after.

@Lilimum4 yes that's it.
@Mistymeow no worries. I find charting helpful as it confirms ovulation for me and stops me worrying. If it is making you worry more I'd definitely stop. You're also right on that holiday and travel will mess it up so best to wait a bit!
@KnitKitty oh my goodness you poor thing. What a horrible thing to have to experience so young! I'm so glad it had a happy ending and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon!!
@zarala I'm not really sure hun. I think there are lots of uses for bromelain so I don't imagine it could hurt. Not sure that it would have the same concentration though. They only recommend that you eat the pineapple once ovulation has occurred and you take those tablets all month so hmmm. Not sure!!! As for bbt yes start using it right away. The most important shifts are ovulation and after. Also some people get EWCM for days. It signifies that you are fertile, not necessarily ovulation. Keep doing opks and JKS! This month I got EWCM daily from cd12, positive opk cd17 and ovulation cd18.
@babibell so sorry for your loss. You have very similar dates to me- I lost mine on 12th Dec and was due 7th July. You are certainly not disgusting. I have been trying since Jan as I'm desperate to be pregnant again. You sound like all of us. A woman desperate to be a mum again. I hope it happens soon for you.

@babibell
No you most certainly would not be disgusting. You would be human like the rest of us and desperate to have what you once had again. I’m quite new to this board and this whole loss thing (I was so naive I thought how could it ever happen to me!) but I completely understand the guilt of wanting to try again, the longing for a child and the grief of having lost your babies.

Try again if you feel ready but 100% do not feel guilt or disgust at yourself. You’re a human like the rest of us and all your feelings are completely allowed and understandable. We will get there :-) 💐