TTC first baby cycle one! Anyone else out there?

I am currently in cycle 2 of TTC, to be honest I am finding the whole experience rather painful... I have waited patiently for two years for my husband to feel as ready as I do, so I feel it is a long time coming. Meanwhile I have watched some of my closest friends misscarry and struggle to conceive. I am 32. I know I need to relax but so much easier said then done right? X

@Crossfitgirl - she took it really well and said she thought it was a good idea not to hang around unless there is a reason to. I still felt guilty but I think it was the right thing to do.

DH is sick unfortunately and we were due to start SMEP today so not a great start.

Thanks @Crossfitgirl

Desperately trying to stay patient!

Welcome @sunshinebutton! First cycle... exciting! You start to notice every little symptom in the 2ww, you do right to wait to test as like you say it's not accurate doing too early. @rosesandponies I'm glad you've told your sister, it sounds like it was the right thing for you. How did she react? I may tell my sister when I next see her x

Hi @pixiedust2

In together eh? I had strong cramping this morning so I’m trying not to read to much into that either way, but I desperately want to test. I just know it’s too early so it’s likely to be negative and that’ll be really disappointing so I’m trying to hold out until at least Monday and use an early response test I think.

You?

@rosesandponies - I started testing on cd10 last cycle and ovulated cd18. As CrossFit mentioned I think there is a guide on the website when to start testing.
That sounds like a good strategy re DTD. I am doing a similar thing but trying to do the SMEP which is every other day 😕 then every day from smiley face day....may not manage that though!

I told my sister this evening that we are trying, I do feel a bit inconsiderate ttc when she is having such problems with it, but happier now she knows, it won't come as much of a shock to her if we do.

Welcome @sunshineButton!
Same here, baby #1 cycle 1 CD 22 AF due on Wednesday. I've had some slight nausea and tender boobs but nothing else so far and I think it might just all be in my head. When are you planning to start testing? I'm havinu such a hard time waiting!

Hi everyone,

Can I join please?

I'm ttc baby #1, on cycle 1 CD 22. Been having cramping, particularly on the left side, a bit of bloating and some lower back pain not in the usual places although everything I have read suggests that these were all far too early so I think I was just being over sensitive. Since I've realised that they all seem to have gone!

AF is due on Wednesday so I'm just going to have to to see what happens I guess.

I would be super vigilant too! Keep us updated @delilah7! @rosesandponies I think the clear blue opks you test the day before you would if you were doing the ICs. I read the instructions online and they test before you can ovulate as they set a baseline level of hormone, then they can detect how much it increases. So for me it tells me to start testing day 7 for a 25 day cycle, even though the ICs tell me to start testing day 8. I have never used them though- I just looked them up online (the website gives you the instructions!) before deciding to continue with ICs cos I'm a cheapskate lol x

@Summerbab @Hcna23 thanks girls. It's all new to me as it is others and I'm just overwhelmed it's happened. I'm so lucky and I'm one of those people that I will thoroughly enjoy being pregnant. Whatever happens! get to tell the common mother in law tonight!!!

@delilah7 I know it’s so normal to worry that something bad will happen. But think of all the women that it works out for - it’s a lot!
TTC can be really stressful so try and relish in this joy, live in the moment and trust that everything will work out just as it should💛

@delilah7 try not to worry.. but if you do have any concerns always call up your doctors and they can always refer you to the epu if need be.. I went in to my doctors on Monday with concerns about sharp pains I was getting all down one side and some brown bleeding on and off and was referred to the epu for Wednesday morning where they gave me a scan to see if they could work out where the bleed was coming from...

It’s all very reassuring to just be able to see baby on the monitor moving around

@ProseccoBee I don't want the time to go away or the weeks as I wanna enjoy every moment but even getting to 6 weeks I'd feel happier. I know the miscarriage rate is lower after week 5

@Delilah 7 I think it's only natural to be worried and everything any pain when carrying such precious cargo,I would definitely be the same. I think it's because it's so longed for and after ttc you are more in tune with your body and have a heightened sense of awareness of twinges etc.

@ProseccoBee just trying to let it set in! 😂 I'm now worried about any pain I feel

@Delilah 7 how exciting that your all booked in! I've always thought that official appointments would make it more real for me and until then I'd be walking around in limbo not quite believing it haha! I hope you have a good weekend of celebrations.

I'm currently on cd33 AF is due sunday! Been having tell tale signs all week so just willing it to come and go so I can get started again. Next week were going on holiday for two weeks so think the holiday spirit will enable us to do the deed every day. Going at it full force haha.

@FlapJackered of course :) first midwife appointment booked for 24th August

I am exactly the same @Crossfitgirl @ProseccoBee I literally could have written your post Prosecco. Hopefully it is all irrational and we will have a bfp soon!

@Delilah7 so glad you're going to stay with us! You will have to keep us updated about how the pregnancy is going! 🤰

@Crossfitgirl - I have just finished AF so we haven't for a while but I am going to try SMEP this month. I am not sure we will manage it as it is a lot of sex and we would normally just have it a couple of times a week then when I get the positive opk we go 2 or 3 days in a row.

@sachabloom I am currently cd10, due to ovulate cd11 or 12 according to flo and clue, although I'm not sure so trying to track a positive OPK by doing 3 poas a day. I never got a positive last month, only faint lines around cd16, so I either didn't ovulate or it was very late... Also wondering if I should just have sex more in general, in the middle 2 weeks of my cycle, rather than trying to pinpoint, because I think we've been DTD at the wrong times. We just dont usually do it a lot!
Had sex on Wednesday so I'm aiming to initiate again tonight and either tomorrow or sunday! I do feel more up for it at the mo, so may be it's a sign!
What's everyone doing sex wise at the moment? Anyone going to try a different strategy this cycle?

@Crossfitgirl not until next Sunday! I've been getting cramps since ovulation, no idea what that might mean but I am really hoping this is the month!

I've ordered some FRER but I am going to get DH to hide them for a week or so haha!

How about you? Xx

@sachabloom how long to go til AF is due? FX!
@proseccobee omg I am exactly the same. I think all those things, it's not just you that thinks the worst- I think it's normal to worry! I keep thinking god, all my friends are popping them out like it's nothing, and I feel like I will be that one that struggles. I really know what you mean, I have a feeling that just because it's me, it won't happen straight away. My OH is convinced he has a low sperm count because he smoked a lot of weed as a kid! But then you just don't know - i know lots of people that have struggled and lots that haven't - and generally its the ones that dont seem as bothered or maybe dont take care of themselves as much that do end up finding it easy! I guess it's just the luck of the draw and you have to try enjoy the process as much as you can.
@themagictorch I am 30 and have said I wanna be pg by the time I'm 31! There's definitely no relaxing, even when we try to relax we're always thinking in the back of our minds, is it my fertile time yet, when is the tww gonna be over...I think it's what women do best!

@sachabloom hi lovely!!! Thank you. Keep going it'll happen hun! Xxx

OMG! @Delilah7 congratulations! Watched your journey from the beginning. I started TTC the same time as you and I'm on my 2ww, fingers crossed this is a lucky month for us all😃 xxx

@ScientistTTC thanks darling!! I'm over the moon.
So looking forward to hearing all your updates. I'm not moving to a pregnancy board. I'm fine with my
Little groups 😍