TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

@sweetpea0318 so sorry about your fight , it's taken me ages to convince my DH to Jane another baby and it's felt like at times I thought we were on day different paths but eventually he came round and realised how important it was to me. Good luck xx
@KnitKitty , have you tried the digital tests? The are sometimes more effective than the lines? If it's barely a line, it may mean there's still a chance? X And what's FRER? Please x
@MrsLCW , oh dear , I've not tested that early before, I agree with @HidCat and wait till your AF is meant to be due x fx!
@maxiflump1 yep white knickers all the way!!! I'm going to grab some soon too.
@Yukka so sorry too that you're on number three! Sending you hugs and love!
@YellowDaffodils86 hilarious about your DH last night, I've warned my DH to be on standby from about Tues next week for a week of JKS and his face was priceless! You'd think I asked him to run a marathon each day, instead I only need him for a few mins every day!!

Good luck to all those JKS and keep the DH/OH stories coming!

Thanks @Laney79 😊 We are in Toronto but Vancouver is next on the list if we have another MC! Got to find some way to be happy.

Sorry to hear you're still passing tissue. It's horrendous and so unfair. Hopefully this is your period now and you'll stop bleeding soon. My first period was 8 days long and second was 7 days (usually 5 or 6) so you might feel like it's going on forever. I remember feeling so pleased to not have periods whilst pregnant but after the MC I bled enough for the whole year!

This may be a stupid question but I see a lot of doctors suggest taking aspirin when pregnant if you've had a MC but what is baby aspirin compared to a normal aspirin?

Sorry ladies-I'm struggling to keep up!

@KnitKitty I'm keeping everything crossed for you-that line WILL darken if it's down to positive thought-so I'm going to be thinking nice dark thick lines for you.

@RedRobin7 enjoy Canada! One of the places on my list-always wanted to see Vancouver.

Thanks again for all your reassurance. Trying not to worry about what's happening-still bleeding a fair bit on the loo but v little on pads. Passed another small bit of grey tissue today so thinking maybe the sac has been floating about collapsing all this time, and that with first AF (which I'm now assuming this is) it's all coming away. I took a baby aspirin this morn as I have swollen ankles and one of my leg veins was very up (my ma has blood issues and varicose veins/prone to thrombosis so I'm always nervous!) but that seems to have helped thin what I'm losing a little. It's bloomin hot here so caved and used a tampon so I could swim-bliss!

So hoping the beer/cocktails/sunshine/relaxation will sort me out physically as well as mentally.

Attached is a pic of my lunchtime view...and yes, that beer is all mine! Beer is good for iron levels...right?

Morning ladies - just woken up in Canada and wanted to check on you all! Desperate for the loo and about to start doing my OPKs (forgot yesterday with the stress of finishing my packing!) but wanted to catch up first!!

So many messages again!

@KnitKitty Was thinking of you yesterday. I'm keeping everything crossed for you as it's still possible the line will get darker.

@sweetpea0318 You're not alone, this happens regularly between me and my DH as we have been trying on and off for two years. He's definitely feeling the pressure and doesn't want to JKS on cue 🙈 He knows I'm about to entire FW and we've agreed to try not to argue but... famous last words and all that! Hope you're feeling better today.

@maxiflump1 Sorry you're so anxious but it's understandable. Do try to relax though as it's a long road ahead xx

@Laney79 How are you doing today?

@Pancakes7 Let us know how you got on. It's always hard to throw yourself in the deep end. I had to go away with work 2 weeks after my MMC and I spent a lot of the time avoiding people and it was quite awkward but I survived it. I hope you will have lots of distractions and it'll be okay.

@Boboelephant Keeping everything crossed for you!

@TedLife Glad it's not just me who forgets it all. Just been going back through the posts but my bladder is about to burst so that will have to do 😂😂

First full day on holiday today... bittersweet as we booked this the day of my surgery to cheer us up. Want to enjoy it but feeling sad we shouldn't really be here. Also anxious about missing the FW this week but there's no way I'm going to wait another month so just got to hope DH will work with me on this. Speaking of which, just been told I'm ignoring him...!

Morning all, so made up with OH this morning but can't shake the totally gutted feeling - we only dtd once a day before ov so with my track record I'm pretty sure that's me out but hey, let's see what happens. At least I know I'm ovulating in the same pattern as pre-mc.

@knitkitty @hidcat keeping fingers crossed for you both.

@MrsLCW @yukka very sorry you're having a rough time. Sending you virtual hugs.

@Boboelephant i just realised you would already have a pos opk🙄but you know what i mean! 😂hope a nice fertile eggy is on the way down!

@Boboelephant fingers crossed this month.
I hope you get +opk today!
I think i will be a good 5-7 days behind you this month.
A JKS week was meant to commence last night but my dh and i both met with friends separately, and when i came home he was fast asleep sitting up phone in hand with his finger still on the screen!😂out for the count!!

@L1zz13 im approaching fw, according to app it starts tomorrow. We may twin up this month!

@SerenaOverjoyed book your holiday, will give you something to look forward too and time to relax. Can you move it forward a few days? Im in exactly the same predicament actually. We have dates set but not booked it yet, and af will arrive within the first few days🤨

@Pancakes7 woop woop hands up for kent! Im in kent too!
I hope you manage to have a nice time at the wedding, sorry you are having to go through this.
I understand your anxiety of being on your own, you may feel a bit stronger in 2 weeks though. Its still early days for you.

@KnitKitty i do like control, but thought id try something different this morning.
Im grateful that i have the opportunity to do so. Doesn't mean its all over yet, surely, fx crossed af stays away and a sticky bean is in there getting snuggly.

@TedLife its good af has arrived it shows everything is re setting in a way.
I completely understand what you are saying, i feel the same. It has changed things, and the way you look at things.

@hayleyfx i hope everything goes well over next few weeks. Try to relax and enjoy but i know that is hard.

@maxiflump1 ah bless you, that story made me smile, not that you are worried , but just being able to relate to it, i understand how you are feeling.
You have a good strong line, thats good! Focus on that and think positive. 🤞🤞

@sweetpea0318 ah sorry its all getting stressful, I guess we forget they need to 'perform' a bit more than we do. I hope you feel better today and you can make up for it this morning.

Thanks ladies. Off to buy a bumper pack of white knickers today!

Sorry to hear about your line @KnitKitty. Hopefully it's just a slow developer and your not out til the fat AF arrives.

@HidCat fingers crossed for you.

@Boboelephant sounds like you have done everything you can this month. Fingers crossed for you too.

@Yukka sorry to hear your on number 3. So hope you catch a break soon.

I have everything crossed for you that it's implantation spotting HidCat!!! Do you normally spot before AF? If AF stays away we can be test buddies on Wednesday if you like?

Ooh @HidCat fingers crossed for implantation bleed!!!!

@KnitKitty glad you're feeling a bit better. I think it sounds like you are definitely still in! It can absolutely take longer to get darker before your af is due. DH sounds sensible! Sometimes we need them to balance out our crazy hey! 😂 fx for a nice dark line on Wednesday! And thankyou!!! I really really hope to be joining you guys in 2 weeks!!!

@KnitKitty I really hope it's a false alarm. I'm due on Tuesday and only had negatives so far so thinking I'll give it a couple of days. If the spotting I had yesterday is implantation then it'll need a few days before showing up so going to try to wait before testing again.

@MrsLCW so sorry for the bfn and heartbreak. They are the worst! I think you just might be testing too early though hun. If you are day 24 does that mean af is due on Friday? If so then even a frer which is 6 days before missed period could only be used tomorrow and that's still only about 60% I think. Don't lose heart, you're not out yet!
@HidCat how are you getting on?

Thanks Boboelephant. I'm actually feeling fairly ok right now. I have work again today and then tomorrow is OH's birthday so going to be a busy weekend which should keep me distracted. Got told off by OH for testing again before AF is due. (Told off in a nice way). He said as part of the team he will allow me to get more FRERs but I can only use one again on Wednesday next week if AF stays away. After a bit of Googling I see that it can take tests longer to get darker, so not completely losing hope yet, but I guess I just have to see if AF shows up now and not getting my hopes up either.
Thank you Lilimum4 I think I'd be due Monday.

Still FEEL pregnant. Boobs feel bigger and very heavy and I'm still burping a lot, although I've not had any uterus sensations for a couple of days, but that came and went quite a lot in the first couple of weeks with my last pregnancy.

I slept horrendously last night. Had a headache from 4 o'clock onwards and was tossing and turning because I was too hot in the covers and too cold out of them.

Boboelephant I hope you've made a lovely ripe egg this month and you get some of the good stuff from your OH! Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

MrsLCW That's still very early to get a positive test, so don't rule it out completely yet. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@Yukka so sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Here's hoping the referral brings you some answers.

@sweetpea0318 I'm so sorry Hun. I bet your OH is gutted as well and I hope you manage to figure this out so it doesn't happen again.

@KnitKitty I really hope it's just a blip and that the line will get darker after all Hun.

@MrsLCW I'm really sorry that you think you're out. Is there any hope still? I know some don't get their BFP until after their period is due.

@Boboelephant I'm on CD24 of a 29 day cycle. Got the biggest fattest negative imaginable this morning though so I'm out. Genuinely heartbroken, feels like another loss. X

@KnitKitty oh I am sorry big hug coming your way. How long until AF is due

@Pancakes7 I hope the wedding is a lovely day and a welcome distraction for you.
@SerenaOverjoyed that's crap! Do they not have on the day appts you can book that morning? The holiday is hard. I think I'd either look to move it or take a month off until you can see doc. It doesn't sound like it's hard for you to conceive so 1 month won't hurt and at least it won't spoil your holiday.
@KnitKitty oh no I'm so sorry hun. I was just posting to check on you. I hope it's just a slow one for you and it's still gets darker. Be kind to yourself lovely. What do you have planned for today?
@PassTheAfterEights 👍🥂 Temp has dropped this morning so hopeful for a big rise tomorrow and into the tww!
@TedLife glad that your cycles have gotten back on track, that must feel positive. I know what you mean. I fell immediately with DS and had a very easy and lovely pregnancy. I was so excited to be pregnant again. Now since the EP and the MMC it is so hard just to get pregnant and seems fraught with anxiety. Can't wait to get pregnant again but know it won't be as blissfully lovely as last time! Good luck for your move. You too @MrsLCW!
@MrsLCW and @weasledee where are you both in cycle?
@hayleyfx and @maxiflump1so glad to hear things are still going well. Sorry it's so hard with all the worry but we have everything crossed for you. And hope to be joining you soon! Go buy those white pants @maxi!
@sweetpea0318 that's so hard hun. It's so hard to keep it exciting and not make DH feel like you live by a sex schedule. I can understand how devastated you must feel though. I hope you have made up and as long as you have bd'd in the last few days you are not out!
@Yukka sending hugs. Glad you are doing some nice relaxing things. I did relaxation, yoga and acupuncture yesterday. Feeling very calm now!

@Yukka Oh no I'm so sorry that you've had 3 mc's that must be so difficult. It's good you have got a referral and also good to carry on ttc.

@pancskes7 I'm only a week or two ahead of you on mc number 3. Bleeding stopped on Monday last week and I got a negative test on Thursday which was pretty quick. I'm back to poas for ov.

I've struggled a bit too emotionally and seeing people in groups but getting there. I can recommend acupuncture and Indian head message - really helps to steady the heart and mind. The masssge especially was like a release from all the thoughts going round in my head and ive been feeling more 'normal' since - then prob helped by hcg leaving too.

Lots of messages on here it's hard to keep up, glad bfps are doing well.

Got my gynaecologist referral through for 12th July... but we've decided we're going to crack on and see what happens.....

Lilimum4 there's no point really, it's pretty much a carbon copy of the first test and that barely came out on the photo.

TedLife I totally get what you mean about not feeling excited about pregnancy anymore. It really changes your experience of it when you've suffered loss.
I hope the move is a positive fresh start for you and good luck with TTC.

maxiflump1 I stopped wearing coloured pants during my first pregnancy because I needed to know the colour of whatever came out as I'd had bleeding early on which stopped and started on and off. I'm glad it was just an innocent butterfly though! Stay strong. xxx

@KnitKitty can you post pics

Well I guess I'm out for this month.

Still a line but no darker than the one on Wednesday.

Checking in after a couple of days away.
@serenaoverjoyed so bloody sorry to hear about the emotional rollercoaster of the last couple of days. Sending hugs.
@laney79 sounds like you might have got to the bottom of the problem really hope this means the bleeding will stop and you can properly enjoy your holiday.
Hi @pancake7 good luck for the wedding today. I had to go away for work straight after my 2nd mc. I was dreading it but actually it was fine. Getting on with it made me feel more like me. I just made sure I made my excuses and crashed out early in the hotel with telly and chocolate.