Ladies! Talk about the TWW with me!

Couldn’t agree more @tattyjade

Thanks ladies, @smoothieyummy that does make me feel better actually @tattyjade oh no that sounds so uncomfortable, I really hope you start to feel better soon! You’ll need to keep us posted on how you get on over the next couple of days @LillyLeaf... here’s hoping this is your month!

My hubby noted that I wasn’t as down as I have been in the past with previous tests and I told him about this forum and how reassuring it is that other couples are going through similar experiences... I think he wants to try and find me a forum for all the other things I worry/complain to him about!

Sorry about the negitives and very annoying late AF. I'm 10 dpo (10/11 luteal phase) so expecting AF tomorrow or Tuesday. I had terrible cramps yesterday but nothing today. Temp hasn't gone down yet and breasts still hurts.

@MissG2MrsB aw hun if it makes you feel any better, the negative line is actually not negative if that makes sense. It’s basically a check line to make sure that there’s sufficient urine for the test to perform. It being dark or really dark doesn’t mean it more or less negative. If the check line doesn’t show up it means the test is invalid and you have to do it again. The pregnant line however will show up if the test can detects hcg presence in your urine, hcg associated with pregnancy.

@smoothieyummy
Only the usual dull, internal ache that I’d normally get anyway. It’s went on due longer though. Usually it appears on the day I’m due and AF tags right beside it. This has been since Friday night though (when I should have started). I’m glad it’s not just me then! Honestly, you should have seen how dark the ‘negative’ line was on the test, I showed my hubby and compared it to the faint line in the picture on the box and even he had to laugh. I’m actually at that hysterical point now where it’s almost comical. The test may as have well have screamed ‘DO YOU EVEN HAVE OVARIES?’

@MissG2MrsB I’m on the same boat, period was due yesterday however no sign of it yet, tested like a maniac and still negative. I had some work drinks last week but resisted and just got orange juice I didn’t want to take any chance that I might be pregnant and it just takes time to show in the test. However I’m having a big department drink next Wednesday and if I’m still negative ( 4 days after missed period) I would probably drink. I’ll see how I feel.
Have you got any symptoms either pms or pregnancy related? I have sore boobs and super bloating/gassy sorry tmi. But these are similar to my period so probably just a very late cycle.

@tattyjade - we’ve all been there! I’m so sorry it was another negative. It could just be too early, only time will tell.

@smoothieyummy - I can only imagine I know what you mean by starting right away again but I think most people would need some time to grieve. I don’t think I’d be able to get straight back to TTC. I really do hope you’ll both be able to share positive stories to us soon.

AF still hasn’t appeared for me today, after last month I told myself I wouldn’t do another test but we’re going out for a family meal tonight and I wanted to know if I could enjoy a glass of wine. Worked out that I’m now 35 days into my cycle, my longest one before was 34 days. Took a test and, lo’ and behold, it’s negative again. Anybody ever feel like their body is mocking them?! I’m not even that bothered about not conceiving this cycle now, I just want the bloomin’ thing to end so I can start afresh next cycle. Never thought I’d be willing a period but this long wait is really annoying me now and I’m just ready to move on!

@tattyjade I know the feeling. In fact I started testing since 5dpo, daily. Imagine the disappointment everyday for the past 1 week. AF is either due today or tmr. I just want to crawl in a ball.

@MissG2MrsB I'm as impatient as you are, or even worse. I'm 30, this is my first cycle of TTC again from the MC last summer, I took a long break due to the Caribbean trip and avoid zika and all that. Almost felt like I shouldn't have gone anywhere and should have TTC straight away then, I took for granted thinking that we would conceive pretty quickly, clearly was wrong. This whole O tracking, 2ww and testing are driving crazy. And I'm sorry I know there are a lot of people have been trying for way way way longer. But I'm just really weak at this and I think I was never able get over the loss.

@Lillyleaf - that’s good to know I’m somewhere between you and tattyjade: most people I know had their first in their late twenties and are on to their 2nd in their thirties so I probably shouldn’t be worrying so much.

@tattyjade - me too! It’s my period DD and I can feel it’s on its way but after speaking to all you lovely ladies, I’m feeling good. The sun is shining too, which helps! I have to say, this is the first month I’ve not taken an early pregnancy test and knowing that it would have been negative, I feel a bit better at not wasting another, however that’s just me! Let us know how you get on @tattyjade and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you if you do decide to take a test.

I work in an industry where no one has babies in their twenties and even early thirties is usual. I'm 35 and most of the woman I know have given birth older than me so I still feel 'young' to be TTCing. A fertility doctor recently told me I was not old at all in TTCing terms, he said that lifestyle and being healthy is just as important as age. I also live in a very yummy mummy area in London, I mostly see women with babies in their mid thirties and older.

Oh I’ve just realised you don’t reply to people you just tag them, which is what I’ve been doing, what a clown! I’d love to say that’s ‘baby brain’ but it’s just me being daft

I don’t know how to reply to people either but this is aimed at everyone anyway. Ladies, you are like a breath of fresh air, I can’t thank you enough! I’ve always been a worrier and over dramatic (can you tell?!) who puts in 100% effort for things to be ‘perfect’ and this is one thing you can’t control as such or put in ‘a bit more effort’ to get it right. To hear there’s other people in the same boat with the Zika issue is comforting too, I think that’s one of the main problems, it’s been since January but it feels longer with a 2 and a half year engagement and an extra six months on top of that.

@Flatwhite32 - Congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m so sorry to hear about your MMC though and thank you for the words of wisdom. My friend conceived when she was in her late 20’s quickly and now she’s 33, trying for her 2nd but is struggling. She had said she didn’t expect that because conceiving her first was fine. I know a lot of it is just luck but she was worried it was due to being that little bit older so it’s lovely to hear positive stories.

I’m taking up half the thread with my long-winded responses but you’ve all been so great. I wish I could just call upon the stork and send bundles of joy your way!

@MissG2MrsB I'll be 33 in October and I'm nearly 30 weeks pregnant with baby number 1! I fell pregnant at 31, but had a MMC sadly. I, too, was worried about age, but 4 out of 5 work colleagues who have been pregnant in the last year (including me!) have all been in their 30s! I know more people who have been pregnant in their 30s than in their 20s.

@tattyjade I don't necessarily feel down all the time. I think I'm trying to think realistically rather then get my hopes up to protect myself from feeling awful everyone a cycle doesn't work, if that makes sense. Thanks for the book info, I'll look into that.

@MissG2MrsB I had to wait 6 months after visiting a Zika county, we were ready to start TTCing before we realised, so I feels like all this has been going on for ages. Social media is hard sometimes, if I'm having a bad day I don't go on it. Temping is great to see ovulation but don't stress over every dip and rise. You're still young and it's normal to take up to a year to conceive ( trying to take in my own advice too ). And having a vent on here always helps. Good luck.

9 dpo cramps are stronger this morning, feels like AF might come early, which will give me very short luteal phase.

@Smoothieyummy

Thank you for replying, I’ve never actually tracked my temperature so I will have a look at that. I’m aware there’s also the people who say you shouldn’t really do anything, just have sex when you want and it takes off the stress but it’s hard to get that ultimate goal out your head. Oh no sorry, I didn’t mean miscarriage, I can only imagine how painful that would be and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I just meant that I’ve never had any ‘pregnancy scares’ where I’ve maybe not been so careful and my period has been a day or so late. I know that’s a really stupid way to think as it doesn’t matter if your period is late, if you’re not pregnant, you’re not pregnant. I’m definitely overthinking things as per usual and probably not even making any sense. Thank you so much for your advice again, I’ll definitely look into monitoring my temperature.

@MissG2MrsB we also went to the Caribbean in the summer so also waited 6 months to make sure no risk. I think 32 is still young so don’t stress out too much about the age factor. Don’t just measure LH using the OPKs, best thing to track ovulation is the basal temperature chart so you can be sure whether you ovulate or not, obviously it’s not helpful to know when O is coming but at least you can confirm you do O. You mentioned “near misses”, do you mean miscarriage? Trust me, it’s better not able to conceive than conceive and then lose your little bean.