TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

@L1zz13 just saw your latest post. If there does happen to be anything left over don’t worry about surgical management. I went for that and had no problems. Body got back to normal fairly quickly. Hope you are just lucky and it’s a new pregnancy 🤞

@boboelephant love how subtle you were 😂 but most importantly glad you got to dtd at the right time!! Glad it’s all going on time this month! I am going to book a scan at 7 weeks, if nothing scary happens before that. I’m 5+2 at the mo (time drags when you find out at 11dpo 🤦‍♀️). I lost last little bean at 6+4 so it won’t help my anxiety going before that timeframe.
@L1zz13 that really seems odd as you have had a negative pregnancy test since mc? Could this be a new pregnancy?

@Cakelaur no I haven't. I have two brands of 10 mUI. Only one says pos and the 25 one is consistent.

Just looking at my dates and timings it's just not possible

It just can't be a new pg. see my dates on flo it's just doesn't add up at all

The test with hcg on the blue strip is supposed to be the 10mUI one. The other 25mUI

@L1zz13 OMG!!! This has got to be a new pregnancy!!! You've had a period since the mc!! Omg have you got pics of the tests? Can you do an frer??

@Boboelephant lol 😂

Did another hcg today. Randomly one 10 mUI is neg and a different brand. 10mUI is pos, the 25 mUI is positive. Wtf!

Have decided to get an emergency drs app tomorrow and demand a blood test. Feeling a bit anxious that it'll mean I have to have some kind of surgical management or worse. I've been reading about left over of bits growing into cancerous cells! Eek - but we love a bit a drama on here! (Again no offence intended)

@Claire138 oh and yes. Chart is looking good for ovulation! All the signs matched up this time. Fx it's a good sign!

@Cakelaur good luck for the scan on Friday. I have a good feeling for you and that you are going to see a wonderful strong heart beating away. Try and relax and enjoy your last few days in Mauritius.
@hayleyfx looks like it's getting close!
@BabynameEdie I love the name Edie. ❤ I also have my girls name picked out and my DH vetoed all my J names when DS was born but they'll still be JKS in spirit! 🤣
@YellowDaffodils86 good work! It is definitely an adjustment having a sex life (And ttc!) with a child so good practice!
@HidCat I'm so sorry you had to experience that. How upsetting. I'm glad that you are feeling a bit better and have a good support system.
@sweetpea0318 that sounds similar to me. I ovulated 4 days after getting a negative test. Then af two weeks later. I'd get busy if I was you!!
@strawberrye I agree with the others. I think you feeling so bad for your friend shows that you understand and empathise with her pain. I don't think it detracts from how sad you feel about yours. There is also something so horrible about finding out at the scan when you have no idea. She is lucky to have you and when she's ready she's very welcome to join us here.
@Claire138 good to hear from you! Do you have a scan coming up? Haha it ended up not being so ninja like as we all got really drunk, then I showed my mate my positive opk and told her I was off to pounce. 🤣🤣

@hidcat I’m glad you were able to continue your evening and your friends were supportive! Awful timing for it to happen but I’m glad you are feeling more positive now 😊❤️

Hi girls, I’m still lurking in the background...still too nervous to go anywhere!
@babynameedie I’m doing ok, thanks for asking 😊. Still don’t “feel” pregnant so it’s keeping me on edge! How are you? Are you due to ovulate soon...JKS...love that motto!!
@strawberrye thanks for the Newcastle advice but we had already been the weekend before I posted that comment. It was a great weekend...kept my mind distracted. Hope you are doing ok? I think after your experiences you have just become very empathetic to anyone going through mc, especially when it’s a friend.
@boboelephant hope you have been able to do it ninja style 🤺😂 needs must!! Hope you have been able to confirm ovulation as well and it’s not a long month 🤞
@cakelaur good luck for Friday! Just take it easy and chill in Mauritius (I’m sure that’s not hard) and before you know it you will be there!
Seem to be a lot of you in FW or just entering TWW, fingers crossed for you all 🤞and I hope it’s a speedy TWW!!

Hey ladies!
Wow so many of you in tww!!!
This is going to be an exciting 2weeks!
Fx that we have another successful round of BFPs this month!!! Good luck and baby dust to you all!

@Lilimum4 I only started getting ovulation pain (and bleeding) after my MCs as well. For some reason our bodies become a lot more sensitive to these things. I've taken it as a positive sign that my body is helping me to know what's going on so we can act accordingly!

@HidCat I'm glad you managed to turn your day around! That must have been a tough a moment...

@strawberrye I think you're just a lot more empathetic about these situations now- as you have been through one yourself you're just more aware now of what it actually means and the significance of the 12 week scan. I just think your emotions are a reflection of how deeply you understand what your friends are going through. And also in a weird way maybe even makes you feel grateful that you didn't get that far along...I think your reactions are totally normal and you shouldn't feel guilty! I think this just shows you're a really sweet and empathetic person! And your friends are lucky to have you

@strawberrye
I agree with @L1zz13. You are entitled to feel how you feel. There are no rules to this.
I have heard from a friend that she didnt feel as bad after her 2nd mc.
I think its down to the individual and circumstances. Also going through it already gives you some resilience maybe. I feel i would be worse with a 2nd mc than my i was with my 1st. But you dont know till it happens, maybe i wouldn't be.
You now have a great ability to empathise with your friend in a way many others cant due to not having experienced a mc.
I felt happier talking to people that had experienced the same, it made me feel better and supported and i guess not alone.
Xx

@Lilimum4 sounds like Ov pains sharp and stabby is how I'd describe them.

@strawberrye don't pressure yourself to feel one way or another. Having experienced it twice has taught you how to cope and that you can cope. We all can. If anything feel good about being able to support your friends. Xx

Morning ladies hope everyone is good. I'm think I have hit tww as I believe I ovulated yesterday. Lots of sharp pain in my left lower tummy followed by cramps. I googled it and it seemed to match ovulation pains. Never had this before I was quite scared. Good luck to all of you. Sending lots of baby dust xx

Morning ladies, I have a question for you all. I found out recently that some friends of ours are going through miscarriage at the moment, found out at their 12 week scan. This news has really hit me, I feel so much sorrow for them and actually am feeling worse about this than the early miscarriage I have just had. That makes me feel guilty that I should be feeling worse about my 2nd MC, but I guess the depth of my sadness for my friends may also be a reflection of how I'm feeling about my situation? Have any of you felt similarly?

Thanks @hidcat glad you’re feeling better today - def good to not be stuck in limbo xx

Hey everyone, thank you so much for yesterday. I'd been doing really well until that moment. Managed to stay in the end and even had a cuddle with a gorgeous 4 week old baby. Came home soon after and cuddled up with my little boy. Feeling better today, trying to remind myself that this is the new start and not being in limbo is a good thing.

@sweetpea0318 I got negative hcg about 4 weeks ago, ovulated about 10 days after and period started Saturday morning so your experience matches mine.

Hope everyone's making the most of the good weather!

@HidCat sending lots of love your way, I'm so glad you had a good friend there to support you, it's so helpful when you can talk to someone. I remember passing the sac too and felt so shocked, I had read about it but just didn't expect it to happen when it did & then I didn't know what to do with it 😢 felt so final and dramatic.
However, ironically after that I really turned a corner and was able to let go a bit more, emotionally, and then ovulated a week later. Now in second cycle after all that.
There is hope and light coming, but for now snuggle up on your sofa with a hot water bottle on your tum, take ibuprofen and paracetamol and watch a really good film, or two. Only do what you feel up to doing, cancel everything else. 💕🌷🌿

@sweetpea0318 I should also add
My hcg was positive until end of Af or so I thought. Having second doubts now about the reliability of the tests I used! It would appear one brand says pos and another neg. That's sill the case today !

Thanks @L1zz13 & @yellowdaffodil - that’s helpful. So confusing to know what’s going on! Will dtd anyway to cover all bases.

@HidCat Hope you’re ok. I remember passing the sac and it was just so very sad, it just felt so final. Look after yourself.

@Boboelephant no I’m not tracking, just using cm as a guide. I’ll buy some opks for next month though if I’m not successful this time

@sweetpea0318 i got a bfn about week after i stopped bleeding.
I then ovulated/got a pos opk, for 3 days!, a week after that. Two weeks later i got my first period since mc. It was normal length and flow as all my others. I have now ovulated about cd16.
Hope it helps.

@HidCat sorry today went the way it did, Are you ok? X

@sweetpea0318 these are my opks since 28th March thru today. I didn't take one every day.
My mc bleeding started 15th March. I suspect it had failed a week or two before hand (not a qualified opinion, just mine) and I bled for about 5-6 days. I was approx 9 wks at start of bleeding.
My opks have been all over the place.

Sorry I don't have an answer but I can offer a real time comparison.
I've had my 1st Af 20th April (5 weeks after mc) it was pretty lumpy and had was I think was left over 'baby stuff'.

My body suggested O twice since mc and opks registered I did at the end of March but not the one my body recognised over the last few days.

I've no idea what's going on. I even have a pos hcg to add to the confusion and there's no way that make sense or even taking seriously. Hence my partaking in bank holiday drinking shenanigans! 😉

I hope that helps.

I hope you're okay @HidCat Xx

@hidcat hope you’re doing ok & looking after yourself at home. Big hugs xx

@cakelaur not long to go. Fx for you for next wk x

I want to get your opinions on something pls. Currently on cd 39 since start of mc. Been waiting for hcg levels to reach zero which they finally did when took pg test last thurs and bfn. Anyway today just thought would do an opk just to see if there was anything going on as still no sign of af & got what looks like a faint line. Now I’m confused as thought would get af as soon as hcg dropped not ovulation but it looks like I’m on the way to O. Does this sound right in your experiences?

@Smoothieyummy I got bfp again this time. Currently 7+5, I'll let you know on Friday if there's still a heartbeat, but I think it helps them all get up there, slow ones or good ones. Next time round I bet a good one gets the egg! 😉🤞🏻

@HidCat defo get yourself home. Hope you're ok babe. Thinking of you. And get some painkillers into you.

@L1zz13 you got that right babe... a bunch of crazy 🐧

Thanks @L1zz13 It came away when I wiped and I always inspect so saw it. Just shocked me. Luckily my friend knew and came to check on me when I was ages so I told her and she just have me a big hug and calmed me down.