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Struggling to conceive

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lala04 · 02/04/2018 21:41

Hi...
I've been trying to conceive for 16 months now.

I'm really struggling at the moment. I never really thought I wanted children till I meet my current partner.
We discussed trying a few years ago and something changed in me. People always said it would. "It'll just click" people would say. But I didn't think it would be anything like that. Turns out I was wrong. Although you never expect it to be difficult or challenging when you first try. It's not something you think about.
Today part of me wishes I could turn off the feeling of wanting a baby. It's causing pressure on our amazing relationship. I really don't want it to become something horrible and stressful although I'm afraid it already has. We talk openly and honestly most of the time. It's just so hard.

Any advice is welcome.. or just to talk to anyone who is in or has been in the same boat.

L x

OP posts:
student26 · 02/04/2018 21:47

I'm sorry you're struggling. It took my partner and I a long while to conceive too. On the attempt that worked I had just had enough by that point and said that's it, I can't do this anymore. I think being resigned to it actually relaxed me more and it happened! Or it did for me anyway. I know it's not helpful and it's far easier said than done, but try and find something to do to take your mind off the waiting. Hugs.

Tisfortired · 02/04/2018 21:47

Hello, no advice I'm afraid just some solidarity. We've been trying for about 8 months now which isn't long at all in the grand scheme of things but getting more and more disheartened every month. Totally understand wanting to flick a switch and want to not want it so much. It's exhausting. For some reason I can't relax about it at all which isn't helping probably.

I hope it happens for you soonThanks

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