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Anyone going for a third? Whats your age gap?

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Mamabear12 · 19/04/2018 10:27

I have two dc, 20 months apart and age 4 and 6. I have been debating to have a third since my son was 12 months. Actually, I was talking about having a third while I was pushing him out :) The midwife said she never seen that before! Lol. But after having two dc, I realised it was a lot more work then I thought. However, it has been on my mind and whenever I was ready, my husband was not. And then when he finally was, I got cold feet. And now finally he has agreed again to try, so I think we will go for it. Am I crazy? My two dc are finally at a place where they are independent and it has gotten easy. However, I am worried if I do not go for it, I will regret it later. I am 35, so now is the time if we go for it. It is on my mind every day literally for the last year.

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Mamabear12 · 19/04/2018 19:50

Glad to get some responses of others wanting a third :)

Rachey, I think it was when I told my DH that we won the lottery for schools, so will no longer have to pay 8.5k for her to attend his school (although he has to repeat the year - which is fine as he started reception age 3 and we wanted him to repeat the year anyway) and that future DC of ours will then get into the school for free and we won't have to pay 8.5k for each child. I even told myself if we won, I would for sure try for a third, as I was on the fence, but since we won, I took it as a sign to go for it. Then my son randomly drew a picture of me pregnant at school with a baby and said it was a girl to the teacher... I took that as another sign :)

Now, I just have to figure out my fertile days....something I have not been paying attention for 5 years! Lol. I was lucky the first two times around, so I am hoping third time will be easy to figure out.

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Thundercatshoooo · 19/04/2018 18:21

We will be going for a 3rd, we've been trying to work out when though? We have a 9 month old and 2 year old (18 month gap), we don't want another 18 month gap that'd be a little mad. I'm 35 nearly so time isn't exactly on our side, we've said we might start trying in January, then the gap would be at least 26 months if we fell pregnant right away. Funny the thing that has got us discussing when we'll try again is buying a new car, most cars are not made to fit 3 car seats (unless they are a bus)!

Anyday88 · 19/04/2018 17:35

We are! I have an almost 3 year old daughter and 1 year old daughter. We were going to wait until next year and then all of a sudden I decided I wanted to try now. Took husband a couple of weeks but he soon said yes. Sadly I have just miscarried after falling pregnant in march. We very much still want number 3 and will be trying as soon as I am up to it physically/emotionally.

Fia256 · 19/04/2018 17:34

I'm pregnant with number 3 now, my two dc will be 7 and 5 when baby is here! I'm actually really looking forward to the bigger age gap this time round as they will both be in school during the day so will be nice to have that time just with baby in the day!
Definitely go for it if your thinking about it!

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 19/04/2018 17:27

Yep me ! I have ds 5 and dd 3 and desperate for another I wasn't overly sure until I fell pregnant and unfortunately lost that baby but it's made me determined that I will have another baby ! I'm 37 nearly 38 so don't have much time left

Muffin7 · 19/04/2018 16:47

Me me me! I'm a tad crazy though, I had two children in a year, my son has just turned 2 and my daughter has just turned 1 and we are going for number 3. My husband and I have always wanted a big family and always wanted them close together.

lrwe · 19/04/2018 16:40

Oh yes me me me! DS1 is 5 and DS2 is 3 and I’ve just turned 35 and we’re trying for a third.

Racheyg · 19/04/2018 15:26

mama are you me?
I'm feeling the same. Ds nearly 5 and 3. Can be hard work ect. I'm desperate for a 3rd. Oh not. We are getting married in October, we are then going to have a big talk to see where are heads and hearts are.

I don't think I'd not want another but the thought of life getting easier/having more money ect might sway it for me.

What changed dh mind?