TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

And now I've just tipped my pot of wee all over the bathroom floor

@PumpkinPatch000 that's amazing news! Congratulations to you all the others with BFP. Also welcome to the newbies to the group but sorry for your losses.

I'm now totally fed up with trying to figure out my ovulation. 4 years ago when DS was conceived I was a late ovulater with positives on day 19. When I fell pregnant in December with the one I miscarriaged I ovulated on day 13. Last month I had positive opk on day 13 yet this month I'm already on day 15 and not a hint of a line! And DH is off on a stage do tomorrow until Monday so will be bloody typical that I get a positive on Saturday Agh!

Hello ladies!

How are you all? Sorry it's been a while (again!). i just wanted to pop by and give you an update as.... I got my BFP last night! It still hasn't sunk in! So excited and happy and also obviously nervous too.

Hope you are all good! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@Cakelaur thanks. If (and a very hopeful if!) the witch shows up I'll try that cream next month.
@SerenaOverjoyed thankyou. I don't know really. My temps have gone down the last couple of days and stayed the same today so are just above coverline. But last month they were going up at this point and I still got af so who knows?? If I were you I'd buy the cheapie opks and use 2-3 a day. And not fmu!
@YellowDaffodils86 and @hayleyfx thanks lovelies. I so hope you're right!!!
@PassTheAfterEights oh no!!! I'm so sorry. Ahh she is such a shit. Hope you are having a nice glass bottle of wine tonight. 🐧🐧 Sure I'll be joining you soon. 😫
@Maydot welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. It's all crap but this group of ladies are amazing.
@weasledee great news about your appt!
@Eastend2015 good luck with the job. Maybe you move and as you'll be less stressed it'll happen!
@Lilimum4 oh I don't know. I'd wait a couple of days and test again. Especially as you're so so early. Fingers crossed!!

Thank you @L1zz13 & @hayleyfx i’ve Never tried temping but I might give it a go.
I did a urine pregnancy test in A&E on the 5th and it was negative but I haven’t had any blood tests or seen my GP since.
Think i’ll give it all a go and see what happens!

@Maydot welcome and I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re doing okay. & you’re right the support here is amazing and we’re all here to support you now too!
@PassTheAfterEights oh I’m sorry af arrived 😔 I really hope next month brings you better news!
@Lilimum4 that’s strange, your line was nice and dark. With my chemical, my lines never got past being ‘very faint lines’ and then just disappeared altogether so perhaps it was a dodgy frer? I’m not sure but definitely keep testing and keep us updated. Sending lots of luck your way, fingers crossed it’s a sticky bean 🤞

I will add temping might be a good start till you know about your hcg.
I've just started to do it properly, some of the lovely ladies here seem to be experts at it and have some very impressive charts to show for their efforts.

@Maydot from my experience check your hcg levels before you do anything. As your mmc was discovered at 12 weeks your hcg will most likely have been very close to its highest if not at its peak.
Any amount in hcg will affect opks and quite possibly your ovulation.

My mc happened by surprise April 15th. Naturally at 9 ish weeks. I had a blood test last week showing my hcg was at 35 still. Gp said it would have been very high to start with and is taking a little longer to reduce. I have had my 1st AF 5 wks after mc and am currently due my 2nd one. If I take a sensitive test it's still positive. I hoping Af with drain the last hcg out of me.

I had been doing opks but have since realised there was no LH surge and hcg has been affecting them all.

When I did use them I got them from Amazon. The 5 mm wise one are better than the 3mm and 2.5mm as they are easier to hold and read. About 30 for £6.

Sorry about your loss lovely. ❤️

@Pearcrumble I’m sorry you’re finding today difficult, lots of love to you. It’s taken me 3 weeks to come to terms with my loss and I still have wobbly days.

And everyone, which opk do you all use? I’m not sure if I should try tracking my ovulation now or wait til after my first AF?

lilimum4 hopefully the bfn is just a dodgy frer? It would be odd to have such a sudden hcg drop. I'd retest. Fx for you x

PassTheAfterEights sorry she got you

Thank you very much everyone for your kind welcome, support and replies. You've cemented what I sort of expected, that there is no right and wrong, and I will just see how I feel as time goes on.
Really appreciate the replies and sorry for not replying personally, finding it a bit hard this afternoon!

Ahh @lilimum4 no experience but just seen your post (all about me today it seems 🙄) didn't want to read and run - i reckon if it were me I'd do another FRER and a CBD to see what they said. Your line was so good I can't imagine HCG would have dropped altogether by now?? Huge fx for you xx

Update: it's Flo 😫 as you were.

@lilimum4 not happened to me but sadly seen it a lot on the boards its one of the reasons i try not to test early tbh i did say try. Then again some peoples hcg is higher in the aft. Ive seen that too.

Hi ladies how are you all doing.

I'll confess I'm a little worried ( I'm a poas freak ) so I did another frer with fmu today but it stark white bfn do you think the other test was wrong or it is a chemical pg. AF due in 5/6 days anyone else ever had this before.

Also very big welcome @maydot and sorry for your loss, and @eastend2015 argh you poor thing, have so been there. hope interview went well. do you have to pause TTC? or could it just be bad luck for your new employer if you did get lucky?

Sorry for thread spam and TMI, have pale pink / brownish spotting, either AF is now fking fking fking three days early or could it be implantation??? But as late as 12dpo?

Caveat - never had spotting with implantation in the past, cycle went haywire last month, 4 days late after lifelong regularity so could now just be banjaxed (although don't know why, unless stress is a factor) and have developed lower back ache this morning which obviously had attributed coming to AF in three days. It's AF isnt' it? desperately don't want to get my hopes up. Suppose the next couple of hours will tell? or does implantation bleed last a while?

@maydot and @pearcrumble so sorry for your losses and sending hugs. You’ll find lots of support here.

This is our first month TTC again after RMC tests and not using opks in an effort to relax mean i’m not sure how many dpo I am, maybe 7/8. Boss still being an utter twat so had interview for another job last night. Would be a bit difficult to move if this month is my month and/ or may mean pausing TTC again. Argghhhh!!

Hi ladies, I’ve been reading your posts since I miscarried a few weeks ago. Hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve found reading your stories has really helped me understand my miscarriage and seeing the BFPs each month gives me hope. The support you give each other is amazing! 😊
I am trying for my first baby and had MMC confirmed at the 12 week scan on 30th April, I was devastated. I opted for a natural miscarriage (this is my 2nd miscarriage) and after a tough couple of weeks I passed the pregnancy in A&E after a dose of morphine. I am now waiting for my first AF.
I hope that my story can help someone going through the same and that I too will eventually get a BFP that sticks!! xxxx

Thanks cake!
Can't believe it but I've got an appointment for the recurrent miscarriage clinic on Monday!!! I only went the docs 2 weeks ago. That's pretty quick! I was expecting it to be longer than that....
Feel nervous now though

@YellowDaffodils86 find the cutest kid and steal it!! 😂 that's teach em to hand around broody women!!

@weasledee just google wellsprings progesterone cream. Comes up from their website. It does take about 10days to arrive but you use it once if ovulated (I waited until 3 dpo for ff to confirm ov)

Thank you all for your advice/input into ttc before wedding 👍🏼 We’re basically in the mindset of a honeymoon bonkathon & will be fw so hopefully change of scene & sun sand & cocktails 🍹 will help us 2 both be relaxed!!
Sorry for bfn’s they are so poxy awful sending hugs ❤️

Iv gone for some brunch before work this morning, and the place i have come to runs alot of classes/groups upstairs for mums and babies. So im surrounded by women and little babies coming and going.
I gotta say with another cycle coming to an end, mo doubt ending in bfn/af, it stings slightly.

Sorry @boboelephant & @serenaoverjoyed, huge hugs. BFN here too.

Thank you lovelies @hidcat @babynameedie @strawberrye @eastend2015 @yellowdaffodils86 🐧🐧 put on my big girl pants this morning and trying to look forward to June. Will think of a plan to come clean to my friend(s), been such an awful distant friend the last few months with no good news to share, realise I'm only going to end up isolating myself and hurting them for keeping it buttoned up.

Welcome @mrslcw @pearcrumble and very sorry for your losses. Start TTC as soon as you feel ready Pear - no medical grounds not to get going again whenever you want to, the only case for waiting for AF is for dating a new pregnancy (and - er - none of us here care about dates)

@Pearcrumble I'm so sorry and welcome. TTC again is a very personal thing but most people get cracking again quickly. I've had to wait as didn't get a period until 4 months later but TTC again now. Many don't even wait for their first period so do what's right for you.

@MrsLCW I hope you're doing ok after your two losses. It's good that you seem quite positive moving forward.

Sorry for all the BFNs. We will get there!