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Ladies! Talk about the TWW with me!

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tattyjade · 09/05/2018 18:46

Here I sit with my full and painful breasts and sore nipples, my cramps, my fatigue and my nausea, hoping that this will be the month for me and my gorgeous man!
But alas, symptoms of pregnancy and PMS are so painfully similar I just never know!

I am a huge symptom spotter I must admit, every month I sit here and hope and pray but it just hasn't happened yet :(

The fact we are TTC is kept quiet as I don't like to drag my friends into my obsessive ways..because I have done that before and I think they got a little bored of my symptom spotting!
So any of you lovely ladies out there in the same frustrating boat and want to vent? I am here and ready!

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MissG2MrsB · 12/05/2018 00:23

Hi everyone, writing my first post and feeling a little sad. Have been TTC since January but been tracking my cycle since getting married last summer (we went on honeymoon to a place with active Zika so had to wait 6 months before TTC). My cycle is 33/34 days so it’s more of a 3 week wait and... it... just... drags! I’m due my period tomorrow and I am getting all the usual swellings so I know it’s about to appear, and I just can’t contain my disappointment. I’m 32 and have been with my husband for 7 1/2 years and starting to feel this irrational sense of ‘missing the boat’. I know it’s only been a few months and I feel like a terrible person complaining when some people are trying for years, but we are both only children and my mum took over a year to conceive with me when she was 27, only finding out she was pregnant during a hospital appointment. Basically, the genetics don’t exactly scream ‘fertility’. I’ve never experienced any symptom of pregnancy before TTC or since, and never had any ‘near misses’ which further worries me. I took a CB ovulation test this month and only had ‘high fertility’, not ‘peak’, suggesting my LH levels were too low or I didn’t ovulate. I told myself that would lower my disappointment by knowing there’s no real chance of conception this month but I’m still upset. I’m so sorry for the length of this but really need to vent my frustration on someone other than my poor husband. I’m starting to come off social media as well, as I’m sure you can imagine being in my thirties, it’s babies galore and I’m starting to feel this horrible sense of ‘it’s not fair’ when there’s plenty of people in worse situations than me. I hope we can all look back on these posts in a few years and realise the worry was for nothing!

MaGratgarlik1983 · 11/05/2018 23:42

Hi can I join? Currently 9-10 dpo, longest wait ever!! Mad symptom spotting going on! Got cramps, back ache, hungry... Hmm, all like pre af then really. Something feels different but I think it's probably my mind playing tricks!

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tattyjade · 11/05/2018 21:39

Oh no I am so sorry you feel that way! If you're into reading I would definitely recommend Mind, Body, Baby! It's a really good book that puts the focus on helping you overcome these sorts of feelings.
And I really hope your appointment goes well!
Such a horrible way to feel it must be very hard

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LillyLeaf · 11/05/2018 21:34

I have got to the stage where the hope has pretty much gone, if it was going to happen naturally why hasn't it? I have regular cycles, I ovulate, i'm not overweight, don't drink or smoke. I just try not to get my hopes up which helps. I have a fertility appointment in June so just waiting for that.

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tattyjade · 11/05/2018 21:15

I am a bit of a Google warrior myself these days! Any little thing I'm like "could this be it?!" Grin
Do you ladies have any way of coping with the feelings when you realise this month just wasn't your month?

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LillyLeaf · 11/05/2018 21:11

I'm 8dpo too. Having my usual mild pre AF cramps, but of course I'm googling 'AF cramps before BPF'. I know how this will end.

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tattyjade · 11/05/2018 20:51

It's such a struggle isn't it ladies! All this doubt but all this hope!
Everyone around me seems to be pregnant at the moment! I find myself noticing my friends boobs are bigger or something and I'm like NO ME FIRST STOP IT haha!
I could definitely learn a thing or two from all you ladies too with all this special lingo that I'm still getting the hang of :)
I am currently 10dpo and haven't seemed to have any implantation bleeding, and I know not every woman gets it but it does have me doubting myself, I keep inspecting my underwear and tissue! Sorry for the TMI but its honest haha

I have definitely been there before! Doing test after test and getting a negative and being like..well its too early anyway I'll just do six more tomorrow
I have had lower back pain and have been feeling a little faint and nauseated today, and sometimes I wonder if I ever actually noticed all these things before ttc! It's so nice to have people to talk to about these things, and I am excited to see how it works out for us!

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Lovewinemorethanhusband · 11/05/2018 20:35

I'm currently 8dpo and obsessed with symptom spotting and poas !! I even did it today even tougher I know it's stupid as far far to early but I just can't helpyself !

dee7409 · 11/05/2018 20:29

Hello ladies is it ok if I join? I am currently in my TWW dont know exact dpo as dont know which day is dpo1....had +ve opk on the 6th...

Owlpatrol · 11/05/2018 20:02

Snap. Joining this tww is gonna be long. Been ttc for 16 months now and never gets easier and I still find a new symptom to Google!! Haha....currently about 4 dpo, sore nipples and fatigue but first week doesn't mean anything let's see what next week brings!

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tattyjade · 11/05/2018 16:34

Can you?! Good to know! Thank you :) x

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KimRobs87 · 11/05/2018 15:21

You can get those tests in boots (I got sind today) x

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tattyjade · 10/05/2018 22:58

I really should wait until at least the 16th or 17th as then my period will officially be late, but I know what I'm like, always testing early!

I have never been pregnant before, so just don't know that pregnancy "feeling" that other people sometimes get. But today I am starting to feel that this is actually PMS, it's all a little too familiar. My periods are a bit of a nightmare as I suffer quite badly with symptoms for a week and a bit before it arrives, but I have been to the Doctor and all is fine and regular as clockwork! She said the pain and the general despair is just how it is for me..! Hmm
The whole TWW theres always that little glimmer of hope, and it's so easy to cling to!
When will you be testing?
I did consider those first response tests? But I think they are more of an American thing?

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LillyLeaf · 09/05/2018 21:59

I only have a 10/11 day luteal phase so I don't even have to wait for a full 2 weeks but that's hard enough! I tend not to symptom spot but the waiting does drag. I check FF app a few times a day just in case I have jumped forward a few days Hmm

Curlypop · 09/05/2018 20:46

It's the longest two weeks ever! I'm symptom spotting too. Boobs have grown at least a size and are so so painful and my nopples are constantly sticking out! This happened with my other two pregnancys. One healthy baby one unfortunately a mc.
When are you going to test?

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