TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

@YellowDaffodils86 I'm pretty sure you know that I wholeheartedly understand 👌😂 Dr Google is my life two weeks of every cycle! 🤞🤞here's hoping
I'm massively grumpy and feel a bit crampy so expecting AF to arrive soon 😭

@BabynameEdie of course, it's probably just progesterone rising. Just cant help it. Now resisting the urge to google it 😂

@YellowDaffodils86 your patience is a lot better than mine! Hmm that's a strange occurrence..is this symptom spotting by any chance? 🤞🤞

@BabynameEdie only a mere 8dpo. Not quite yet. Going slowly.
Iv just got changed and taken bra off and the side of my right boob is so sore its burning🤔

@TedLife sorry you find yourself here but you're in a good place here! And as far as I can tell we have NO RULES! Honestly anything goes here- it's a safe place where you can speak your mind we've all been through so much individually that I don't think any of us are too hung up about rules!

@Lovemysparkle I think the others are right- take the month off !

@TedLife you're definitely in the right place and we have no rules here (that I know of!) 💕 I'm so sorry for you, I had a very similar experience with my first pregnancy in February at 8 weeks and it was earth-shatteringly sad and overwhelming. Please know that it does get easier, particularly once you start ttc again, but only do that when it feels right for you. This is a wonderful place full of love and support.

Ps @YellowDaffodils86 but how many days are you now? Surely it's time?!

@YellowDaffodils86 😂😂 I know!! Really silly and naughty. I just cannot help myself!! Although I do apologise because I think my reckless behaviour is causing others to feel the need to test far too early as well! Don't do it! Hold out! Be the better adult 😂
GAH x

@Martydog sorry its still dragging, i wish there was more i could say to make it all a bit better bit i know there is isnt really. But there is an end and you will get there.

@weasledee Sorry that af may be appearing, are you sure she is definitely on her way?
I think others have answered but yes id take it before.

@Lovemysparkle Ahh nearly your wedding, thats exciting. In July we would have reached our 1yr anniversary already.
I would take the month off, best not to risk anything ruining your big day, the lst thing you need is any worry or upset. Enjoy it and then start a fresh on honeymoon. Thats where all babies are made surely😂

@BabynameEdie Naughty girl 😂still sooo early, plenty of time yet, dont count yourself out just yet!
Its so hard to tell, but the fact you feel different could be a sign!

I am becoming inpatient and bored, just want to know yes or no? Im trying to stay strong until Saturday, i can feel me breaking!

@HidCat i can see why you feel a bit down, thats a bit rubbish, but yes, book a little holiday for yourselves and then you can look forward to that.

@L1zz13 uh so strange and annoying for you. Hopefully after next af you get a fresh start and none of this strange limbo.

@Laney79 i have my fx for you, hopefully all done by the tome holiday comes, so you can enjoy it. You definitely deserve it!

@hayleyfx
Woo ovulation!! Almost as exciting as bfps!!

@zarala thank you for sharing. Interesting to know.

@TedLife so sorry you have had to go through what you have. I mc my first pregnancy too. Being with like minded people deft helps.

@Boboelephant
Good luck for results. Cant believe that was 8 weeks ago already!

@zarala thanks for advice - will be following up on doc's orders! Although may wait til next cycle as feel this one has been my first relatively normal one since mc. Probs AF v nearby anyway so will start afresh next week I imagine. 🤞🤞 for your results

@hayleyfx thanks! I know, silly to have tested really! Am just so bad at waiting 😂
Congrats on OPK! Such a great feeling isn't. Plus with all your well timed JKS'ing 👏👏

@Boboelephant any news on your results?

Sorry @weasledee for bfn 😒 it really sucks every time doesn't it 💕

@Lovemysparkle I agree take the month off. Not for mc worries but so you can totally focus on getting married. Bridezilla is very intense. Babyzilla can wait.

@L1zz13 and @Laney79 so sorry this is dragging on for both of you. Fx things move on for you soon.
@zarala thanks for all the tips and the good wishes!
@hayleyfx woohoo for ovulation!!!
@Cakelaur these are the ones I had 8 weeks ago when I saw that rude consultant. Basically just checking everything. Progesterone, ovaries, AMH etc... and hahaha I knew you wouldn't forget that!!! 😂😂
@TedLife you are very welcome and so sorry for your loss.
@Lovemysparkle I would take a month off. It's only one month and not worth the worry. And it's so romantic to start ttc again on your honeymoon!!

@TedLife I'm so sorry to see that you're joining us but welcome and I hope you're doing ok. Give yourself time to heal and jump back on the TTC wagon when you're ready. In the meantime these Penguins will will look after you 🐧🐧🐧

@Lovemysparkle if in doubt and it's going to affect your wedding day then yes, skip a month. It would be nice to have sex for fun in the lead to your wedding!

@lovemysparkle personally id have a month off and enjoy the wedding and honeymoon.

My wedding is booked for october next year and we will stop ttc december if have no luck before then so im not pregnant for the wedding - just too stressful if fell pregnant wondering what would happen.

Ladies need your advice/input please!! I am due 1 more af before wedding day (16.6.18) which if my cycle behaves & stays at cd26 af will arrive 7.6.18 so as mentioned earlier will be good for wedding day & minimoon 👍🏼 & brucie bonus is fw 😁 mine & dp’s dilemma is shall we use protection this month so am gurenteed af to show & all be good or carry on ttc??? The thing that we are worried about is if I was to get a bfp there is a risk of having a cp/early mc that would totally happen around our wedding day/minimoon & as you all know we want a bubs more than anything in the world but if the worst happened we don’t want to remember our special day being an emotional wreck/associated with yet another mc.
We are trying to not over analyse this decision but it’s hard not to! It’s a big wedding 150 people!! So do we wait to carry on ttc on minimoon as Mr & Mrs or leave it to fate??? I would really appreciate your thoughts/advice on this as I know you’ll be honest with me❤️

@TedLife welcome, sorry for your loss

You've defo come to right place @TedLife 🤗
Sorry for your loss.

Hi Ladies,

This is my first post, ever on Mumsnet actually. Sadly I had a MMC (at around 8 weeks but i thought i was 10+5) a couple of weeks ago and miscarried naturally on May 3rd it was my first time being pregnant so it was quite a blow and i'm still coming to terms with it. I took a test today and was thrilled to see my BFN.

I've been reading this thread and keeping an eye on your progress but now feel like I can finally join you! I may still wait for first AF to start trying again but it feels nice to be with likeminded company (hope it's not against the rules!).

Just wanted to say hi and hopefully i'll be joining you on the TTC bus very soon

P.S. @Boboelephant don't think I've forgotten that if you get a bfp this month.... baby will have the initials JKS!!! 😂

@L1zz13 so sorry it's shit and dragging out. Have they suggested what to do if it doesn't go down after af?

@Boboelephant good luck for your results babe. I've defo missed what the scans and stuff were for (sorry brain like a sieve) but hopefully they're positive results!

@hayleyfx YES for opk!! I always feel better when it's all timed nicely!

Come on May Miracles I'd like BFPs for my birthday on Saturday!!! Seeing as I wasn't invited to the royal wedding I need some good stuff as a present!! 😂

@Laney79 eugh that's so frustrating! I feel like I bled through the whole of March! Just wouldn't end! Make sure you take some iron because of all the blood loss- I'm taking floradix and I really felt good once I started it!

@weasledee yes definitely take folic acid while TTC- it's takes 3 months for eggs to mature before our bodies pop them out so they recommend starting vitamins and folic acid from 3 months before TTC.

Also I just came back from my first appointment with Dr Shehata he recommends everyone to take baby aspirin when TTC- apparently it helps the uterus lining to be spongier and more welcoming for embryos! And it increases blood flow so increases fertility!
And also reduces chances of miscarriage!
So I think we should all get on that- if not already?!
He also recommends everyone to take multivitamins, vitamin D and omega 3. Just thought you ladies might like to know

I then had what felt like a pint of blood taken and I get my results in 3 weeks.

Good luck @Boboelephant today with your results! Let us know how it goes!

Yay!! Positive OPK! I’m so excited as I’m ovulating at a normal time this month & also have been dtd at the perfect time haha!!

@L1zz13 I’m so sorry this is dragging out for you still. Rubbish. I hope it’s totally over for you soon, it makes it harder when it seems like it’s neverending! Hugs
@BabynameEdie ah sorry for the bfn 😒 they’re always rubbish but you’ve got plenty of time left for a line to develop!! Fingers crossed 🤞
@Lovemysparkle sorry that af arrived but you seem really positive and you should be, it’s always great when you know things are getting back on track!! & hopefully better news next month 😊
@weasledee sorry 😔 hopefully some better news next month for all who have been caught by af. Fingers crossed!

Congrats on the BFPs...sorry to see the new boss on here. Such an awful thing to happen. This thread is such a saviour though-stopped me from meltdowns several times!

@Martydog so sorry-that happened to me. if you really want to avoid surgery see if they'll give you mifepristone as well as the misoprostol -that worked for me. It's what they used to do for missed miscarriage and still do if people request a medical abortion. There appears to be a higher success rate.

@weasledee my GP has given me the higher dose folic acid and told me to take it the same as I was with the lower dose stuff. Basically whilst TTC, so I'm taking it now as well as vitamin D.

Sadly for me I can't get back to TTC...still bleeding 18 days after start of miscarriage (following medical management with Mife/miso). It's so frustrating! Barely anything really but it's clotty/tissue so too gross to even think about jumping on the fella...plus it tends to come with pain...and I'm worried about infection.

We're off on hols two weeks on thurs...o really hope it's finished by then. I want to be able to swim! It's 30 degrees in Greece! And I want to JKS my way through the fortnight. Please keep your fingers crossed for me ladies.

My hcg went up from 35 to 36. Ffs
Feel shit but still I'm hopeful it will plummet after next Af.
Have requested a drs phone call from the numpty one. No idea what he'll say or even if he'll call! Going to try an push for another blood test after the Next Af.

@L1zz13 what did they say?
@Lilimum4 good luck for tomorrow. Not stupid at all. Lots of people have no symptoms and get bfp! I have a few less than usual this month and desperately hoping this is a good sign!
@Martydog that's rubbish, sorry hun. What did doc say?
@weasledee sorry for bfn. When is af due? Not sure about folic acid but fx for next month for you.
@Lovemysparkle sorry af got you but i think this is better! Enjoy champers at your wedding and then make a honeymoon baby!!
@BabynameEdie sorry for your bfn too but you know it's still so early! I'm doing ok but definitely analysing everything!
@HidCat ahh that's tough. Definitely book a lovely getaway- you deserve it!

Wish me luck ladies. Seeing consultant tonight to get all my results from my bloods and scan. 🤞🤞