TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

@tefiti oh no I’m so sorry for your loss! Sending you virtual hugs I was also told that they wouldn’t look into it any further unless I had 3 MC’s. I’m thinking about calling on Monday as I’ve now had a MC at 12 weeks and one chemical (possibly two) all in a row and I’m pretty worried. It can’t harm to ask, if they say no, they say no but hopefully they can be helpful instead. So sorry you’re going through this again, I also got a few faint positives last week then started bleeding it’s so disappointing and upsetting x

@Tefiti2 I’m sorry for your loss. After my second miscarriage I went to the gp and was told that there was no support as 2 can be ‘normal’. Luckily my 3rd pregnancy resulted in my daughter. After another 2 the doctor has referred me. I would say no harm asking. Mine said no after 2 but you never know x

@tefiti2 so sorry you are going through this again! I'm so scared that if I get pregnant again this will happen and I don't think I would cope aswell as the 1st one! Think it's horrible how the doctors just expect you to move on with no tests till 3rd miscarriage! Hope your feeling alright! Big hugs x

Hi (again) lovely ladies. Had an early MC in Feb and got my BFP last week, but started bleeding heavily and have lost all symptoms this morning, gutted to have had two early losses in a row and feeling disheartened but more determined than ever! Has anyone else experienced this? I understand the GP won’t refer until after 3 losses - is that right?

@peachesarenom I wish that was the case.

Primrose16 I love/hate my husband too! Maybe give it an hour and it'll be love again?

Fingers crossed @Martydog!
@Cakelaur haha! Baby Bobo Tenerife.... I have everything with me. Vitamins, seeds, supplements, thermometer and about 50 opks so shouldn't miss it. The housekeeping must think I'm nuts!! 🤣🤣
Thanks @hayleyfx and @DaisyMay25!!! 🌞🌞
@Primrose16 I'm sorry. Things sound shit. Sending hugs x

@Cakelaur omg for fluffy!!! Hopefully these two weeks fly by fit you so you can have puppy cuddles soon, a very different TWW!

@hayleyfx hope you had a good holiday! Did AF turn up in the end?

@Boboelephant sending some baby dust over to Tenerife for you! Enjoy your holiday, hopefully a nice holiday is just the thing needed this month for you!

So just noticed that I have some EWCM, I would get on it. But I fucking hate my husband!!! I feel so bloody emotional because he is a knobhead, because I wanted to give my body a break, but a part of me didn’t as what if this is my month to get a sticky one and I didn’t try. Ah well nothing I can do- did I mention that I hate my husband!!!!!! 😡

Laney79 I have that too. You should take it from now xxx

Thanks for the advice/experience ladies. Trying to look forward rather than focus on the limbo I'm on at the mo.

GP has prescribed higher strength folic acid on the basis it won't do me any harm-but I didn't ask if I should take it now or wait until after the MC is complete...any ideas?

@xLeanne128 I’m sorry for your loss, I hope you get your rainbow this month
@Bobo oh Tenerife really is lovely right now, just got home at 12am last night and missing the sun so much already lol! Hope you have a great holiday!
@Cakelaur he is absolutely gorgeous 😍

Aww Cakelaur you've made my day. I've just joined the dog spotting society on facebook and it's amazing!!!

@Boboelephant what a great setting for making a baby! Middle name Tenerife 😝
If I go away I always ov later that expected haha. Which of course (before temping) made me think I was 100% pregnant! 🙈

@peachesarenom as requested. A pic of our boy. This time in two weeks we'll be picking him up! 😍
@Martydog I temp. So my dpo is from temp shift. But I think most go from the day after positive opk.
@Beck1988 looks like it's you,me @Martydog in the TWW babe!!
I've just had my last pineapple core day. Progesterone cream is being used twice a day. Not sure I'm seeing much difference in my temps. But I defo feel better for using it. #placeboeffect

@laney79 I had a mmc from first initial spotting to actually mc it took just over three weeks. I let nature take its course. Then it was 2 weeks after that I had a negative test. I'm now about 6 weeks pregnant (I think) but nhs are dating me from mc so around 8 weeks. Everyone is different though but thought I'd share my experience.

Thanks @boboelephant. My surge was Thursday afternoon and EWCM dried up mostly yesterday so today is dpo 1 then! Which means if we get pregnant this cycle the bean will be due on my birthday!

@Martydog after your postive opk it then takes 12-48 hours for the egg to release. So you may ov day after pos but it may also be day after that. If you don't temp or get ov pain prob safe to count 1dpo as 3 days after your surge. Another good sign is that your EWCM should dry up as soon as you've ovulated.

@Laney79 so sorry you're having such a tough time. It really is awful. Hope it's over soon. I don't know about the pills as I had an ERPC but I know there was no bloods for the second scan. The doc told us they aren't accurate because even if the heartbeat has stopped, the placenta keeps growing and that's what gives the hcg reading. Also I took a test 16 days later and it was negative. Ovulated 3 days later and af 14 days after that. I'd try and wait 2 weeks if you can.
@HidCat agghh so annoying!! Do sorry this is dragging on for you.
@Claire138 after my ectopic i didn't tell anyone. I'd never met anyone who had one and I didn't even know what it was before I had it. Then when I had the MMC all the pent up emotions from the last loss came barrelling out too making it even harder. So now I'm determined not to internalize all my pain. I now either tell people the whole story, say to people that we are trying but have had some losses, or just simply yes we would love another. That seems to do the trick. Good luck whatever you decide.
@DaisyMay25 sorry for the bfn.
@Beck1988 and @Cakelaur good luck for the TWW.
@xLeanne128 welcome and I'm sorry for your loss.
@Peachesarenom hopefully the rainbow was a good omen. And you're welcome. 😀
Thanks for the holiday wishes folks!! We arrived last night and the sun is lovely!! Lots of EWCM this morning and a pretty dark line on opk (not positive yet) so good sign I'm on track for ov on Monday. This is great as DH was hardly home last week so bd'ing only started yesterday. Unfortunately for our hotel neighbours our noisy bed bangs into their wall!! 🤣 Too bad, we've got a baby to make!!! 🤣🤣

When you are counting dpo do you say the day after your surge on ovulation sticks as day one?

Laney79 I think take your time, I wasn't on an even keel till my first AF post mc. I'm so sorry you're gking through this.

Hi all hope I can join. MC in January and if this cycle doesn't work it's onto month 6 for me :( positive opk yesterday on cd21 which is early for me we dtd yesterday but hubby is away now until Monday night so not looking good :( trying to stay optimistic. Goodluck all and hope you're all ok xx

So hubby has been away for work, left yesterday and wont be back till late on monday so obvs just got a peak on cbfm!!!

So I'm putting all my faith in a 🌈 I saw with my husband on thursday night pre bding!

Funkyemzie totally normal. 3 months on I still get it. I was in so much shock when it first happened.

Cakelaur I hope this is your month! Please post a pic of your puppy, it always cheers me up.

Boboelephant thank you for always welcoming me back! I hope you're enjoying your hols with lots of bding

@Laney79 I had a D&C and finally got a negative test 17 days afterwards. I'm now on day 22 and have just got a static smiley on the CB digital OPK.

I think it varies from person to person. I would hold out for as long as I can if I were you - I started testing early and nearly drove myself insane with it. It's horribly frustrating - I really feel for you.

Morning ladies... I'm 5dpo and dying already!!! Haha!!! 5 more days til test day!! Anyone in the TWW???

@Laney79 sorry you're still testing +. I can't offer much advice as I had Erpc. But for what it's worth after the op it took two full weeks to get negative and then I ovulated exactly one week later. Fingers crossed it all ends soon for you.