DH does not like my approach to TTC!

Sex once a week could mean it takes quite awhile for you to conceive. I'd try to compromise - no tracking if he's willing to up the sex to twice or three times a week.

I track like a banshee, and dh asks what's going on even though I know he feels the pressure, but we're now over the two years of ttc mark...

I took your approach but I didn’t tell my husband! Kept all my ovulation sticks etc quiet

Just relax and have sex for the next six months. You can't control everything especially when it comes to child related issues. I got pregnant loads of times through just having sex once a week.

This exact scenario happened here too. I just tracked but didn't tell him and seduced him at the correct times. And other times too! Good luck!

I'd just track and not tell him. But if you're only having sex once a week, it might be worth him learning a bit more about the process. While it's entirely possible to conceive while having sex once a week, it will most likely take a lot longer. Maybe you can agree not to track if he agrees that you can have sex 3-4 times a week!

It's tricky - this happened to us too and it was really stressful. I think ideally you would just stop using contraception and get lucky but we were quite old (37 and 40) when we started ttc so didnt have the luxury of time. I would prepare all month by temping, using opks etc then he wouldnt want sex at the 'right' times, which would drive me mad but i understand in hindsight.

I would advise you track your cycle so you know roughly the right time to ttc, but keep quiet to him and just initiate sex at the right times (as well as a few random times so its not blindingly obvious!). Maybe agree to give it 6 months and if no luck then reconsider. Ime it does suck the joy out of sex. Good luck!

When DH and I started TTC, I then checked when I was ovulating and we would have sex more often, but it wasn't planned as such.

Could you try something like that? as it may take some pressure off that you will inevitably start to feel.

Just find out when you are ovulating and have sex then , no need to tell him .

It sounds like he wants it to stay natural rather than the pressure of feeling he has to preform to a rota. Why not try to work out your ovulation times, but don't keep DP updated on it, maybe mention ' I should be ovulating in a few days' at a different point of the day then when you initiate sex don't bring up ovulation times etc.

Women have been having babies for many centuries without the use of apps. Plural?!
With my first I stopped taking the pill and ensured I was eating well, not drinking too much alcohol and took vitamins.
With my second I sometimes remembered to use ovulation sticks. Not sure it made any difference.
You may need to change your approach a bit. Eg thinking you can plan the exact birth you want. Having kids is a bit like jumping into the unknown.

No planning here either. Just came off the pill and had sex every other day. I would do that for 6 months if you have time on your side (I was pregnant in the first cycle using this way)

I would go with his way but have more sex

You’ll probably find that once you’re not on hormonal contraception anymore your body will instinctively want to have more sex when you’re at your most fertile. I imagine the pressure of having sex for the sole purpose of impregnating you will be a bit of a turn off for your H and then once the morning sickness and sore boobs kick in he won’t be getting it for a while! Try to just enjoy being a couple, romancing each other, sex for the sake of it etc and then if you need to start with the ovulation sticks and temperature taking at a later point by all means do.

Are you sure he is ready for a baby or has this come more from your desire for a family than his?

Yabu to expect your dh to perform to order. Imo it will take you longer to conceive. He will invent headaches and such like to avoid the pressure.

I took your approach.

Nearly ruined our marriage.

We decided to just stop using condoms and that was that. I don’t see the need to plan, use ovulation sticks etc from the start of ttc. As long as you are having regular sex if it’s going to happen it will.

Can't you just relax a bit for a few months and if nothing happens within, say, 6 months, then start to actively try? How old are you? Do you have time on your side?