TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

Thanks for all the support. I think I may have to go back to the epu tomorrow as I have only had a small amount of bleeding most when I wipe, sorry for tmi, and that has stopped now. I have to phone them tomorrow and let them know what's happening so they can make a decision about the next steps. I just want it to be over, last time I miscarried spontaneously so didn't need any management I just hope this doesn't hang on for weeks as I don't think I could cope with the surgery.

@L1zz13 fingers crossed for good news. If it helps, at 35 the probably wouldn't have seen a baby. I'm sure the scan woman told me that to see a baby you have to be over 1000. But if it's 35 and on the up, it should increase pretty quickly. 🤞🏻

Please say a prayer, cross your fingers, put in a good word what ever it is that may help. I have my scan in the morning and I'm a nervous wreck.

@L1zz13 I really hope it’s good news for you! Try and relax

@Martydog how are you today? Sending you hugs
@Lovemysparkle that's really interesting that Your OH said that- maybe that's also the reason why my DH doesn't want us to try so soon - partly worried about me and my body needing time to heal, but I wonder whether he also just doesn't want to go through the heartbreak again. He really doesn't speak about it at all! When my first due date passed last month it didn't seem to bother him- but I wonder if it did?
@L1zz13 that's so annoying they wouldn't scan you! At least it could have given more answers! Oh well let's see how your blood test comes out tomorrow- fingers crossed for you

On a positive note, I had my appointment with my Chinese doctor recently and she was amazed! She told me i am almost ready to TTC again! My body has recovered nicely apparently so she wants to see 2 more cycles and then she will put me on some herbal remedies to strengthen the uterus to encourage a successful pregnancy. So that made me so happy to hear!
I am going to wait until after August I think and I just hope we get BFP before the end of this year (ideally before October as that was the due date of my last MC)

Anyway good luck and patience to all of you entering TWW and enjoy FW the rest of you- remember JKS!!! 🤸🏼‍♀️🧘‍♀️

@Lovemysparkle I can't believe your OH has kept it bottled up so long. I hope you've both found some peace in opening up and getting everything out. 💐

@L1zz13 I hope you're ok. Sorry to hear that it's dragging on even after AF.

@Boboelephant it's that common after mc! Could that be why I've had 'morning sickness' like nausea, super bizarre dreams, my egg aversion is back and lower back feels pms like 24/7!

@Eastend2015 thankyou but I'm not getting overly hopeful this month. I have realised since the MMC that I get very strong progesterone related symptoms so it's probably nothing. Very uncomfortable though!
Good luck with fw.

@bobo 🤞🤞🤞

@martydog I’m so sorry, sending hugs. How are you today?

@lovemyysparkle we’ve been the reverse this week as it’s fw and DH has had to coax me into DTD. Everything we have been through has been quite the passion killer. Ah well, need to crack on with it, no sex = no baby!!

@ek78 sending a 🐧 squeeze. It's always hard hearing about others with similar due dates. Mine would have been June and July so dreading the next few months if still not pregnant.
@L1zz13 I'm sorry this is so confusing for you. I really have no idea what's going on. Did you do a negative pregnancy test before getting your af? At least if they are doing another blood test tomorrow you should have some answers sooner than 10 days away!

5dpo here and the sore breasts have kicked up a notch. Owwwww!!!!

Sorry to hear of the struggles people are going through right now. ❤️

My results are in! HCG blood test 35! 8 weeks post mc with a full blown AF 5 weeks post mc.
Saw a nice but bit of a numpty dr after. Who talked the talked.
Funny really as I suggested he book me scan with EPU and do a blood test. He said let's just have a scan. But, as he's a numpty he had the EPU talk him out of doing a scan and recommended another blood test.
I'm having another blood test tomorrow morning.
So no actual answers. He thinks unlikely for retained products as I've had no symptoms but most likely it's just taking fucking ages to come down. 😤🤯😤🤯😡

Proper stressed and anxious to the stage where every minute of the day I feel nauseous.
I would so love this to be a new pg. But to be a new pg I would have to conceived prior to my heavy AF. Just not poss.

Going to try and move on. My next AF is due in 10 days or so (according to Flo) so will patiently wait for that. No more wasting time POAS for me. For the time being at least. Lol

P.s. (whispers...) I will POAS. I'm addicted 😂

@martydog I really am so sorry to see this. I hope you are ok and have plenty of support around you. Sending big virtual hug!! Xx

Morning all @martydog I am so sorry to hear what you are going through my 1st mc was a mmc & originally opted for d&c but started miscarrying naturally the day after we found out & ended up at a&e sorry i cannot give more advice but am sending lots of love to you❤️
Af due for me (if 28 day cycle Monday) but will probably arrive over the weekend!! Have had the usual pre af shit bad back, veiny & heavy boobs & my mood has been somewhat moody 🙈 today af symptoms seems to have tailed off quite a bit but I’m sure the witch will arrive 🧙🏼‍♀️
Both me & dp had a major meltdown Sunday morning, I was asking him how does he cope so well (as I’ve struggled a bit this month) was pregnant exactly the same time last year & I know I shouldn’t but dates really stick in my mind!! Generally I think men bury their heads a bit & feel they have to be strong for us (even though we’re probably stronger) but dp said to me it’s not that he doesn’t care & there hasn’t been a day that he hasn’t not thought about our little sparkle (1st mmc saw our sparkle in scan with beautiful heartbeat ❤️ ) he has always said that for a few days it was real & a dad but then it cruelly got taken away & it all came to the surface Sunday that he has never grieved as he doesn’t know how to & he doesn’t want to let go of our little sparkle 😢 he chooses to bury it deep inside especially with the other 2 mc’s as well, he then was the one asking me how can I be so strong & find the strength to try all over again!!!

@babynameisedie Thank you. Xx I know you are right. I’ll try and go easy on myself today.

@Martydog I'm so sorry to hear this. No words of advice as both my MCs came on naturally but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry to hear your news and am thinking of you. Sending hugs

@ek78 I know the feeling, mine was due in October too and it just kicks me in the gut every time I hear of someone else with a due date then. Allow yourself to feel sad, it's all part of the grieving process. Our time will come, and we'll be so so appreciative when it does because of the struggles we've been through 💕

@Martydog how are you today? Sorry my reply is late, it took about 3 hours for my bleeding to start. I had the tablets under the tongue. Bleeding was horrendous. I hope you are okay xx

Hi ladies, Woke up feeling sad today. A colleague announced that they are having a baby in October yesterday- same month mine was due. I’ve been doing so well and then... I guess it comes in waves.

@weasledee don't panic, you're still just 10 dpo and according to FF only 10% or pregnancies had a BFP at 10 dpo. You're still in with a chance! Hope you have a busy day to keep your mind off it xx

@Martydog I'm so sorry to see you're back here and to hear about your mc. I don't have any advice I'm afraid as haven't taken the pills but just wanted to say how sorry I am and sending you lots of hugs.
🐧 Into the middle of the penguin huddle 🐧

BFN! Fed up. Before I had the d and c I got pregnant with no issues. I can't help feeling now this issue is because of that procedure

@Martydog sending you a big virtual hug. I'm so sorry this has happened. Is your dh still away? Xxx

@martydog so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself x

@Martydog so sorry to hear that x

@Martydog so so sorry to hear this.

I had medical management-the first dose of misoprostol alone (800mcg vaginally) only gave me mild period pain...I had another 400mcg vaginally 48 hours later with the same result.

After a lot of back and forth I was eventually given mifepristone 48 hours before another 800mcg of misoprostol. I had pains starting within 2 hours and a little spotting and then more cramping and pains and blood clots but nothing horrendous until 48 hours later when I had a lot of pain and clots/blood loss.

I hope it happens as quickly and painlessly as poss for you xxx