TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

Hi ladies, I've just been trying to catch up after a weekend away from screens, so much has been going on!

Have been struggling a little bit the past few days with first AF since MC. Just feeling so much like I'm back to square one and worrying about not getting pregnant again or losing another one if I do catch again. I know worrying doesn't help though, so trying to take my mind off everything. Had a lovely weekend with a friend who came to visit which helped a lot.

Sloeberrygin Congratulations! Fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy. xx

Laney79 I'm pleased you've finally got a negative. It might feel a bit easier emotionally now; I felt relieved after mine and like I could start to look forward again. The bad days have been getting further apart and easier to handle since my BFN, but you will still have to ride the waves. Getting back to work may also help you feel more back to normal. Good luck with TTC again.

Primrose16 Congrats on getting the furthest you've been. I have everything crossed for you that this little bean continues to be sticky and healthy. Would also be nervous and wary in your position, but I hope all goes well. xx

Whats ubiquinol and selenium for? I debated zinc but think its in my conception vitamin. The b vitamins are as well tbh im just covering all bases ha.

I did want to take niacin too but ive seen mixed revies on that.

@Dboo I’ve got a similar list to you - pregnacare conception, ubiquinol, selenium, omega 3,6&9, zinc & evening primrose. I did try bee propolis for a bit too but the smell put me off!

@hidcat yep i think will keep going for a bit just in case they do change again. Before mc they just got darker so this is all new! I think if you’ve got a big stash of opks then just test away from end of Af!

@sweetpea0318 I'd keep going as it's always possible you picked up leftover LH from your MC. My opks got lighter first then darker after.

Speaking of opks, I know that the recommendation is to start testing at about CD 11 but given this will be 2nd cycle after MC I thought I'd start early in case my cycles are out of whack. It's not too obsessive to start as soon as AF clears up is it? 🤫

Oh gosh ive no idea with opks sorry.

What vitamins are you taking sweetpea?

Ive got folic acid 5mg on prescription
7 seas conception vitamin
Coq10
B6
B12
Omega 3,6 & 9
Evening primrose oil
Vitamin d

Have a stash of baby aspirin and pregnancy vitamins for when i get bfp.

So my opks have been getting lighter and lighter until the one this evening was completely blank - do you think I've missed O? I only started with them last thurs (negative) missed sat and then done sun-tues. I didn't think I needed to bother before bfn on preg test but now I'm wondering if I messed it all up & should have started much earlier? Or could I just have not ovulated at all?! I'm cd39 now since start of mc.

Sorry still catching up! Good luck with blood test tomorrow @L1zz13.

@dboo - I'm taking a ridiculous concoction of supplements! I went a bit mad in H&B after the mc as wanted to feel like I'm doing
Something positive. It takes me 5 minutes to take them all each night!

Congratulations @sloeberry gin! Fx all goes well x

Thank you @L1zz13. Sounds like you have some great coping techniques there wine and ice cream yum.

Good luck with the blood test. I guees its good news you have 3dc can clearly get to the finish line so fingers crossed.

@DBoo I'm pretty new too. These gals are amazing. There's always someone about to offload on. Sorry for your losses xx

So blood test is tomorrow. Yikes! Literally have no idea what to expect.
I'm almost certain it's not a new preggo. Random nausea would be my only symptom. The hurty boobs and dog tired comes before that! I have neither! I'm ttc #4 and have been pg 6 times. Bit of an 'old goat got the tshirt' sort of person. Prone to cynicism and reality/anxiety checks. Lol
Wine has relieved my back ache this evening. That's a positive. The peanut butter Haagen Dazs ice cream was pretty awesome too along with cheapo burger bite crisps!

Im not temping but using flo and ovia apps. Cycles pretty regular give or take a day so thats good. Im taking a concoction of vitamins in my quest for a healthy baby too but god knows if they work.

According to flo i should have ovulated yesterday i think but im feeling a bit out of sorts today so im wondering if todays the day. Suggested dtd just incase weve managed every other day so far and today us the other day so hopefully haha!

Do any of you have ovulation symptoms? I never check cm either unless i actually see it iyswim.

Thank you for the congratulations. I just can't believe it'll actually stick, so I'm not getting my hopes up too much.
@L1zz13 how stressful that you don't know what's going on. I'm glad you can get bloods done to try and find out. Sending gentle positive thoughts your way.
@Boboelephant yep, I had super faint lines then kept getting negatives. I'd given up but then the line finally went dark so it seems to have stuck! It was my first af since the mc. I'm cd34 and am 4+5wks.
@Primrose16 so exciting, I have everything crossed for you that it sticks!
@Laney79 sending hugs. Ever onwards.

Hi @DBoo. So sorry for your losses. I hope you get your rainbow baby soon.
@BabynameEdie I'm not a huge expert as only been temping the last two months but I think ff is pretty good. From my understanding you don't have to have a dip but as soon as you get 3 temps over the past 6 that confirms ovulation. However apparently some people can have a really big dip which drops below pre-ovulation temps and then shoots up immediately. As this happened to you twice maybe you are one of them?

Thanks @BabynameEdie

I actually feel quite positive joining the thread and not mang names i recognise which is great as hopefully the ones i did are off having babies right about now.

Thanks @Boboelephant I think I'll stick with FF charts now as the other ones didn't seem very helpful. It still hasn't confirmed an ovulation at all on the other one 🤷🏻‍♀️
I get a bit confused, is a big temp drop pretty key before O? And then a rise straight away?

@DBoo gosh it sounds like you've really been through a lot, I really hope you get your sticky bean very soon. This is a fab board - it moves fast but always full of lovely people who will always listen xx

Hey everyone. I jump on and off these boards but im cycle #3 trying to conceive #2 first baby stillborn. Had a first trimester mmc and a second trimester mmc. Hoping above all hopes next time works out!!!! Hope everyone is ok.

Haha @Cakelaur- May Miracles!!! C'mon!! 🤞🤞
@Primrose16 I'm so glad you got to see a little heartbeat! And it's a great sign that you have gotten further than the other times. Fx for a smooth continuation!
@BabynameEdie It does look like you ovulated on the 4th. That was a big drop beforehand. I can't remember- when did you get a positive opk? And what was your other chart saying? I'd go with the temp and say 4dpp. And don't worry as you got o day, 2 days before which I've heard is the most important day and a few others before to help out. You've covered bases well and it only takes one.
@PassTheAfterEights sounds like Starbuck is defo the winner. 🤣 Don't worry about your ttc diet. I drank so much on the weekend that I've got heartburn! 😫 on am enforced detox now so it'll be a dry tww for me for the first time!
To everyone else I can't comment too much on the MM or natural MC as I had to have surgery. But I hope your bodies heal soon and you can move forward with ttc again.

Thanks so much @ek78 and @BabynameEdie 🤞🏻 for us all! I have a family holiday to look forward to in a couple of weeks so that’ll be nice atleast

Hi @Anyday88 welcome back and I'm glad to hear you feel your body is getting back to normal. I thought my cycle was 100% back to normal quite soon after my mc - AF arrived at same time it would have done if MC had been last AF but then that first full cycle was a lot longer than normal. I think I feel much more back to normal now, and am in tww on second cycle. But it really does vary and I think it's different for everyone.
I hope you continue to feel back in the zone with it all, and fingers crossed for more bfps! 🤞

@laney79 Good to hear that things are starting to come to a close. It is strange to welcome a BFN but it does show that your body is repairing itself. I haven't tried to use opks after mc. I had read that they can be a bit all over the place first cycle so decided to hang on til after the first period but others may have found them useful...

Hi @anyday88 After my first mc I got AF after 35 days, taking date of mc as first date of period. My cycles were slightly odd lengths between 26 and 31 days before settling down after a few months. Like you I'm waiting for first AF post mc. I'm at about day 32. Hopefully it won't be too long for either of us.

Hi, I posted briefly in the last thread.

I had my miscarriage confirmed on the 16th April at 5 weeks and bleeding had started two days before on the 14th and carried on for another week. They did a pregnancy test at the hospital and it was already negative so I haven’t bothered to do another one. My body seems to be working ok so I am just waiting for my first period now although we have dtd in my fertile window according to Flo but that is with the dates of the mc as my last period 🤷🏼‍♀️
It’s so confusing I’m thinking I can expect my period anytime from Saturday 12th if everything has gone back to straight away.
How long did it take everyone else’s cycles to regulate?

It’s so nice to see some bfps on here to bring a little joy amongst the pain.

Huge congrats @Sloeberrygin fingers crossed its the stickiest of stickys.

@L1zz13 Fingers crossed the bloods get you the answers you need.

@strawberrye So sorry - hugs X

To everyone else that was asking...thankyou! My test today was negative. Feel sad, but know it had to be that way. Ever onwards as they say.

Only brown spotting so far today-nurse said bleeding could go on another week or so, and that some women spot right the way until their first period post MC. She said if I'm still bleeding by the time I see the GP a week on Thursday to ask for medication-apparently they can give you pills that reset your system? As ever keen to avoid any more medical stuff/drugs...body has been through loads and I just want to get back to normal so we can try again.

Wondering if I should still do opks even though I'm still bleeding now I have a negative? If for nothing else than my tracker? What do you think?

Went back to work for the first time in 7 weeks today...weird, and emotional explaining where I've been.

I'm so grateful for these forums-it's comforting to be able to say how I feel and get advice from others who know what I'm going through-you are all awesome xxxx

@sloeberrygin congratulations! Great news!
@L1zz13 I REALLY hope it is a new one. What a rollercoaster! Hope you are doing ok.

So, my weird spotting is back. I did a HPT with a cheapie test at the weekend and ... BFN. I did intend to check with a better one later in the week (if no AF). Now the spotting has come back. This is the third time I've had a bit of pink on wiping - I don't know if its a coincidence but two of the times this has happened after doing exercise. The first two times it could have been implantation bleeding but I think this coming back now confirms it is not that. I've never had spotting in my life. It could just be the beginning of AF which would be good because then I could get on with it but it does seem to have stopped for now. Did anyone else have this after mc? My bleeding finished 3 weeks ago and I had a BFN within the week after.

I bet as soon as I press 'post' it just turns into a full blown AF!

Oh and better add myself to the roll call now I know what is happening!

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1
strawberrye 27 (this month!) TTC #1 C1 post MC #2

@PassTheAfterEights 🤣🤣that's my kinda breakfast! We gotta get our kicks somewhere! Did you have a great time away?
Thanks re chart feedback, feeling a bit despondent as was aiming for a full marathon no days missing but that Thursday (what turned out to be day before O) we were just too exhausted! Damn!! Hey ho. It'll only happen when it's meant to etc etc.. May Miracles needed!

Just seen your post @Primrose16 and sending you lots of positive strong sticky bean vibes, it's a very good sign you've got past previous MC stage xx