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SparkwoodAnd21 · 17/04/2018 21:19

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 15/05/2018 00:18

@starwishing. Yes It sounds very much like we have the same brother! The all loved - all golden boy who can't step a foot wrong. I was a teenage mum when I had my eldest DD (11) and I think I've always subtly been punished for it.

My Mum was delighted both times when my brother and his girlfriend told her they were expecting, even though the first time was because she'd "forgotten" to take her pill Hmm Confused She told me I was ruining my life any time I've ever told her I was expecting. Families are fucked up!!

LookingAtTheStars89 · 15/05/2018 00:14

Oh my days ladies! My day literally went from bad to shit to explosion!

Do you remember me telling you a few months back that my mother in law had that big to do with DH one night where she said loads of shitty things about me and told me to get over losing the baby? She was pissed at me because I had decided not to attend a christening because it was on the day that our baby should have been born.

Well, that was in March and I haven't spoken to her since, neither has DH. Out of the blue his Dad (my father in law) came to see DH, basically saying that the falling out needed to stop etc. So DH told him everything that she'd said about me and told his Dad that the only way forward would be for her to apologise to me.

So, off he goes back home and we think things could be on the way to being mended maybe. At 23.30 the letter box goes and two letters are shoved through the door - one for me and one for DH. DH's was mostly sweetness and light with the odd guilt trip thrown in - it was like a four page essay! But mine, Oh yeah, mine was a crumpled up shitty piece of paper that said that I played manipulative games and I had caused irreparable damage and that she hoped that people found out what I was really like Hmm

I'm absolutely gobsmacked. My own mother in law is sending me fucking hate mail!

starwishing · 14/05/2018 21:34

@LookingAtTheStars89 omg do we have the same brother?! My mum is sooooooo excited about becoming a grandma and how she's going to do the back bedroom up as a nursery for him/her to stay (my brother visits once a year)! However she has never once suggested we do that for her EXISTING grandson who belongs to me and is an absolute legend!!

She's on it today about how beautiful their baby will be and how excited she is. That's ok mother I'll smile and nod and hope that their child fucks up as much as its father has done all his life so you can forgive them constantly and pretend it didn't happen. Wish I'd stolen her car to go joy riding whilst stoned and maybe I'd get some positive comments!

Anyway... hi. I'm back for a bit. Only because I'm fed up of this menopause crap. My FP is due at the weekend and I'm already getting through three pairs of scrundies a day because I seem to me completely unable to control my bladder 🤦🏼‍♀️ tmi I know but it's annoying me because I'm so tired and it's embarrassing really.

All the baby news I've missed is exciting and big hope givers for everyone else. I'm adopting some guinea pigs 😆

SoozC · 14/05/2018 20:50

Sorry to hear of your baby bomb, Looking. And re. your daughter's hearing loss (which I'm sorry to hear about too); I've worn aids for a few years now after suffering unexplained loss as an adult. It'll all be a bit odd for a few months but you'll all get used to the aids and her world will be TRANSFORMED! I couldn't believe it when I got mine, I was thrilled to be able to hear all the little things again! All I can say is, have her learn BSL if she wants, it's an amazing language and there are lots of job opportunities out there if she works her way up to fluent. Best do it before she gets as old as me, though, so she's not trying to qualify as an interpreter while working full time Wink If you want to chat about it all just pm me, I'm happy to talk about it. hugs

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/05/2018 20:09

@Bubblegum89. If it makes you feel better, I can relate to the drip feeding of unwanted info! My brother is a golden boy to my parents so no matter how often I say stop they will mention it and it'll be over Christmas time - how lovely Envy

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/05/2018 20:07

@Bubblegum89. My poor DD. She's such a good girl. She always tell me I'm the best lol.

Yeah some people definitely do not get it. She sent me a txt afterwards saying she "had to talk about it". She knows me and DH are trying and how much my brother and I don't get on. Why on earth does she think I'd want to know? She reckoned she told me so that I didn't find out by bumping into them - we live in different places so it would literally NEVER happen!!

Bubblegum89 · 14/05/2018 19:33

And I’m sorry to hear about your DD as well, bless her :(

Bubblegum89 · 14/05/2018 19:33

Sorry for the baby bomb Looking my horrible cousin who nobody likes (so much so my grandparents have written her out of their will) and is just generally a horrible person is pregnant and for some reason, my youngest sister feels the need to update me on it and I said to her “I’m going to stop you there, I am absolutely not interested in what that horrible cow is doing so I’d prefer it if you didn’t tell me” and she replied “you can’t just ignore what’s happening in the world” to which I told her I can and I will and I couldn’t care less if she gave birth to a three-headed demogorgon (which wouldn’t surprise me seeing as she is part-monster). People just don’t get it. I think your reaction was actually calmer than I would have been. It’s just not fair. Sending hugs x

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/05/2018 19:26

Well fanfuckingtastic! I just got baby bombed by my own fucking mother! No she's not pregnant lol but she called me to tell me that my shit head brother and his control freak of a wife are! The conversation went like this:

Her:"I HAVE to tell you something"
Me:........"Go on"
Her: "I'm going to be a granny again"
Me: "Good for you"
Her: "No, don't be like that"
Me: "I'm hanging up now because I'm not interested"

You're probably thinking that was shitty of me. My brother is one of those bell ends that does whatever the hell he likes and there are never any consequences Angry. I was also pissed because I had phoned her to tell her that I've just been told my sweet 5 year old DD has at least moderate hearing loss Sad.

I'm so fucked off.

LexieJean · 14/05/2018 11:37

Oh that’s annoying @looking- there seems to be so many colds flying around at the moment. Although hay fever too, I’m not sure which I’m suffering from!! 🤧

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/05/2018 11:32

@LexieJean. Still a O on my clear blue opk. I'm only cd13 so it's still fairly early. I think I'm getting ill which obviously isn't going to help!

LexieJean · 14/05/2018 11:20

Sorry to hear FP arrived @sparkwood

Hope you get some ovulation news @looking mine seems to be cd16 so don’t give up just yet

How are you doing @si1ver?

BGDino · 14/05/2018 03:47

@SparkwoodAnd21 @WonkyDonk87 yams can totally fuck off.

BGDino · 14/05/2018 03:46

@WonkyDonk87 current boss was heartachingly nice about it, considering I’m the second of four senior docs to go. But seeing as my current workplace is a risk to my mental health, staying is out of the question.

WonkyDonk87 · 13/05/2018 21:25

Congratulations @BGDino. Good luck with the boss-chat tomorrow

Sorry @SparkwoodAnd21 . Yams can fuck off indeed. Hope the booze is helping.

SparkwoodAnd21 · 13/05/2018 20:52

So it turns out that eating actual yams does not get you pregnant. Imagine that.

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SparkwoodAnd21 · 13/05/2018 20:26

Same old. FP arrived as I got back from a really wonderful wedding. Now I’m sad. Thank fuck there’s alcohol at home.

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 13/05/2018 20:10

@SparkwoodAnd21. What's happened? x

SparkwoodAnd21 · 13/05/2018 20:05

So it turns out....yams can fuck off 😢

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Owlpatrol · 13/05/2018 18:30

Ahhh sorry everyone having a rotten time
Join my club....cranping started today as usual cycle day 18.....probably out again Sad when will i ever be pregnant

BGDino · 13/05/2018 12:28

I went to my graduation ceremony for qualifying as a medical specialist today. Lots of babies and baby bumps about. My soon-to-be boss was there and good-heartedly teasing me about not making any more big life changes for the next 12 months (graduated, bought a house, started a research degree, going to renovate house, changing jobs, husband sitting his final exams to qualify as a surgeon all happened/happening within 12 months!), hadn’t planned on telling him but said to him quietly that that was a bit of a sore spot since we’ve been referred to a fertility specialist, as I don’t think I can smile through several more months of this kind of thing... Hubby was being all proud of me and everything today but so much of me was thinking how this all doesn’t really seem worth it if I can’t give him a child... Oh and tomorrow I get to tell my current boss that I’m planning on leaving in August...

LookingAtTheStars89 · 13/05/2018 12:15

I did a clear blue opk last night and this morning and it was just a blank circle. I got the regular digi as I can't stand that flashy face lol. I'm cd 12 but it was negative. I have had thick, clear, somewhat stretch cm and yesterday I had some ovary pain.

I know it sounds pessimistic but I really don't feel as hopeful as I thought I would on it. I've convinced myself that I'm a bit chunky so I'm not going to ovulate lol.

Chooklass · 13/05/2018 06:44

Hi @Owlpatrol , I'm not sure but interested to know too.

Owlpatrol · 12/05/2018 21:24

Hi all....im a bit frustrated my blood tests haven't came back yet and I'm sure they've got lost now! Bloody typical argh! It's because I had to go to a different hospital closer to work to have them done.

Does anyone know whether you can be tested for oestrogen dominance?

Paranormalbouquet · 12/05/2018 18:33

@Si1ver hope all went well today.

Everyone who is having a hard time try to remember it’s not your fault, it’s just really bad luck.