TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

@weasledee it is the worst. I just don't know how long I can keep being optimistic. I seem to have ended up with the double edged sword of both it taking ages for me to conceive and then losing them when I do. Feeling pretty sorry for myself today.
How are you? Are you coming to the end of af soon?

@lilimum4 crushed for you, so sorry. TTC can be so cruel. Hope you have something nice planned for the weekend?

@YellowDaffodils86 Hang in there, still rooting for you.

@Boboelephant shuffle on through mate (pours the wine) 🐧♥️ slump-wise, I had the wine (thank you!), pizza, a pedicure and yoga. Cannot recommend the latter highly enough, my head just has better days when I do it (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFKE7WVJfvaHW5q283SxchA). All short term fix but passes the days until the next FW 🙄 are you up to anything this weekend?

It all got to DH a bit yesterday, finding it harder than he let on. Will try the OPK's and probably smep this month. Think we'll look at our options if no luck by the end of the summer.

Oh no bobo it's just soul destroying isn't it :(
xx

Ah perfect timing AF... bitch!

🐧🐧 @PassTheAfterEights I'll just squeeze in there with you. 🐧🐧

I'm so sorry some of you are having a tough time. My fertile window is due to start on Sunday but I think I may be closer to OV than I thought as this morning I had the slightest bit of EWCM so will make sure hubby and I DTD as much as possible while he is home this weekend, and then again fri (estimated OV date) and sat and sun which are still in the window!

I am hoping with all my heart we all get our successful BFPs soon. I'm really rooting for you all! X

I can feel myself sinking ladies. That temp drop feels like a final nail in my coffin. Permission to hide in the middle of the huddle. Any advice to pull myself out of the slump gratefully received!

@Lilimum4 oh I'm sorry hun. That's really shit!! You have nothing to be sorry about. Sending hugs.

Lilimum I had the same last month! Had positives for 4 days but they were never very strong, but they were there...
Will try and not test so early in future but it's hard...
And don't say sorry!

Morning ladies

Update : fmu today bfn . I don't know what happened. But that with teach me not to test to early in future. Sorry everyone

@Martydog I got my bfn a week and a half after the main miscarriage happened (medically management) - but I was still bleeding/spotting (and still am three weeks on). Totally get the urge to TTC. Fingers crossed we can both get back to it ASAP xxx

@PumpkinPatch000 congratulations!

@Martydog it varies from person to person. Mine took 3 months but most only take a few weeks. Hope yours is the latter.

@SerenaOverjoyed a few of us have been caught out with that one so don't be too hard on yourself.

@YellowDaffodils86 why do you think it's over for you hun?
I was going to test tomorrow if af didn't show but my temp dropped below coverline today. So that basically means I'm out doesn't it? 😫
@SerenaOverjoyed it's all a learning curve. You won't make that mistake again! As for dtd as long as you are actually doing it I think you're ok! 😆
@Martydog I got mine 2 weeks after the erpc. Hope you get yours soon.

@martydog sorry you aren’t seeing more progress. I think mine have varied to get a bfn from about a week after the bleeding stopped to maybe 3 weeks.

Congratulations @pumpkinpatch- Great news!

@weasledee yes me but when I had my first meeting I actually had my last bfp so they held off on a few tests to see what happened. They referred me for thyroid and any clotting issues as well as a scan and follicle count which have now all come back clear.

I did a test this morning hoping for bfn but it’s still bfp how long after a mmc did people get bfn. I just want to start ttc as I just feel like I’m in limbo at the moment. I don’t think it helped someone who was 3 weeks ahead of me just posted their scan picture all over Facebook. I just want my sticky bean.

@Lovewinemorethanhusband you'll love it. Well I did. And it's so easy to use. Each morning it tells you what to do. But defo pee in a pot and dip the stick in. I tried peeing on the stick and ended up getting invalid ones so having to retest. (I wasted a lot of money the first month)

Congratulations PumpkinPatch!!!

weasledee I know zilch about rmc, but I'm interested to know too.

I feel pretty stupid. I used first response rapid response rather than a FRER, which are 100 miu sensitivity so I've basically had a two pointless £4 wees rather than testing. Between this and the opks I have demonstrated I know nothing about ttc, I feel like next I'll find out I've been dtd wrong too!!

@cakelaur, I'm looking at the advanced monitor so it can learn cycles etc as I'm just confused with it all to be honest !!

@PassTheAfterEights sorry about AF dont think im far behind.

@PumpkinPatch000 congratulations 😊

@maxiflump1 hey pee on the floor, iv once ended up tipping in my lap once🤦🏽‍♀️

@Boboelephant how you doing? When will you test again? Im trying to hold out till Saturday. To be honest i think its over this month for me.

@PumpkinPatch000 amazing news babe!!! Come join our bfp thread!!

@Lovewinemorethanhusband I have clear blue advanced fertility monitor. The one with the screen. You can get two. This one or just the fertility monitor. My one says low, high, peak and gets you to test for pregnancy. The other one gives your empty circle, flashing smiley face or static smiley face. I love mine cos it is smart, so learns your cycles and you can compare previous months. But if you have long cycles (I think over 45 days although don't quote me on this) you can't use it. But I got my bfp first time within on third month using and since mc it was third cycle (although first cycle it went a bit haywire so I reset it completely) I was using IC along side just to confirm. Cos you test in the morning with cbafm and then to satisfy my craving to pee on things I'd do IC in the afternoons and evenings. 🙈

Congratulations pumpkin with you bfp. I'm looking at clear blue fertility monitor @cakelaur you have one don't you? Is it worth it to help pinpoint ovulation as Im just not sure im catching it, I'm due on today if Im on 28 day cycle which my MMC seems to have kicked me on but still getting stark white bfn not even a squinter to get hopes up !

Congratulations @PumpkinPatch000. Brilliant news!
@maxiflump1I feel your pain. I hope you ovulate soon. But not too soon if DH is away!! Ahh the pee on the floor... been there!

Has anyone been to the recurrent miscarriage clinic? What do you ask you at first appointment and did they do any tests there and then? Did they test OH?

Thanks so much @maxiflump1 sorry to hear you're fed up about the ovulation side of things. If it helps, mine were all over the place and I had 6 peaks this month (over 50 days) using clear blue digital (the last two were actually showing I was pregnant!). I feel your pain and know how horrible it is when you don't know what going on and cycles are all over the place. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, keep testing and it will show up at some point. x