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12 days till lap- how do I keep going?

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 08:56

Pelvic pain has moved from left to right. Had a real good day at work yesterday, felt really positive. Got home and had the worst pelvic pain on the right side every couple of hours... even woke me up in the night which it never does.
I’m so tired of all this and I know it’s only 12 days till I get some answers but I don’t know how to cope in the meantime. I’m losing weight rapidly, my hair is falling out. I cry all the time and I’m in pain. HELP

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physicskate · 15/04/2018 12:09

No need to panic - you're in the hands of professionals. While they might not understand your level of desperation or urgency, they are there to help.

I think you're doing the right things.

Be kind to yourself.

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Kate8989 · 15/04/2018 10:31

I was just about to send you a message how spooky. I had a broken sleep but managed to get some. The pain woke me up a couple of times but I tried to reassure myself it will be ok. It’s playing me up this morning but trying to stay calm and rise above it. It’s hard when youre scared though... I’m on the verge on panicking but trying not too. X

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physicskate · 15/04/2018 10:12

Today is a new day. I'm thinking of you and hoping today is brighter.

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 21:13

They do! Sorry must have taken a little while to load, thank you for that I have copied and saved it. I’m waiting for 10pm so I can take
my next round of painkillers 😔

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 21:12

Why won't my pics post????? Grr.

12 days till lap- how do I keep going?
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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 21:11

OH yes sorry I see now x

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 21:11

Can’t see anything have sent you my email x

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 21:11

Does this work?

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 21:08

Can you email to me if I PM you?

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 21:08

Ahh! Won't work on the app... Blush

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 20:45

I can’t see anything? X

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 20:38

I friend on another thread just sent me this. I think you should do this too.



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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 20:02

I’ve had one day where it’s been as bad as this. The rest of time it’s there but I can live with it. When it gets really bad like last night and today I worry it will never go away which is why I get in a state.
I’ve had a lot of shit happen in my life and I know a lot of people have but I don’t feel I can take much more shit. This MC and daily pain is like the last straw- I’m cursed! X

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:59

You've made it this far. I think you should hang in there.

You need to make lemonade out of lemons. If you know, you can do something about it. There are always options.

You know you get in a state, but surely having made it this long, you have moments when you aren't so worked up. Don't sell yourself by making decisions you would regret when you're thinking more clearly.

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 19:47

Yes my husband knows. He’s told me to “hang in there” easier said than done

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 19:46

I don’t know how to deal with the pain. I don’t want it so I panick and get in a state. If I could manage it for 11 days I would but I’m not managing I’m getting in a state. Although it will be great to have some answers I’m also bloody petrified of being told I have something like endometriosis. I’ve always worried I have it and being given an official diagnosis scares the shit out of me. That’s also another reason I’m thinking of ending it all, I don’t want a life with endometriosis. I hate life it’s shit

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ClaraMumsnet · 14/04/2018 19:42

Hello Kate8989,

We are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers have said, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Sending strength from all at MNHQ. Flowers

physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:39

Have you talked to your husband about this? I think you should...

physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:38

I felt like I'd lost my identity. That is become 'the infertile one'. I can be in Brighton on monday. It's not a problem if you'd like some company from someone who gets it.

Help is here. And with the Samaritans.

physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:36

You won't be in pain much longer though. I know you know that what you're thinking isn't rational, and it isn't. Have you got paracetamol with codeine? I find it knocks me out. Less than two weeks, which is nothing really.

I care.

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 19:34

I’m in Brighton, that’s really kind I do have my Husband here so if I attempt something he is here x

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 19:33

I just don’t care anymore. I’ve lost my identity. I sit and wait for pain which consumes my life... I don’t want to put up with it anymore. I need knock out painkillers what I have is not enough x

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physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:32

Kate whereabouts are you?? I would be happy to come and see you and listen.

physicskate · 14/04/2018 19:27

That's not true at all. Time is a great healer - if not for your physical pain, for the emotional anguish you're going through. I've had several people who were important to me commit suicide and it leaves a whole other set of baggage for everyone left behind. Think of your other half!!!

Honestly, call Samaritans. They helped me 9 months ago when I was at my worst.

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Kate8989 · 14/04/2018 19:24

End it all

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