TTC first baby cycle one! Anyone else out there?

Welcome @MrsC87 @heidi414 @PixieDust2 !

Sorry to hear about the bfn @rosesandponies and about AF @Crossfitgirl . It's so hard this tww business.
I am hoping to test on Sunday but may cave tomorrow depending on my temp and if Af shows!

I got a dip yesterday on my chart so I thought I was out but now it has gone up just slightly, which is suppose is better than going down?
Also it maybe in my head but I felt so sick in the supermarket yesterday, which may just be psychosomatic/wishful thinking.
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@rosesandponies sorry about the negative test, its so hard when you're later than usual isnt it? At least we will all be going into the next cycle together though :-) xxx

Welcome @pixiedust2, @mrsc87 and @heidi414 ! Good luck on your first cycles :-)
AF is now here for me, she came a day and a bit late! @rosesandponies even though I tested after my AF was due, I still had that little bit of hope that it was a false negative, as I was only 9 or 10dpo. If you think you might doubt the result then I'd wait, but if not then go ahead! Let us know how you get on.
Someone asked about sex during ovulation - me personally, as my DH doesn't know when my fertile days are, I just try and initiate during that time so for me it's been once or twice (he'd know it was unusual otherwise as we don't normally have sex very often) however I know lots of others do it every day in the fertile period or at least every other day. What have you planned with your DH? My DH said yesterday he'd rather not be told when to have sex, and since he gets anxious very easily I am going to just keep initiating when it's time rather than saying btw love I'm ovulating 😂 I think the pressure would put him off!

Hi all, so I have been waiting 6 months since our honeymoon to start ttc due to zika. Finally we can start trying this month. Can I ask how many times you have sex around ovulation? Every day? x

Hi ladies, I was wondering if I could come and say hello! For loads of reasons it hasn't been practical for me and DH to think about kids before now. Now I'm early thirties and been on the pill for over a decade so there's a lot against me! I only took my last pill at the beginning of this week but I'm so excited to start TTC!!! This wait is too much, I don't think I'll handle the TWW well at all it's so great that you're all so supportive of each other. My DH is brilliant but you really need other ladies to talk to! I'm all stocked up with ovulation tests and pregnancy tests, just need to jump forward in time now! I have no idea how this will go for us but I'm definitely starting the journey feeling very excited.

I had a temp drop this morning to just above the cover line, so I am pretty sure AF is on her way. 😢

I'm only on CD4 and already wishing time away to my fertile window. This whole TTC is just a waiting game isn't it!
@rosesandponies - lovely! Hope you're enjoying your cuppa. I can't wait to get home from work for a cuppa -although it's looking a bit overcast!

Welcome @PixieDust2 - you never know! It does happen for people first time, good luck.

@FlapJackered it's so hard isn't it! I am so obsessed during the TWW I barely think about anything else. No idea what I'll be like when I'm actually pregnant! How will I concentrate on work? lol.

Hi,
I was wondering if there was room here for one more? My husband and I have just started ttc for baby #1. I think we are at the end of my fertile window. Now for the waiting game. I think the earliest I can test is the 30th July. I know it's super optimistic to think it'll work the first time round but here's hoping! X

9dpo and the temptation to POAS is building! I need some willpower to wait until Sunday when AF is due. The Tww is not good for productivity!

@Crossfitgirl so sorry to hear about the bfn, I agree with @TheMagicTorch and have a chat with him and see if he wants to be more involved?
I like using opks because DH and I don't have a massive sex drive. We would normally Dtd only once or twice a week so I like having the opks to know when we need to up it. They're not for everyone though and if you're finding it stressful it maybe an idea to leave them for a few cycles and see how you go?

@Crossfitgirl sorry about AF coming 😓

I asked my DP first as we've been using the SMEP plan. I asked him if he thought it would spoil the romance "scheduling' our sexy time but he was happy to be involved, he is getting used to my cycle but I've explained to him I still want to have sex with him because I enjoy it but want to maximise our chances of conceiving at the same time.

I know every couple will be different but it has been great for us, during the TWW we go back to sexy time when we feel like it so we relax a bit more.
Maybe have a chat with him and see what he thinks - if he'd rather you just keep track and initiate when you're fertile without involving him you'll have all of us for support (I know it's not the same).

First test since ttc this morning, bfn. Definite signs of AF starting now, spotting and tummy cramps :-( knew really that would be the outcome but still a bit gutting. Ah well. Definitely not the best timing for us, so heres to a brand new cycle. Once DH is less stressed I think I need to ask him about upping our sexy time. I looked back on my calender and we are only averaging about once a week, despite always having done it at least once in my estimated fertile time each month. There's only me keeping track, I feel a bit like I'm getting my hopes up on my own and he's not really involved. At the same time though, once I involve him, there's no going back as he will get to know my cycle too, and so we risk what some of you have said about losing the romance (at least on his part - at the mo he just sees me as being horny, not me thinking I'm ovulating!)

I'm not sure whether to do OPKs again this month, or whether to actually just forget about everything and not track anything at all, and maybe just ease off this month completely and just wait for my period. What do you guys think?
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@flapjackered I feel exactly like my period is about to start 😂 and I'm preparing myself for it tomorrow. I thought that I had an unusual amount of CM a couple of days after we last had sex, and thought omg this is different so obviously its a pg sign! In reality, if anything I have less pms symptoms than normal. My nipples aren't even that sensitive, which is what I've noticed the last couple of cycles. Ahh who knows. It's too early to have signs anyway! @rosesandponies if it makes you feel any better, I have a mahoosive spot on my CHEST! As well as having has some horrible bit whiteheads on my nose. Bloody hormones! @chanel05 i hope the smiley goes solid for you soon! Its frustrating waiting for it, i tested for well over a week before i got even a faint line on an OPK and was starting to think I never would! It never actually turned positive either, the opks don't always pick it up apparently xxx

Hi @Broodywifey1 I finished my withdrawal bleed on 5th July and am now on my first cycle heading towards a natural af. I’ve been using the CB digital sticks and as advised by CB themselves, I wouldn’t recommend using them the first month! I’m currently on day 8 of flashing smiley with no idea when the solid will arrive! Definitely stick to the cheapies.

@FlapJackered thankhun. I know just get myself all positive for no reason. I'm only cycle three so would be so lucky lol x

Welcome @BroodyWifey1 ! I thinking temping is a good way to track cycles and using an app like Fertility Friend. Also Opks, clearblue are easiest but cost can add up.

@Delilah7 - it sounds promising if it's not a symptom you normally have? I would try and not worry too much as I think there is just no way of knowing until it's time to test. I know it's easier said than done though!

@Crossfitgirl - so glad you had a chat with DH and he is still keen. You must be so relieved to have talked it through with him!
Wahh testing tomorrow very exciting! Will keep my fingers crossed for you! 🤞🏻
Do you feel any symptoms? Or normal AF feelings?

@rosesandponies - I am the same with the acne, it was so good on the pill and now on a good day it's not great but after ovulation it just gets horrible and angry spots. Horrible!
I am hoping I am one of the people who has flawless skin in pregnancy. I have heard it normally goes one of two ways!
When do you think you will test?

@broodywifey1 yes the clear blue ones seem the best from what people have said. They're pricey and you need to know the length of your cycle to know what day to start testing though so if you're going to test first month, maybe start with cheap ones so it doesn't matter if you use loads!

AF still not showed, and I've not had any spotting which I usually get just before, but I do feel like I usually do before my period.... I know it's only due today, but I've not yet gone past a 25 day cycle since coming off the pill. If it's not come by end of the day, I'm late! I'm setting myself up for failure here but.... totally getting my hopes up and testing in the morning if it's not here by then!

@Crossfitgirl thank you very much! We are loving married life now that I’m off the pill! I seemed to have no sex drive what so ever on it but that has changed! 😂. We have been together 8 years took two years to plan and save for our dream wedding and always wanted to wait til after the wedding to start trying! Now I’m the only one in my group of friends who dosnt have a baby and we want one so bad, I just didn’t want to be pregnant on my wedding after all the money spent on dress drinks package etc lol. Is it the clear blue ovulation tests? I will look into these as I have no idea when I’m due so can’t calculate when it should be!

@Crossfitgirl Ahh that's good to hear. It's great that ultimately you''re both on the same page and he still wants to try. Great stuff x

@Crossfitgirl fingers crossed for you!!! I really want to put up a TMI photo of some discharge or Cm I've had just to see what you guys think. I don't normally have a lot especially after ovulation xx

Also, I have an update - i talked again to my husband last night, and he clarified he DOES want kids, doesn't want to go back to using contraception, and is just stressed about college/work and was worried about the pressure of TTC on top of that. Not that I have put any pressure on him, but I have talked about having a baby probably much more than usual! So good news!!!