TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

Hmmm thing is bobo the line on my OV sticks have all but disappeared?!?

@weasledee I'm no expert on bbt (a massive beginner actually!) but my understanding is that when your temp goes up and stays up for 3 days that confirms ovulation. So sounds like it's still coming for you! I would keep dtd for a few more days!
I'm cd13 and feeling like fw has arrived. I ovulated day 17 last month so a busy weekend for me! Hardly seen DH this week and we're off on holiday tomorrow so kinda glad it hasn't happened yet. Fingers crossed for us both!

No didn't get a darker line and temp has stayed low for 2 days on the run. Managed to dtd twice and might try again tonight.
Where are you up to bobo?

@weasledee what's happened with your temps and opks? Did you get darker line again? Has temp spiked?

Well done cake! I'm impressed!

Hi @peachesarenom welcome back. And Thankyou! Of course I'm hoping that I will catch next week on holiday and won't have to have the tests! Or better yet I can go back to the stupid rude doctor and be 8 weeks pregnant! I hope you manage to get some bd in before DH goes away.
@Funkyemzie it's totally normal. The trauma of losing a baby is so distressing and stays with us. I think that when we're busy and distracted it's easier to look forward. But when you're alone all the thoughts come out full pelt and can consume. It sounds like a cliche but I have found time does really heal and letting yourself feel it and grieve is important. Sending hugs.
Hugs to everyone!! Don't worry about being strong. We are all super strong. We have gone through horrible loss and are still here battling on and still trying. As someone who tried to be strong after the first loss I realised after the second that I had not processed it and it was all much harder. Take care of yourselves and be kind to yourself!!! Pep talk over! 😘
@HidCat I hope you're at 0 on Tuesday and back to normal asap.
@Cakelaur well done. What a marathon!! Hope you've had fun celebrating and fingers crossed it works this month.

Whoop! The DTD marathon is OVER!!! And I'm still alive! I've officially ovulated and I'm 3dpo! Started pineapple core from 1dpo and now I'm trying serenity progesterone cream as of today. I feel good about this cycle. There's nothing more we could have done. Plus my OH has had the best news yesterday so wE've been bloody celebrating with champagne. I am now back to my no drinking again!! Haha

@peachesarenom hi again. Sorry hubby is away over O! It's such a buggar when life doesn't fit around our cycles. I was talking to my OH the other night saying if we don't catch this cycle next cycle is going to be a pain!! I'm gonna have to travel into central London every night, DTD and come home to take care of our new puppy! Haha!
@Funkyemzie sorry you're having a hard time of it. I found I'd break down ALOT!!! Up until about two weeks ago it was practically every day. The last two weeks I think my hormones have levelled out a bit and I've started to accept the MC and I've started to move on from it and actually see a future. Before now it was just all I thought about. I'm now on cycle 3 since mc.
@HidCat I did that as well. Booked two weeks off over EDD to go to france. Didn't want to be here at all.

@Funkyemzie bloods came back at 31 last Wednesday and then had spontaneous bleed mid coitus Tuesday night which carried on until lunchtime yesterday. I'm calling it CD1 though it stopped very quickly, but quite a bit came out initially. Seems to have eased my mind a little just thinking of it that way lol though a 1 day period seems a bit optimistic and I know we may have just "irritated the cervix". Got to do a HPT on Tuesday and call EPU with the results so will use a FRER to be on the safe side. Cheapies are negative now. Just hoping that cycles get back to normal quickly again. Stocked up on OPKs ready to start from next week!

I've had odd days where it hits me like a tonne of bricks still so don't feel that you're alone on that. I've booked 2 weeks off work around my EDD so I don't have to worry about that affecting work again though they've been brilliant and I still have days where I struggle though it is definitely getting easier. I had a voucher for a spa day for Christmas so going to use that but I know it will be weird as it was supposed to be for a pregnancy based spa day and I haven't had the strength to book it yet in case it sets me off. Hoping we'll get pregnant in the next few months and then it may not be so bad. 🤞

@Funkyemzie it's not just you. I had a bit of a breakdown yesterday and couldn't work out why I was so sad, then just burst into tears when my husband came home & realised it was all mc related pain still. I feel I should have moved on by now but also realise that's ridiculous as I'm also only just post first AF after MC. I guess it all takes time, so we've got to be patient with ourselves.
Sounds like we're in a similar place although I'm CD 6 & starting opk testing tomorrow. Also really hope the post mc high fertility myth is true 🤞. Good luck!

Hi everyone, just checking in, I haven't read through all the posts yet, I will though!

Just a quick update, CD8 today after my first af after MC. Is it normal that I'm still getting times that I completely break down, it's normally while I'm cleaning or doing the dishes on my own.

I've started to get the faintest of lines on my opks so dtd tonight and planning on the next couple of nights. Not really an issue for us as we're quite 'active' anyway. I so hope the myths about being super fertile after an MC are true.

@Hidcat how are you doing lovely, did you get your bloods back yet?

I hope everyone is doing ok and those going through bad times, my heart goes out to you through this awful point in your life. Xxx

I'm back! Cycle 2 post 1st AF post mc. Lots of stress at work, finding it difficult to concentrate on DTD during this fertile week and hubby away for expected ovulation! Typical!

Hi ApplesTheHare I'd get second opinion, is that possible?

Hi Boboelephant good luck with all the tests.

@BabynameEdie yep I'm trying it all now. It took a year after my EP to fall again (which ended in MMC) and I really don't want to wait that long again! Unfortunately I have longer cycles so feel like I'm always waiting! I started fertility acupuncture last month which I enjoy. Didn't fall first time but my cycle was shorter and it helped back pain so fingers crossed it works this month! Fingers crossed for both our weekends!! Good luck with your house move.

Thanks @Cakelaur that's good to know!
Hope all is well with you x

@BabynameEdie your cycle is very similar to mine.
I have 26days, ov cd 14 and 12 day LP.
Like @Boboelephant said... as long as you have more than 10day LP then bub can implant fine.
@Primrose16 I'm so pleased they're going to test you. No one should have to go through the losses you have and not be referred. No idea how long it takes but hopefully soon.

@Boboelephant oooh acupuncture? I haven't done that...and I really will try anything! (Yoga classes start next week!)
Also my pregnancy that I lost happened while on holiday, so here's to your holiday!!
I'm CD6 but according to my bbt chart, FW starts tomorrow. We're also moving house tomorrow & Friday though!

@BabynameEdie haha you are definitely not alone with that obsession! My work organised therapy for me after my latest loss and my therapist keeps telling me to stop googling!!! 🤣🤦‍♀️ CD12 here and entering fw too. Thankfully we are going on holiday on Friday so I really hope this does help!!! Just had acupuncture tonight so uterus is ready!

@Laney79 Am just catching up with the posts and am so sorry to hear your story. This place has been a wonderful support to me recently. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 8 weeks in middle of Feb and it's the hardest, saddest and most harrowing experience I've ever been through. But this really has been a lifeline.
I'm going to try and catch up on where you are at the moment by reading through the posts but just wanted to say welcome and you're not alone 💜

@ApplesTheHare thanks for your message. So sorry to hear you've been waiting so long for af to arrive after mc. I can't imagine how frustrating that must be. And yep I've heard too that holidays and not worrying = pregnancy but it's almost impossible to make yourself feel relaxed. Although a friend of mine did start yoga and meditation classes and she thinks it really did help lead to her little baby. Who knows. Try anything eh!
@Boboelephant thanks. I hope so. Am terrible at googling everything. I think I have an addiction to google!! How are you? Where are you at at the moment?
Am hoping it's almost FW here..here we go again🤞

Fingers crossed @Laney79
@BabynameEdie I'm not an expert but I think they usually say short cycles are a problem if your luteal phase is super short. Like less than 10 days as it can take 12 days for egg to implant. If yours is 13 I should think it would be fine.
@ApplesTheHare it's so hard. I hear stories all the time about when people relax and take a holiday, bang they get pregnant. But can I relax and stop worrying? No! So it's definitely easier said than done!

@Primrose16 I'm glad you are doing ok. All things considered. Also glad the doc is paying attention. My GP referred me to a gynae specialist at the hospital and I was lucky to get an appointment in three weeks. I had the bloods taken there and will go back 7dpo to get the others. The pelvic US is booked for 4 weeks. That is partly because he requested a particular person and she's away. But I don't get results until appt in 7 weeks so that wasn't a problem. They are going to check my ovaries and my egg reserve then so that's good.

Stay strong Laney79 I hope everything happens as quickly and as peacefully as possible for you

BabynameEdie you're so right about there always being something to worry about. I hope you can get started this weekend!

I saw the GP today because AF still isn't back properly after 5 months and she was sympathetic but said that because I've been pregnant before the best thing to do is just dtd every few days and try and forget about it. She said the thing she'd prescribe if she could for ttc is a holiday. I don't know how to feel...

Thanks all for your kind wishes, experiences and advice-I don't know what idve done without these forums this past week or so. Really is comforting to know I'm not alone.

Having some cramps this eve so guiltily hoping this might be it.

Keep your fingers crossed for me-I'm desperately hoping next weds they'll say I've MC and its complete...then I can try and move forward, and hopefully get on the TTC train. Huge thanks and hugs to all xxx

@laney79 sorry for ur loss it's horrible thing to go through! I had miscarriage in Feb aswell would of been 7 weeks nearly. Started bleeding so new something was up & went for scan at epu & had passed all of it already so they just signed me off. No need to go bk which was a good thing as far as it can be good! Got negative test bout week later when bleeding stopped. Never had Any pains during miscarriage & bleeding wasn't very heavy. So not as bad as some ppl get. Got period bk after 29 days an trying to conceive again now! Just bought some ovulation tests this week so gonna start testing as soon as they get here! Think should be ovulating this weekend.🤞 Good luck trying again hopefully will be lots of sticky babies for us all soon! 🌈

Hello everyone sorry haven't been chatting much, work went a bit crazy.
Loved @Cakelaur post on temp charts thank you! So helpful.

Any thoughts on whether I'm in trouble with these stats.. I didn't realise cycle was so short but according to my natural cycles app...
Cycle length 24-26 days
Follicular phase 11-13 days
Ovulation cd 12-14
Luteal phase 13 days
Have just done lots of reading about shorter cycles being harder to catch sticky beans and now worrying. Of course...always need something to worry about while waiting for FW!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Primrose16
My gp gave me blood forms that I picked up later that day- my go surgery doesn't do blood so I have to go to the local hospital blood labs in first 4 day of period and then day 21 for progesterone
She also scheduled me for a pelvic US and that was for about 8 weeks later

I am still however waiting for the referral to the RMC to come through but I was told that could take at least 8 weeks

Hope yours is quicker!