TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

@L1zz13 @YellowDaffodils86 @zarala @Claire138 @Boboelephant @ek78 thanks ladies for your kind words of reassurance, you have made me feel much better. Ironic that one of the things I said to my friend was not to pressure herself to feel any particular way or to put a timescale on things...if only I could take my own advice haha!

@PassTheAfterEights thank you. I am actually not feeling that bad - maybe calling in sick when I was meant to be working bank holiday weekend, and being able to spend the weekend with DH in the sunshine has helped. Mainly I am wanting to get on the TTC bus again, no idea when to expect AF this cycle. My BBT is not giving me any clues, its been up and down pretty much alternate days like a yoyo this cycle. MC must mess with BBT as well as everything else!

@Sloeberrygin congratulations and I hope you have a sticky bean

@L1zz13 keeping my fingers crossed for you and hope you get some answers soon. Sounds like it might be a miracle new baby though? Hope so!

@Laney79 how did the test go? Thinking of you

@babynameedie I'm no chart expert (understatement) but if you last bonked on the 2nd and ovulated on the 4th I think you have a v v good chance still. Glow always orders me hysterically to shag one day before ovulation is expected so in your case the swimmers would only be a day older - maybe half a day, depending on time of shag and time of egg release - and a huuuuge number of the initial 32 million live past two days. Thinking positive for you anyway!

@boboelephant oui oui, back and feeling v pleased about continuing ace weather conditions 😎 excited to see you too cycle twin!! How are you doing & feeling?

FX for you @primrose16 great to read your update x

I had a foot tall whipped cream topped 400 calorie "lux life" triple mocha frappucino for breakfast in Starbucks five consecutive days last week, #maymiracles are bloody required... nailing TTC nutrition👌

Sorry this is more accurate! Forgot to add in BD data for CD 9&10!

@Cakelaur @Boboelephant @PassTheAfterEights @YellowDaffodils86 and anyone else trying to while away the tww (I know you're not @Cakelaur but you're the chart goddess 🙏).. because I have nothing better to do with my time while away on a mini break with DH, I've put all my last two months data into fertility friend to see if their charting makes more sense of my cycles than natural cycles app did... and FF thinks I ovulated 4th May which makes me 4dpo and also makes me super sad because we eased off a little 2-5th May as I had a huge event on 5th 😩😢any thoughts? Have I totally mucked this month up?

@sloeberrygin congrats fx for a sticky bean

@hidcat I am with you the most painful af I have had since teenager and on day 6 finally getting a bit lighter and cramps subsided yesterday. Definitely feel like have had a big clear out!

@Boboelephant thanks for asking. I’m still checking in but not posting. I had a scan on Friday due to a little pink spotting. Little bean with a heart beat was seen - 6.1 (so 6.5 today) I haven’t had any spotting since yesterday. This is the farthest I have been, I lost the last 2 before 6 weeks so 🤷🏼‍♀️. Still nervous.
@Sloeberrygin oooooo exciting stuff. Congrats

Omg!! @Sloeberrygin YES!!! What a great start to a bfp month!!! Come find us on the Christmas cake bfp thread!! Hopeful loads more to join!!

This is gonna be a great month I can feel it ladies. Sorry for anyone who's struggling at the mo!! But it's gonna get better, if it's a bfp, a bfn, a first period, an mc to complete... it's gonna happen this month!!!

Say it with me ladies!!! "MAY MIRACLES"

@Laney79 how was your test today?
@Primrose16 how are you?? I'm guessing no news is good news? 🤞
@HidCat hope the pains pass soon. Definitely try and take it easy.
@Sloeberrygin oh my gosh!!! Is this after those faint lines you were having on the last thread? Congratulations!!! What cd are you?? Is this first cycle after MC?
@PassTheAfterEights woohoo you're back!! It's slightly concerning how excited I am. According to ff I ovulated day 16 not 17 so I am 3dpo too. Still twinning!! And definitely Starbuck or Tarzana...
@L1zz13 ooh the mystery continues. Keeping everything crossed for you.
@Lilimum4 don't give up yet. It's too early to know anything yet. My symptoms have been wildly exacerbated since MC so immediately after ov I get sore breasts, back pain and painful legs. Fingers crossed for you.

@Sloeberrygin congratulations. So happy for you x

I only came to moan really. Ovulated two days ago with ovulation pains and now I feel like I'm getting an AF visit. I'm so bloody confused I don't think my body knows what its doing anymore. Has anybody else ever felt this.

@Sloeberrygin woohoo!! Congrats! Very very happy news 🌸

@L1zz13 everything crossed for you that it's a miracle bean 🤞🤞

@PassTheAfterEights I'm 1 or 2 dpo and already a bit bored of waiting! 😂 still BD every day or so just in case I've misread the signs so hubby is happy!

So sorry @Sloeberrygin I missed your news before posting, huge congrats!!!

Eek @L1zz13 everything crossed for a miracle preg, on tenterhooks for you x

Congrats @Sloeberrygin

@HidCat bear with it love. I find wine a fantastic pain killer! Lol

@Laney79 lots of love X

So got an emergency app this am. Dr was sweet though she did try to tell me the faint line on her 25mUI was negative until I said 'urm you don't get faint lines if there is HCG present!' Plus is appeared straight away not after the time slot which I initially had a home.
She agreed I needed a blood test. Have one booked for tomorrow am.

Now I'm home I've just done another POAS HPT and it is darker than the others I've done the last few days! Plus my opk is positive!

Feeling hopeful but realistic as I still cannot make my dates and timings work to make a new baby.

@Sloeberrygin congratulations!

Morning angels x how is everyone? So many cycles seem to have synced up, 3dpo here & think there are four or five of us!? v badly timed for POAS Friday - this one will be too early, waiting for next will be TORTURE! Still feeling madly relaxed this month & much bonking in the AfterEights household, enjoying it while it lasts.

@boboelephant Oak - love it. Lot of Cedars in California, few Sequoias.... many many cactuses and succulents... I may need to work on the name inspo if we were lucky last week! Malibu? Venice? Calabasas? Tarzana? Downtown? STARBUCK?

@strawberrye so sorry to read your latest, that''s total shit. Thinking of you and hope you're feeling as OK as can be expected.

Happy short & sunny week everybody x

I've been away so haven't posted for a while. I've been reading every so often though, trying to keep up! Sending loads of positive thoughts to the people having tough times at the moment. I would say they should get themselves to the middle of the huddle, but it's probably a bit hot in there for penguins at the moment

I'd been having some super faint lines but they didn't get any darker for about a week so I assumed chemical. But I took a test this morning and the test line is darker than the control line, no mistaking this one. So omg I think I'm pregnant!

OMG I can't believe how painful this first period after MC is! Doubling up on Paracetemol and Ibuprofen and still feeling it. 😣

@Laney79good luck today 💐

@Laney79 I had medical management in August 15. From what I remember I only bled a week Ish. I lost that much blood on the evening it started that it tailed off quickly. But I honestly don’t know what was normal. I’m sorry it’s dragging out

@strawberrye Just to say I recovered from my 2nd mc so much faster than my 1st, it isn’t anything to feel guilty about. I was so scared through my 2nd preg about miscarrying I was probably just more prepared. Also, for me, the 2nd feels like more of the same kind of loss (adding onto a pile of sadness) rather than a new and shocking loss. I’m sure others feel differently but that’s how it has been for me. If you don’t feel as bad this time this is a good thing. It is great that you can support your friend. As we all know, this can be such a lonely place.

Thanks @Boboelephant and @HidCat - I have to ring the EPAU tomorrow with the test result, and I have a GP appt on May 17th. I'll see what the nurse says tomorrow.

Just feels like it's taking a REALLY long time. I found out there was a prob on 17th March so it's just taking forever. I'm broken-hearted about losing my bean, but I really need to move forward now. I want to feel normal.

@Laney79 I'm sorry thus is still dragging on. I don't really have any experience to compare as I had surgery. I would call your doc though, I recall you saying she was brilliant? Hope it resolves soon.

@Laney79 I'm sorry it's taking so long. Have you been able to get any answers from the docs? My experience was different to most people's so I'm probably not much help tbh but I hope you're ok.

I'm feeling a bit rubbish today despite the beautiful weather...

Desperate to get back to TTC as you saw from my post yesterday but I keep getting pains/bleeding still.

My last medical management was on April 27th, started with pain and some blood/clots within an hour...was pretty consistent blood/clots for 48 hours then on The Sunday I was in lots of pain and passed loads of clots and blood. Since then I haven't bled a huge amount but every day I've had pain, then passed a clot/tissue and more red blood when I go to the loo...I've also had a couple of small "gushes"...

Is this normal? It's 11 days now...I was hoping I'd just be spotting/old blood by now but it's still clotty/tissue and at least 50% red rather than brown.

Got to do a test tomorrow-last one a week ago was faintly positive.

I just want to get back to normal now-and frankly I miss making love with my man! We only did it once after my positive in mid Feb, and I miss the intimacy.

Haha yep @Claire138. Subtlety is not really my strong suit! 🤣 yes fingers crossed it's my turn! 🤞🤞
Sounds sensible. Hope the next 2 weeks go as quickly as possible and all is well.

Agree.. @L1zz13 dates are funny. But bodies do weird things after mc. And chance your period was implantation? Defo book in for some blood tests. It's the only way to know for sure. I really really hope it's a new one for you.

@L1zz13 I have no idea what's going on for you. I'd love for it to be a new pregnancy but I agree a bit that the dates and the sessions don't quite add up. But definitely book an emergency appointment, get your bloods and see where you stand! Fx for a miracle.