TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

Oh @HidCat go home. Xx
Did you try to retrieve it to check?
Bless you love.

Try and make an excuse to leave xx

@Cakelaur nowhere on this thread is normal lol (no offence intended) we're a bunch of crazies!
I'd recommend you do want you feel you need to do in order to try and have some control over ttc.
We obviously struggle with control don't we!?!

I've gone to the pub. I thought fuck it! Funniest thing is I found wine helps with my back ache! Off to some dodgy South African restaurant in a bit!

And chill.....

Ladies, I'm at a baby shower and just passed a huge clot, about the size of a walnut. I'm now crying in the toilets because I feel like it was the sac (I didn't see it pass during my miscarriage - had so little bleeding) and I'm getting fairly strong cramps. What do I do?

@cakelaur I used the fertility gel last time too as well as keeping my bum up higher than my upper body straight after to support the swimmers, we conceived straight away first time we tried, and I lost my precious little thing at 9 weeks. Ever since I was scared of providing any extra support as in my head I blamed perhaps a weak swimmer (with all the help) got to the egg and fertilised it. Now this cycle we're back at it and looks like it's BFN for us, I'm considering using the gel etc but I'm just so afraid.

Oooor... you could be a normal person and just have sex!!! 😂

Oh and look out for fertile 'egg white' cm! 😉

Hi @Laney79 not too much advice re the medical management route as I had surgical and bleeding was very minimal. I found that I ovulated a week later than usual. (Which was one week after my bfn)
Best advice for getting knocked up again is sex, loads of it. Don't bother too far in advance as you just get tired. Maybe do every other day until you get a positive opk then do 3 days in a row. Then relax.
I did opks and bbt. (You need a special bbt thermometer that measure 0.00 rather than 0.0 degrees) basic rules of temping:
Take your temp at the same time every morning
Have it be the first thing you do (litterally wake up and stick the thermometer in your mouth)
I set an alarm each day. Every day!!
Record it on an app (I personally prefer fertility friend as it gives advice and tells you when you've ovulated it also learns your cycles and will help predict fertile week)
Bbt does not predict ovulation. You need opks for that. Pee on them twice a day around 4pm and 10pm from roughly cd8 until you get a positive. (This is for a 28 day cycle if it's longer push it back a bit)
Once you've ovulated you should see your temp jump up. (Generally temps pre ov are around 35.8-36.4 and post ov are 36.4-37.0) but each person is a little different.
The cycle I got pregnant I ate pineapple core from 1dpo-5dpo and used progesterone cream from 3dpo onwards (no idea if it helped but I was convinced I had low progesterone and that's why I lost the first)
I also used fertility check gel from boots which I really liked (helps get the sperm up there) and we had sex for 8 days in a row from cd8-cd15 (I o'd cd14)
Good luck. 🤞🏻

Ok ladies I could do with some advice.

I'm still bleeding a little following medical management just over a week ago (fri 27th April, although I think I probably passed the sac two days later on the Sunday). I'm guessing it's normal to still have some pain (mainly on the right hand side) and bleeding/small clots even after a week or so...

But my mind is turning to ttc...last test I did was very faintly positive, but hoping that soon becomes a BFN.

So questions are...how long could I go on bleeding for? is it still poss to ovulate with a very faint positive?

And most importantly I need your top tips to make sure we give getting pregnant again the best poss chance. I have some cheap strip opks from Amazon as well as a few clear blue digital opks (more on order thanks to the groupon offer-thanks!)....so when do I start doing those? And is it just a once a day thing? I've noticed people say don't use your first wee of the morning?

Also do I need to check my temperature? I bought a digital thermometer...

Just need a bit of guidance. Desperate to get back to trying as soon as the bleeding stops.
Thanks xxx

Thanks ladies. I'm home Wednesday so there will only be two days really to wait. Scan is first thing Friday morning. Eek!! 🙈

Why is the two week wait he longest two weeks ever? Dragging sooo much

I'm grumpy!
Grumpy for allowing it all to take over her thought of the day. Grumpy for not having enough sex! Grumpy as that pos test is probably going to affect my cycle. Grumpy as I've yet to eat anything today!

However, our local village shop has just installed a slushy machine. I have a slushy! Slushy makes me happy!

I'm guess this is tww now. I'm hopeful I did O. But not overly optimistic and that will be fine too. I guess

@BabynameEdie I'm good thanks. PMS was horrible last week but cleared as soon as AF started yesterday. Normal bleeding and minimal discomfort luckily so was able to enjoy my LO's Birthday day out yesterday and going to a baby shower this afternoon which I'm really excited about (one of my best friends who had IVF after struggling for over 2 years).

@Cakelaur keeping everything crossed that Friday brings good news for you.

Good luck to everyone in the TWW!

@BabynameEdie @Boboelephant 🎉 congrats, all set to start tww together 👍🏻
@rdm10 you are with us too!
Can symptom spot and go crazy together! 😂

@BabynameEdie yes we did, not yesterday annoyingly as that was first day of pos opk 😫 but all the days before and today so FX.
Luckily little bro went downstairs with ipad and watched tv this morning, felt a bit weird but couldn't afford to miss the window!
A little insight into trying to have a sex life with children!! 😂
(FYI little bro is 8🤣)

@L1zz13 shag your head off 😂

@Lilimum4 they should count just fine. FX
You shall be joining the crazyness too.

@hayleyfx nearly there, JKS 😂

@Cakelaur all those food aversions are all good signs. Having everything crossed for amazing news at your scan.

Yay @hayleyfx that's looking good - probably a few days away but def going in the right direction 👏👏

@Cakelaur when do you get home? Totally understand your fears about Friday but you have done all you can and I feel this is going to be your sticky bean, you've made a happy home in there and I'm sure it'll all go smoothly. It'll be a long wait until Friday scan I'm sure but try to fill your days a bit to keep you busy. I'm saying all this but know I'd be feeling nervous and yuck about it too if it was me! 🙈 such a good sign about food aversions though - sorry, I know it's prob not nice but it means things are happening & hormones are doing the right thing!
Sending love xx

Oh I forgot to add - my OPK is quite close to being positive (not yet positive) but it’s getting pretty close I think? Only CD9 so it’s a bit too early for O!! I’ll just keep testing and see what happens and also going to JKS 🤣

Yay for all the positive OPK’s! Hope I can join you all soon!
@BabynameEdie I’m good thanks! CD9 here, usually ovulate CD16 but last month was CD21 I ovulated!! So who knows when it’ll happen, JKS is my motto this month 🤣 I’m glad you’ve O’d, FX for this month! 🤞
@Cakelaur I can imagine how nervous you must be however I’m keeping everything crossed that your next scan goes well. I’m hopeful for a very H&H pregnancy for you!

@BabynameEdie fx for us all this month. Tbh I've never been so excited and nervous and emotional all at the same time. Sending baby dust to everyone TTC xx

Yay for so many Os today! I'm assuming mine is today so tomorrow begins the TWW - it's so nice to have so many people to sit it out with! @rdm10 @Boboelephant @YellowDaffodils86 @Lilimum4 🤞☀️💕

I'm still going to keep up the BD until AF arrives - JKS all the way!! Not sure our bub will be called JKS (if you hadn't guessed our no.1 baby name for a girl is Edie but maybe if it's a boy!)
This part of the cycle is so hard, not to raise expectations and hopes too much, plus there's not much more we can do once O has passed.

@Claire138 and @hayleyfx and @HidCat how are you guys? Hope all is well x

@BabynameEdie YAY FOR O!!! (I've never been so excited about other people's ovulation before😂)
I'm doing ok. Still in Mauritius. Home on Wednesday. Really struggling with finding food that doesn't make me 🤢 there's not a lot of variety out here sadly and I'm desperately craving sweet and sour chicken 😂 dreading Friday!! Just can't see past this 8 week scan and can't imagine it's gonna be good news! So trying really hard not to think about it. (Which of course doesn't work cos it consumes my whole life)

Excited how many people are in the TWW! My birthday is on the 19th, so I'm expecting loads of POAS as presents!!! And of course BFPs!! 🤞🏻

Fingers crossed @rdm10! Are you tracking at all?

Thanks @Cakelaur and @BabynameEdie!
Fingers crossed for us this month @BabynameEdie!!! Little JKS babies 🤣😍 yay for o and have an awesome few days away. I say if you can get it in, shag away!!
@Lilumum4 once you get a positive opk you usually ovulate 12-48 hours afterwards. So to cover all bases they say you should BD the day you get the positive and the two days after. If you are not temping which confirms ov, I would assume that ovulation happens the day after the positive- so today. That would make tomorrow 1dpo and the start of your tww. The past 5 days do count like Edie said because the swimmers can live for that long but I'd defi try and jump DH tonight too if poss.
Looks like lots of us are ovulating today. Woohoo for crazy tww spotting soon to come! 😆🤦‍♀️

I’m just starting the tww too! Cd17 here but not very hopeful as only bd cd 12, 13 and 14 due to being at in-laws. I was supposed to try again last night but we both fell asleep super early (it comes with spending the day in the sun-and old age!!) I do think I ov’d cd14 though so 🤞

Let the crazy commence!

@BabynameEdie I hope the previous days do as he's not back until late tonight and might be to tired bless him. Fx we DTD enough. How long before I'm tww if I got LH surge yesterday. Yesterdays was super positive. And today's is lighter. This is my first month of tracking and I must say I'm a bit confused

Hey all, it arrived! 20 hour day at work yesterday and I just knew O was brewing. It's amazing how much more in tune (read: obsessed) I feel with my body now after all of this. Couldn't do opks but am pretty certain I will have surged yesterday and O today. All the signs are there 😀😀 so jumped hubby this morn and aiming for twice more today! (Eek- am I crazy?!)
Now have three days off on a mini break as it's our one year wedding anniversary today.

@Boboelephant yay so glad yours arrived too - think we're now pretty much in line timing wise. Two bubs called JKS 😂🤞🤞
Ditto @YellowDaffodils86 - did you manage some bd time in the end?!

@Cakelaur hope you're doing well? Are you still on holiday? ☀️☀️

@Lilimum4 how long is / was your oh away for? Hope you can get something in if poss but don't worry if not as the last 5 days all count too! 😀

So, who's starting the tww with me, @YellowDaffodils86 & @Boboelephant - can all start obsessing about symptoms - here we go again! 😬

@L1zz13 that's all so confusing, have you got any further with it? Did you do another test? 🤞🤞🤞

@dulwichdays how you doing? Have you tested?

Shag your head off 😂

@L1zz13 thanks. How are you feeling today.