TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

Cake where did you get the cream from?

@Boboelephant sorry for the bfn!! 😒 but you’re definitely not out yet. Remaining very hopeful for you 🤞 fingers, toes, everything crossed

@MrsLCW I’m so sorry for your loss. This thread is so supportive, definitely in the right place. Lots of baby dust for FW!! 🤞

@Pearcrumble welcome, you’re certainly not hijaking! I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re doing okay. I had a MC in December at 12 weeks - I started TTC again right away. I couldn’t wait, I was desperate to be pregnant again. What kept me going was TTC again and having something else to think about other than the MC. Everyone is different though, you’ll know yourself when you feel ready! Good luck for when you do start TTC again 🤞

@SerenaOverjoyed yup. I'm still using it now. I think it defo helped. But I was desperate to try anything. I actually thought I wasn't getting AF because the cream had messed up my cycles and I was panicking. And then bam... bfp! You literally rub a tiny bit on somewhere "fatty" bum, thighs, belly, arms, etc and rotate the position each time twice a day. Once in the morning and once at night. I would defo use it again. But I don't wanna push anyone to use it. I was convinced I had progesterone deficiency. And I was desperate. But there seems to be loads of women On MN that have had success with it.

@BabynameEdie i can understand that your tentative, but i have everything crossed for a sticky sticky bean.
I also got a bfn 10/11/12dpo when i was pregnant before mc. So you never know, and its still so early. However im not that hopeful this month.

@dulwichdays you are only 3days behind me!

@PassTheAfterEights come on in the middle.
I actually had a wobble this week, which I surprised me. Im pleased for your friend. Im sure will understand.

@Anyday88 i use glow, its pretty good. Fertility friend is good too.

@Cakelaur I liked the post of our envelope, thats nice.

@MrsLCW Welcome hope you find what you
Need here. You have been through so much. Sending hugs.
Good luck for FW

@Boboelephant Get out from the back of that cheesy shelf, its not over yet! Are 12dpo?
I was stark white at 12dpo. I didnt get a bfp until about 15dpo and it was faint.
Sorry you have had to go through bfn its always a shit shit feeling.

@SerenaOverjoyed Sorry for bfn. Not over yet though.

@Pearcrumble sorry you are going through this. I had an early mc too. I tracked my cycle from when bleeding stopped and ttc on the first ovulation i had.
Yes I think there is truth in that.
I dont think there is any right or wrong answer to when ttc just when you feel ready too.

Cakelaur That cream looks interesting. Do you think it helps with bean stickyness (as well as the bottle of wine! )? What did you do after your bfp, carry on with it?

Pearcrumble Sorry for your loss

I'd echo what others have said and suggest you do whatever feels right for you. After my first mc I didn't initially take a break, I felt a huge urge to get pregnant again immediately. After that cycle I realised it was becoming overwhelming and I did need a break, only to mc again on restarting. I suppose my rambly point is that there are so many variables and dice rolls that it's best to set your own limits and go with your gut.

Boboelephant It's true you shouldn't count yourself out yet. Any clues from the chart?

no idea which dpo I'm on! I tried using opks for the first time and didn't get a positive, but I put this down to incompetence rather than non-ovulation. I used pricey boots opks and only tested once daily with fmu They were darker 15/16 days ago, but from symptoms I think I usually ovulate on day 21 (35d cycle). So on day 32 I'm 10dpo? Who knows.

Meant to say my bfp was the orange line. It has a much steadier temp rise. Then I stopped the cream at 12dpo for 3 days (to let AF show) she never did had temp drop. Then got bfp on 15dpo and started using it again.

Also ladies I'm convinced that I got my bfp cos of progesterone cream. I don't wanna push random creams and things on people so do your own research on it. But loads of ladies tried and tried and then got bfp first month with using it. It's called Well Springs Progesterone Cream.

I showed my private doctor (I only say private cos it wasn't the usual uninterested nhs one) and she said it probably wasn't harmful cos it contained such a low amount so if I felt better, then to keep using it. (She's never heard of it before) but you need progesterone to implant and I think that's why my implantation was so late this month.

I thought of you @Boboelephant where you said you temps aren't too high off coverline. Mine were really erratic. I've attached my last few months charts so you can see the difference. Could be total bullshit. Could be complete coincidence. But if any of you wanna give it a go, thought I'd share my secret.

@Cakelaur ok you've got a deal. 🤣👍😀

@Boboelephant ok here's the deal. I'll feel hopeful and cross everything and you have a lovely glass of wine tonight. I drank a bottle of wine the night before my bfp and I seemed to make my baby a sticky one! Haha

Thanks @Cakelaur. Chart stayed the same as yesterday but it's only sitting just above coverline. Don't feel any different than yesterday but I can never tell if af is coming or not! I seem to have different symptoms every month. Fx for May miracle but I'm not feeling very hopeful.

@SerenaOverjoyed sorry you had a bfn as well today. What dpo are you?

@BabynameEdie have you tested again?

@Boboelephant I'm so sorry you have to look at a bfn this morning. But don't count yourself out just yet. What's your chart done this morning? Any signs at all of AF? Sending massive hugs. I have everything crossed for you!

@Pearcrumble welcome babe. Sorry you find yourself on this thread. But I promise you've come to the right place.
You'll get very different stories and experiences from each person. I had a missed miss carriage at 8 weeks and surgical management to remove it. I ovulated 3 weeks later (a week later than usual) and period seemed normal straight away. I then fell pregnant again on the third cycle and I'm now 9weeks. I'm one of the lucky ones with the fertility cape. But everyone is different. We started trying again immediately. More out of desperation that anything. I was surprised to fall that quick because it had taken us more than a year to fall pregnant the first time.

Thanks @dulwichdays. I'm 12dpo and have a 13 day LP so not looking good.
@SerenaOverjoyed thankyou and sorry for yours too. They suck. How any dpo are you?
@BabynameEdie thanks hun. I'm just annoyed at myself as I always do this and then keep my hopes up. So I should just wait until after af to test! If I was like you and that was an implantation dip at 7dpo it really should be showing by now though. I'm going to an ADHD conference today so no treating myself but I guess at least I'll be distracted! 🤣
@Thanks @weasledee. They really are the worst.
@Pearcrumble you're very welcome. Definitely not hijacking! Sorry for your loss. Lots of people here started trying right away. Lots have gotten pregnant within 3 months and lots haven't. So there seems to be no rhyme or reason! Good luck though and we're all here for support.

I'm also in the BFN club today. But it's not over until the fat red lady sings!

Hello everyone, I am going through my first miscarriage now (early but feel devastated nonetheless), and have a few questions about going forward. Apologies if it's the wrong place to ask do tell me to go elsewhere if need be.

If you feel like answering, when did you start to TTC again? Does the story about higher fertility after miscarriage have some truth in it?

I feel that I don't want to wait too long, for age related reasons mostly, but not sure how I would deal with going through it all again from the hope to the potential of loss.

Sorry for hijacking the thread if it's inappropriate!

Hang in there bobo, but you are right, there is nothing whiter than a BFN :(

@Boboelephant I want to reiterate what @dulwichdays said, some people haven't for bfps until way later than 12dpo, plus each cycle is usually a bit different. You are not out until af arrives, I repeat: not out until af arrives. I'm so sorry though, I know that feeling of stark empty white-ness and it's horrible. Can you do something today to treat yourself? Sending lots of hugs and come to the middle of the huddle if you want 🐧🐧💕💕

Boboelephant Sorry, that's really unfair. I hate that white empty space. xx

Thank you all! 3 days until my fertile window starts, should OV next Friday, hubby works away mon-fri so gonna have to squeeze in a mon morning quickly my which I'm sure he'll be gutted about 😂

FFS looks like I'm staying here forever. Another stark white bfn. Dammit!!!!

@mrslcw welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Hi mrslcw, so sorry for your loss....

It's s great group with plenty of advice and a good place to rant if needed :) x

@boboelephant I’m old cheese too!!

@passtheaftereights you are such a lovely friend. 🐧🐧🐧

@hidcat I have a lot of old pregnancy tests, I wish I had scan pics. 🐧🐧🐧